Lesson 4
Psychological Nutrition Affirmation Praise Identity and Model
1, affirmation, praise, identification
Affirmation, praise, identification
3-6-year-old children have just become independent people. They need to establish self-awareness at this time, but they are still too young to define themselves. They do not know what is right and what is incorrect. Therefore, they are particularly needed to affirm, praise, and identification from fathers. At this time, compared with mothers, the affirmation and praise of fathers will be more effective.
The impact of affirmation, praise and recognition on children
Positive evaluation from parents will let children know what kind of person they are, and will establish the correct outlook on life, self-image, and gender identity for children . But if parents always criticize their children and label them as stupid and ignorant, it is essentially a negative recognition.
How to make up for affirmation, praise and recognition?
Wang's three-way method: A+B+C
Timely and face-to-face affirm, praise, and identify with the child: A+B+C. The meaning of this sentence is that has no control, but only affirm and praise for the correct behavior of the child.
Example: Dad turned off the TV after seeing you 30 minutes (A) , you are such a punctual and trustworthy child (B) , I am happy for you (C) .
Principles of language expression
Principle 1: In language, you must affirm, praise, and agree with what the children have done. Principle 2: When expressing language, pay attention to the specific process of children's work rather than the result.
Principle 3: Manipulate children with no affirmation, praise and recognition
(Error example: Dad/mother is very happy when you do this)
Principle of non-verbal expression
In different occasions, different body language often express their affirmation, praise, and recognition of children, such as patting the shoulder, patting the head, giving a positive smile, eyes, etc.
Activities, affirmative praise and recognition of gifts
accompanying children to do some activities that children like is also a kind of affirmative praise and recognition; it does not make a prior agreement to treat gifts as a condition for something, but the child does it and does it well, and gives it to the child as an encouragement and reward.
2, Model
Model
Model
The psychological nutrition that children need most when they are 6-7 years old. At this time, the brain will take pictures and record the speech and behavior of important others like the recorder . At this time, the child is about to enter society and has no experience. Therefore, he needs to learn from how to survive in society and how to deal with things . At this time, important people in the child will be prolonged, and teachers, celebrities or others in the school will also have an impact on the child's behavior.
The impact of model on children
Children will learn from important others how to solve problems, deal with emotions, and interpersonal relationships . If parents cannot become models as important others for their children, the child will look for the person he thinks is important others, for example, it is easy to catch stars during adolescence.
How to be a good example for children?
Parents are positive and optimistic in facing problems
Parents should first set an example in solving problems and face difficulties with a positive and optimistic and end-of-suffering attitude to affect their children.
Parents do a good job in emotional management
Parents do their own emotional management in the details of life, learn to release emotions, so that their children can learn to manage their emotions well.
Parents handle interpersonal relationships well
Practice and replace speaking with practical actions to influence their children, such as caring for friends more and giving gifts to friends more. How to strengthen the influence of exemplary behavior?
Become an important person for children
Children will only learn from important people
Set an example
Education exists in life, and every small detail in life is seen in the child and will learn it. Therefore, parents must set an example.
Give enough companionship
Parents need to spend enough time with their children. If they don’t have time to accompany their children for a long time, the children will be confused because they cannot see important others.
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