I have heard a lot of such words:
"My child becomes stupider the older he gets. He was very smart when he was a child."
"Why do you feel that the child's reaction has slowed down recently and his brain seems to have become stupid too?"
In the eyes of many parents, children are getting more and more "stupid".
In fact, it is not that the child is really not smart, but that he is lazy for a long time and has no good learning habits, which ultimately leads to "accumulating laziness into stupidity".
Children are not unwise, they are more lazy to learn
Before, a teacher friend shared something in her class.
She checked several knowledge points that the students repeatedly emphasized during class, and found that Xiao A, who was absent-minded, asked one of them, and Xiao A "can't do it".
She didn't want to delay class, so she asked Xiao A to go to the office to ask her to recite during class.
In the office, she asked Xiao A to memorize the knowledge point again, but Xiao A said with her eyes straight:
"I'm stupid, I can't memorize it."
This child is usually lively and quick-responsive. Now, in order to deal with her, she actually says she is a "stupid". She is really angry and funny.
How can there be so many stupid children in this world? What's more, Xiao A is not stupid at all.
In reality, there are very few people who are particularly smart and stupid, and most children have similar intelligence.
What really opens up the gap between children is continuous efforts and good habits.
And most children's "stupidity" is developed by laziness.
This is "absorbing lazy and becoming stupid".
The so-called "absorbing laziness becomes stupid" means that children are too lazy to learn and think for a long time. Over time, their thinking becomes slower and their studies cannot keep up, and their grades will naturally become worse and worse.
is like a human brain, which follows the mechanism of "use and use, waste and retreat". The more diligent you are thinking and applying, the more flexible you are; and the more lazy you are not using your brain, it will be like a gradually rusting chain, becoming more and more difficult to operate.
If a person is lazy for a long time and does not have good learning habits, he will eventually be able to suffer the consequences and become a real fool.
Those "stupid" children are being dragged down by laziness
"Accumulating laziness into stupidity" phenomenon is becoming more and more common. The reason is that these two types of laziness are at work.
A is a lazy behavior.
Don’t listen carefully in class, don’t take notes, don’t want to do your homework or delay until the end before writing, and hold your phone when you get home.
Another type is laziness in thinking.
Take notes desperately in class, but basically don’t use your brain; do only simple questions when doing homework, and say you can’t do it when you encounter difficult problems; staying up late to study, but the results are not satisfactory.
These two types of laziness are dragging down the children step by step.
"Flash lazy people in the middle school entrance examination, stupid people in the college entrance examination, and stupid people in the college entrance examination, they deserve to be swiped."
"Double reduction and double reduction, junior high school makes you not need to make up for it, but it is useless to make up for it in high school."
sounds very heartbreaking, but that's the truth.
Once laziness becomes a habit, too lazy to think or be too lazy to be serious, it will seriously affect learning.
Many parents think that it is enough to strictly supervise their children, but they do not know that superficial laziness is easy to detect, while deep laziness is difficult to detect.
It is obvious that the child is studying hard, why can’t he achieve his grades?
Why do children always lose points when doing exam questions?
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Because of their efforts, they are all "fake efforts"!
seems to have used twelve points of effort, but he is not good at writing and is confused and has extremely low learning efficiency. The actual gain may be only half of other people.
only knows rote memorization without thinking. All efforts are just a show. When you reach the senior grade, you will be more and more difficult to learn.
Only by combining knowledge with thinking can we truly touch on the essence of learning.
Like the writer Lin Qingxuan said:
"Good children are children who have awakened the seeds in their hearts. They recognize themselves. Bad children have not awakened the seeds, have not recognized themselves, and they still live in a daze."
Only by awakening the seeds in their hearts can children get rid of "pseudo-diligence" and gain real knowledge.
Behind every lazy child, there are parents who are "offside"
Just like "stupid" is not born, and many children are not born lazy.
The child's "lazy accumulation becomes stupid" is inseparable from the improper educational methods of parents.
Some parents completely let their children go without regard, but they do not know that this is the greatest cruelty to their children.
I remembered a conversation in the TV series " Family with Children ":
Liu Xing's mother: When I was a child, I signed you up for an art class. I wanted you to learn, but you don't learn it yourself!
Liu Xing : Hey, I don’t want to learn, so you won’t let me learn! I was still young at that time and I was not sensible. Are you not sensible either? You should cultivate and educate me since childhood...
There are also some parents who pursue "accompany" education and want to arrange everything for their children.
From the time the child was young to the time he grew up to marrying and having children, he took care of everything.
Help the child clean up his schoolbag, tidy up his room and toys, so the child is always lost. He forgot to bring this, and forgot to take it.
Over-support will only make the child feel that "this is my mother's and it's not my business."
When the child is doing his homework, the parents are staring at the tutoring side. When the child encounters something he doesn’t know, he just turns to ask his parents.
In this way, how can children learn to actively learn and think independently?
American early childhood educator Kates once proposed a theory called "habitual stupidity", that is, children will have doubts about learning for some reason during the learning process, thus losing self-confidence.
The "some reason" mentioned here mostly comes from certain practices and wrong habits of parents, making children become more and more stupid.
Parents' "offside" and "misplacement" are the root cause of children's laziness.
Cultivate good habits so that you will not "accumulate laziness into stupidity"
The famous educator Ye Shengtao said:
"The essence of education is to cultivate habits."
The difference between children in primary school is ultimately the difference in learning habits.
Children's period, especially in the lower grades of primary school, is a critical period for children to develop habits. No matter how painful this process is, parents must strictly demand their children and do their best to help them develop good learning habits.
Some children are procrastinating and inefficient in their work. What parents need to do is to help their children formulate scientific time plans, clarify deadlines, and do what they do today. Cherish time and never procrastinate.
2. The habit of focusing on learning
Focus is the common feature of most excellent children, but most children are curious and often find it difficult to focus on learning. Parents can create a quiet and tidy learning environment for their children to better train their concentration.
3. The habit of thinking is diligently
Aristotle said: "Thinking starts with questions and surprises."
Parents should protect their children's curiosity, encourage their children to ask more questions, be good at asking questions, and use heuristic questions to stimulate their children's desire to think, so as to promote their children's positive thinking.
4. The habit of independence and self-reliance
"Just study, don't worry about anything else." Children who are educated like this may not be the best in their studies.
Children are overly dependent on their parents in life and it is difficult for them to be independent in their studies.
Let the child organize his schoolbag and room by himself, and let the child complete his homework independently is the wise love for his children.
Parents must let their children understand: only those who study hard can have the right to choose the future!
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