"Xiuxiu, the teacher said that my daughter was not focused and was distracted in class. Do you know how to improve her concentration?"
Seeing this question, I thought, if you want to know what to do, then you must first know why?
Continue to discuss with her, what are the manifestations? She said, "The math teacher said that writing papers is very slow, without the concept of time, and she is distracted in class frequently. The Chinese teacher said it is okay, but she is just lazy."
I continued to take her to explore "What do you think is the reason for writing papers slow?"
"She is not skilled and unwilling to overcome them. I think she is unwilling to face difficulties when encountering difficulties."
"When do you think a person is willing to face difficulties and challenge difficulties?"
She was speechless for a moment.
The answer is that when a person is confident and thinks he can do it, he will have the strength to face difficulties in his heart. Of course, this also requires courage. Courage is a very important quality for a person, and this also requires us to cultivate children.
In addition, only after overcoming difficulties will children be more willing to overcome difficulties and challenge difficulties!
So self-confidence is the foundation, so where does a child’s self-confidence come from? From the sight and affirmation of him by his parents. Go and see every little progress your child has made.
Courage is a quality. Courage is not about not feeling afraid, but about moving forward with fear. When the child does this, tell her, child, you are a courageous child!
Speaking of this, the problem shows little by little that children are unwilling to overcome or face difficulties when encountering them. It is a very important mental model for children. has not been established!
"What should children do when encountering difficulties?" This is a mental model. It determines whether the children face or escape. "Difficult problems are to broaden the boundaries of our abilities!" Parents must have this understanding. The reason why we grow is because our abilities are constantly improved in solving problems, so that we will make progress. When children encounter difficulties, tell their children, congratulations, your child, you have the opportunity to improve and improve again!
She said, "Apart from homework headaches, other places are still OK." Here, you need to pay more attention to the aspects of your children's learning, such as communicating more with your children. Are there any problems with your studies? How about mathematics, how about Chinese, how about teachers?
Speaking of this, she said, "I did a bad job here. I didn't calm down. I was busy with my own affairs. When he encountered problems, I was unwilling to help her. I complained that she didn't listen carefully in class. It seems that I have many problems."
Children are not gods. We adults may still not understand after a class!
Finally, she said, I treat my daughter more like an adult, and my heart is too impetuous.
Here, she saw her high expectations for her daughter and her impatientness. After sorting out
, my mother also saw the problems she had, which was like. Children are the mirror of parents. Through their children's performance, we can see where we have not done enough, and our parents will also grow and improve.
Yes, raising children means taking a snail for a walk. It is precisely because of the arrival of the children that parents' internal strength increases, and for the sake of the children, they correct themselves and improve themselves!
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