Author: Zhao Xiaoming Editor: Yang Liyun
Xiaoming Quotes
In terms of the psychological development of people, psychoanalysis conducted a lot of observations and case studies in the early stage. It is found that the establishment of a person's sense of security is actually before the age of three, especially the Object Relationship School believes that the establishment of a person's sense of security is mainly about June, when you have to eat enough milk, be well cared for and fed, etc.
01 has five important factors that have a relatively important impact on human destiny
These five important factors are divided into two categories:
first category, before was born;
second category, after was born;
before was born;
inherited factors, and after was born, it was the factors of the environment of .
The stable effect of genetic factors in a person's life is at least 50% or above.
environment factors are divided into two categories .
first category, family .
The influence within the family is divided into two categories: The first category is the influence of native family proposed by the psychoanalytic school, and the second category is the influence of family social class status on people.
second category, outside the family . Outside the family, it mainly refers to the influence exerted by peers, teachers, and some special people in society on you.
02 Influencing factors in the family
Regarding the psychoanalysis, the impact in the family is divided into two categories .
first category, Before the age of three The most important psychological task for children is sense of security . is mainly an important guardian with his important guardian, usually the attachment relationship formed by his mother .
second category, is around three to six years old. Another important psychological development task for children, mainly refers to the triangle relationship , which is a model of the intimate relationship formed between the child and the mother and father, especially and sexual desire.
Because Freud believes that human sexual appeal is also called the driving force of sexuality, and like other living things, it is the most important driving force.
Freud believes that there are actually two most important driving forces for people, one is the driving force for survival and the other is the driving force for sex.
The driving force of sex is very important for a human life.
Because during the peak period of sex, the happy hormone secreted by the brain and the amount of this reward brought to people are of the highest level.
People who are addicted to drugs basically overlap in the pleasure center of the brain and the pleasure center of the person during the peak of sex. This shows that the brain's impulse to sex and the sexual driving force gives a very high reward mechanism.
It is precisely because of this that Freud believed that at the age of three to six, the triangular relationship between children, father and mother formed by the driving force of sexual intercourse is decisive on the intimate relationship of a person throughout his life.
03 Time series of a person's psychological and physiological development
Someone asked a question: The impact of the original family on people proposed by the psychoanalysis school has actually ended before the age of six. So will it not affect after the age of six?
Regarding this issue, I want to explain to you here that human psychological development is the same as human physical development. It has time series .What determines the time series of
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is actually determined by our gene, when and what kind of fragment is our gene, so that this fragment will dominate at a certain age stage, and then another fragment will be opened at the next age stage, which has a very obvious time series.
This point has many basis and proofs in psychology, physiology .
has some inheritance of serious mental illnesses, and even has age.
For example, parents or immediate relatives, what age was they at that time? The probability of children inheriting this psychotic attack at this age is also very high, and it is also time-serial.
There are also psychological research that, for example, if a child misses a critical period of language development, after this stage, it will be difficult for him to learn to speak.
Because in history, many children who grew up with animals, such as monkey kids and wolf kids, were found in their teens, and people found him and then gave him any kind of education, including speaking, in human ways, and it was difficult for him to learn.
This shows that many people's psychological developments have time series , which is the same as physical development.
For example, people will develop teeth at a certain stage, but after this stage, the teeth will not grow even if they supplement calcium, because the time series stops.
gene fragments are like a very long chain. At which age stage, the first chain is opened, and the second, third and fourth are to turn on these switches in sequence according to the time series.
For example, the inherited parents' hypertension or coronary heart disease , or a serious genetic disease, will not attack without the age, and it is very typical time series.
04 Early research on psychological development in psychoanalysis
For human psychological development, many observations and case studies were conducted in the early stage of psychoanalysis.
They found that the establishment of a person's sense of security is actually mainly before the age of three, especially the Object Relationship School believes that a person's sense of security is mainly established in about six months, for example, he must have sufficient breastfeeding, he must be fully cared for and fed, etc.
Freud believed that the age of three to six is a peak period for human sex hormone development, and at this time, children will easily form a model of intimate relationships related to sexual desire.
That is to say, people have different psychological characteristics at different ages, and their sensitive period has different importance .
Some age stages are extremely sensitive, and it is easy to form some models at this stage. Although it will have an impact after this stage, it will not be as sensitive as before.
For example, in the object relationship school, there is a branch called autopsychology , represents the character Kohut . He found that children are about one year old is a critical period for forming narcissism . At this stage, everyone should focus on him. He has a need to to be arrogant and boast about , and a need to centralized .
05 Important nodes for personality development
A lesson I have told you before is called Important nodes for personality development , which means There are important time nodes for personality and people's psychological development at different ages.
For example, a child is not fully cared for before he is three years old. After he is three years old, he is eleven or eleven years old. Even if his family is with him every day, giving him a full sense of security. Can he make up for his lack of security before he is three years old? It's not possible, this is the task of human psychological development with time nodes.
At this stage, if the task is not completed, after the child is three years old, he enters kindergarten and then enters elementary school, the child may have a better academic performance in elementary school. The school may give him a centralized compensation. The child feels very narcissistic in school, but the narcissism in school cannot completely make up for the shortcomings of not being centralized enough from the family before the age of three and not being fully narcissistic.
06 The influence of companions outside the family
At this point, everyone understands why people often hear people say that the original family hurt him, but the examples of harm he mentioned are all at least after the age of seven. Because before he was seven years old, he couldn't remember these earlier things at all.
Before the age of three, especially six months ago, if the mother can hold the child to feed him enough every day, in fact, a person's basic sense of security is enough at this time.
After the age of seven, it is no longer a period of needing to fully satisfy the sense of security, because the sensitive period for establishing a sense of security has passed, and now the important thing is actually in the stage of growth of peers .
Results Many people say that when I was seven or eight years old, eleven or eleven, why did my mother treat me badly, why did my father treat me badly, etc.
At this time, the important psychological development of a person is not within the family, but outside the family, and the important thing is in the influence of peers. This is why many people say that their original family hurt him, and what he said is not enough to cause harm and trauma to him.
Then why do many people still say that the original family hurt him, how could they come to such a conclusion? The following is a secret.
Xiao Ming Quotes
Freud believes that human sexual appeals are also called the driving force of sexuality, which is the most important driving force that humans and other living things are the same. There are actually two most important driving forces for a person, one is the driving force for survival and the other is the driving force for sexuality.
Original public account: Heart Partner (ID: xhbeap)
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