A strong woman who is only a 40-year-old mother is asked what kind of person she wants her child to be.
She said she had just discussed this issue with her husband, and she thought that is the first, so she must be able to play. Her husband thought that what she said was "being able to fight" was to become a strong woman and a tomboy like her. She explained that what she said was literally good at playing, and she must ask her daughter to register Taekwondo and Judo . She believes that she only has a daughter at this age, and she must have been with her for a short time, so she hopes that her daughter will learn to protect herself first. Don’t be like the Tangshan incident, where four girls were carried around like little chickens and beaten like that.
After listening to it, was her husband worried that his daughter would still get married? She explained that this man she dared not marry means she was very weak inside. Or this man is a scumbag or a domestic violence body. The principle we can fight is that no one will offend me, and I will not offend others.
Second, she said that although her husband has prepared a school district house, she is not going to let her daughter study, and in the future she will still have to let her daughter get closer to her company and living area, and she does not want to make trouble because of a child. And I don’t think that if you enter a good school district, you will definitely be able to take the entrance exam for Tsinghua and Peking University. This is talented and is determined by genes. Acquired education is definitely related, but it can play a limited role. There is no need to make yourself exhausted, and your child is under great pressure. Just let it go naturally. No matter how bad it is, it will be no big deal. Just have basic higher education, so it’s enough.
Third, do three independence, economic independence, spiritual independence, and soul independence.
Economic independence : Although I have given my daughter relatively good material conditions, I will not tell her before she becomes an adult that girls can make money themselves, and financial independence is better than anything else. This is the best guarantee for her.
People Independent : Cultivate her own ability to make independent judgments and unique thinking skills since childhood.
Soul Independence : Don’t talk about men, parents should not rely on them. She will only be 40 years old. She will accompany her many years less than parents of her peers. If the soul is not independent, how can she be assured of her parents after they leave? She can’t get out of it herself, so she has to tell her since childhood that her life is an independent individual and she must enjoy her life. And this happiness should not be changed by the departure of any role, whether it is the departure and coming of your boyfriend.
These views are exactly the same as me. If I can follow these three points without errors, I will definitely be able to raise someone who is not troubled or afraid of trouble, has thoughts, economics, understands the meaning of my life, and can quickly digest the joys and sorrows of life.
do you think? What kind of person do you want your children to be? Is it urgent for him/her to fulfill your unrealistic dream in life, or is it possible for him/her to live a happy, healthy and calm life?
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