There are only mothers in the world. A mother’s child is like a treasure. If you want to say who loves children the most in the world, it is definitely the mothers. After all, it was all my mother who worked hard to conceive for ten months, so how could she not love the flesh that fell on her body? To be honest, as long as the children need it, even if they go up and down the sea of fire, mothers will be fearless. But love is love, and excessive efforts are not only thankless, but may also be counterproductive and ruin the parent-child relationship.
How to measure excessive effort? For example, this matter has filled your heart with grievances and turned into a kind of self-sacrifice, which is excessive dedication. This kind of pressure will make everyone around you very painful, and it will also have a lot of impact on your children.
For example: 1. It is difficult to be independent. Like many mama boys and mama girls nowadays, everything is done by parents and is controlled everywhere. It is not that the children do not want to be independent, but that the parents deprive their children of their right to be independent. Sometimes we parents should learn to be a little selfish so that our children can grow up faster.
2. Increases the psychological burden on children. Many mothers often tell their children that they cannot go to work because they have to pick up and drop off their children to school. Some people also told their children that they cannot divorce in order to give you a complete family... All this will make the children feel that they are the source of all these misfortunes. If they were not themselves, would they be happier? What parents say for their children is actually just touching themselves, but they make the children feel guilty and pressure.
3. Causes serious family conflicts. Although most people do not admit it, they hope that their efforts can be rewarded in their hearts, and excessive efforts will lead to excessive expectations. If the child does not meet the expectations of his parents, they will complain and even blame, saying that I have paid so much for you, and you actually repay me like this? I am so nice to you, but you are so ignorant?
So I advise all parents that it is not wrong to love their children, but if you have 100 points, giving your children 60 points is enough. Please remember to leave the remaining 40 points for yourself. Because of your excessive efforts, your children will not be grateful to you, and will even be disgusted. When they have the opportunity, they will try their best to escape from you. Sometimes let go appropriately, maybe everyone can live a more relaxed life.
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