Am I wrong again? Do I have to discipline a child without even knowing his most basic ideas? I don't even have the qualifications to communicate with him on an equal basis?
Today was a big holiday, and my dad is here too. He should have been happy because my nephew called my dad, his grandfather, into the room, and closed the door, it looked mysterious , Destroyed by such a small matter. Ugh!
Out of curiosity, I was wondering if they wanted to turn on the air conditioner. Maybe they couldn’t find the remote control, so I just pushed open the door. It turned out that they didn’t turn on the air conditioner. My nephew quickly turned me on. My dad returned my dad's cell phone, so I was even more curious. I couldn't help but ask one more question, what are they doing.
My dad said that my nephew asked my dad to scan my dad’s face on the phone and log on to what website. Because my dad is almost 80 years old, he doesn’t understand, and he loves his grandson so much. Just leave him.
But I was not at ease, so I asked my nephew why he needs to scan his face. When he said to log in to WeChat, I was wondering, when did WeChat set up scan to log in? And I also think of a lot of information recently saying that many phishing websites are loaned just by scanning their faces, and bank cards have been stolen. Therefore, I doubted my nephew with confidence and asked him what he was doing to sweep Grandpa's face. He became very impatient and didn't answer my words, but bowed his head in silent resistance. This made me even more worried, and continued to ask a few more questions, but he cried.
In my heart, there is such an inexplicable anger, rushing upwards choppyly, my voice is a bit uncontrollable and raised a few points, and I asked him to sweep up. What, you need to scan your face for verification. Because my dad's phone card was issued by my ID card, and WeChat was also tied to my ID card, so I was very worried about what he should not scan.
But no matter what I asked, he bowed his head and said nothing, so I couldn't help but said a few more tough words, asking him if he hated my aunt, so he refused to communicate with my aunt.
After finishing, he still didn’t speak,I couldn't help but tell him something about my friend. Just a few days ago, my friend’s son was playing with his cell phone while he was sleeping, and he scanned his face. There was no more than 20,000. It took a few days to find out.
After finishing talking about this, my nephew still didn't speak, he just cried blindly, and looked at me with hatred.
Oh! Thinking about it, I was bored. Originally, I just wanted to take this opportunity to popularize this safety hazard with him. As a result, seeing him cry so badly that I was speechless to the extreme. If this is known to my mother, his grandmother, and I don't know how to feel sorry for him, what should I say about me.
And my dad, although he did not lose his temper, he immediately said that he would return the card issued by my ID card to me, and then go and apply for a calling card with his own ID card, saying this You can play whatever his grandson wants, because there is no money in it! Isn't this to blame me? Am I wrong again? Ugh! Tired. In the end, only to give up communication. Hope it's not a fishing net!
Oh, but such a big child, twelve years old, should I really let it go? Let him go on like this? But this is also very sad.
But after all, it’s not a child born by myself, and it’s as sensitive as a hedgehog. I really don’t know how to discipline it. If I say a few more words, I’m crying like me. He was really speechless. I am not afraid of my child quarreling with me, even if he is crying and roaring to express his dissatisfaction, I can happily accept it, because in this way he at least expresses his desires and ideas, and lets me know how I can correct him. Make mistakes, or adjust your own way of talking, find your own mistakes, and then correct them together. But in the face of such a child who resisted with silent tears without words, I was really at a loss and didn't know how to communicate and guide.
Do I really have to ignore it and let him fend for himself, is the correct discipline? But how can I feel comfortable in this way?
After all that is my brother’s son,That is, my nephew, because my brother and sister-in-law divorced, they lived with my mother since childhood. Since I live together, I feel that I have a responsibility to take care of him. Especially when he was not on the right path, I couldn’t help but talk to him. I had a good communication attitude, guided him to study hard, and asked him to complete his homework on time and according to the amount, so as to get his academic record. Mention it, but in the end it will become my unilateral preaching, because he ignored you at all and really wanted to leave it alone, but seeing him addicted to the game, I couldn’t bear it, and I had to go to preach again. As a result If I talk to him with heart and soul, he can’t listen at all. I will increase the volume uncontrollably, and then he will cry, crying aggrievedly, as if I abused him so much. The consequence is that my mother will do it again. Blame me for despising her grandson or something. It makes me not a person, a ghost or a ghost, which is very embarrassing.
Besides, my mother went to my sister this year, and my nephew is completely under my control, but I... alas! The first time I faced a twelve-year-old child, I felt a deep sense of powerlessness. I really don’t know what to do. I can’t beat or scold, I can’t even say heavy words. I can hardly see a child cry, and I can’t bear the silence of the other person. I'm obsessed with obsessive-compulsive disorder. But the kid just kept silent or cried. What can I do?
The way I get along with my son, my daughter, and my elder niece are all friends, they can talk freely. I am wrong, I am correct, they are wrong, they change, I can question them, they can also disagree with me, we can chat like friends, we can also debate like opponents, they can cry and yell and question, but they can’t be silent. Silent resistance. But this set is completely invalidated by my nephew. How can it become my unilateral self-talk, or my unilateral crush? I'm fine? Am I going to discipline a child so that I don’t even deserve to know his truest thoughts? I don't deserve to understand his behavior?
I’m so confused, I really want to let it go,But no matter what, this child is going to be delayed. He is in sixth grade. He didn’t put any thoughts on reading. He was playing mobile games all day. I was anxious just looking at it, but I could How to do it? After all, his parents are not in a hurry, and his grandparents are not in a hurry. What use is it for me to be a "bad guy"? (Just I love to take care of him, so in his heart I am the worst person) Alas! Headache!
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