Seeing that this is the second weekend after the start of the autumn school, there are still many children who have not yet fully entered the state of learning, and many parents are anxious about their children's future learning.
The beginning of each year is not only a test of the psychological quality of the children, but also the psychological endurance of the parents. Especially this year, the “double reduction policy” started in the summer vacation. What impact has it had on children and parents after school? Here, Santu mothers deliberately had a long conversation with several mothers with children of different ages. Next, let's take a look at how they think about entering the kindergarten, double reduction and involution.
The child enters the kindergarten, my heart is hollowed out
Bao mother: Doudou mother child: Li Doudou girl just started kindergarten small class
Li's mother said that she actually went online one month before the child entered the kindergarten Looking for various strategies, I carefully prepared all kinds of items for the children to enter the kindergarten, took the children to adjust the biological clock, and exercised the children's ability to go to the bathroom and eat by themselves over and over again. However, when the child really went to kindergarten, she realized that no matter how perfect the preparations were, she still couldn't overcome the psychological barrier.
In the morning, Mrs. Li followed the rules of entering the kindergarten given on the Internet, sent Doudou to the teacher and turned away. But as soon as she stepped out of the kindergarten gate, she became very anxious, and her daughter's heart-piercing cry echoed in her ears. cry. At that moment, tears welled up.
After going to work, I can't help but open the class group to see if the teacher has sent any messages. Once the teacher sent the children's photos, she carefully looked at her daughter's figure one by one, even the back figure would give her great comfort.
Seeing this picture of "the kindergarten with parents crawling outside the wall" circulated on the Internet, Mama Li couldn't help but smile: "Yes, yes, that's the mentality. If I didn't rush to work, maybe I would crawl too. Go up and take a look."
It’s been more than a week since school started.Mother Li said that now that Doudou is sent to kindergarten, Doudou has stopped crying. But Mama Li herself is still in a mood of separation anxiety. She said that she still couldn’t help but check the class group news over and over again. Always thinking about it.
Maybe, it is not only the children but also many parents who need to do the psychological construction of separation anxiety.
Elementary school, "Buddha" or " inside volume "?
Bao mother: Mimi mother Child: Wang Mimi girl just entered the first grade of elementary school
At the beginning, Mimi mother was quite "Buddha" and didn't let the child study ahead. Therefore, the child spent one Relatively relaxing and enjoyable kindergarten time. However, when the child really enters elementary school, watching the surrounding children have all kinds of talents, some children can already recognize thousands of words, some children have learned English at the level of junior high school students, and some children have already passed Mathematical Olympiad. Can be compared with the third grade baby... Mimi's mother began to doubt herself: was it wrong to insist on learning happily and grow slowly?
Mimi's mother began to worry that Mimi, which was like a blank sheet of paper, could not keep up with the progress of her studies, and even began to fantasize about her daughter being laughed at by classmates because she did not understand what the teacher explained. Scene. During the first week of school, Mimi’s mother was on pins and needles every day, with all kinds of worries and anxiety.
Mimi was after school, she couldn't wait to ask her children "Did you have a good time at school today?" Fortunately, Mimi told her mother that she was happy every time. Occasionally, when she was unhappy, the reasons Mimi gave were: "So-and-so borrowed my eraser and used it for me." "I saw a beautiful bow on the way from school. I was about to pick it up, but I don’t want to pick it up. Let’s get there first"...every time I listened to Mimi’s words, my mother would feel a little relieved. It turned out that in the world of children, what affects them every day is only the trivial things in the eyes of adults, and the things that adults worry about have not bothered them. child. We and our children are like living in two parallel universes,Each has its own happiness, and each has its own sorrow.
I’m about to enter a higher school, and I’m already unable to "involve"
Mom: Ranran Xinxin’s mother Child: Boss, Xinxin, third grade; second child, Xinxin, sixth grade
I call Ranranxinxin’s mother, please ask her Talking about the child's mental journey a week after school started, after she was silent for two seconds, she sighed heavily on the phone. She said that this semester, the elder is in the third grade of junior high school and is about to take the entrance examination; the second and sixth grade is about to enter the junior high school. This year, her life is destined to be suffering every day.
The senior high school entrance examination is the diversion mark, and the problem that the boss faces is very specific. But Ranran is in the youth rebellious period, and she can’t listen to her mother’s teachings on weekdays. Mother wanted to emphasize the importance of the third grade to the child. The child turned around and covered his ears as soon as he heard two words. Looking at the back of the child, he sighed. My mother said, although the grades are of the middle kind, in the words of the teacher, it is just a little hard work to go up, but once you relax, it will quickly slip. However, nowadays the children are not willing to communicate with their mothers, and the mothers are afraid that too much talk will put the child under too much pressure, so she can only occasionally make a little test carefully.
In contrast, the second child in the sixth grade is much more worry-free. My mother said that although it is also in the critical period of entering school, the child is studying in a private school that integrates elementary and junior high schools. There is no pressure to enter the second grade, plus the second grade. Not bad, it's a kind of comfort for mom.
Actually, no matter entering the kindergarten, or double reduction or internal scrolling, every family and every parent has different views and coping styles, but it seems that everyone can't escape the anxiety more or less Emotions. Sometimes, when we feel confused, we will be anxious; sometimes, when we figure it out, we let go... Accompanying children to grow up is like a spell, and our mood is always like the ups and downs of an electrocardiogram. However, whether you are in a period of anxiety or a period of calm, remember that you are the strongest backing for your child. Trusting him and supporting him are the best choices for us parents.
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