The law is the Tao, along the way we will prosper! Let us follow the scientific law of human growth, and children can get better and better!
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2 Teacher Yue: Tonight we will talk about the "scientific law of human growth".
Teacher Yue: First of all, what is a "person"? Or what are the attributes of people?
Teacher Yue: The biggest difference between humans and animals is their social attributes. People have social needs. People have five relationships. Father and son have relatives, husband and wife are different, and they are in order; emperors and ministers are righteous, and friends have faith.
Teacher Yue: Are we kissing our children now? If you are not close to your child, can your child grow up? Therefore, many children's problems are caused by "father and child are related", and the parents and children are not related.
Teacher Yue: Is there a difference between a husband and a parent, is there a difference between a husband and a parent? The husband has the way of the husband, and the parent-child has the way of the parent-child. If you don't do your own way, problems will arise. If the husband and wife are at odds and the family is at odds, can children grow up? As the saying goes, "home and everything are happy"! So if the child has a problem, we must first look at the parent-child relationship and whether there is any problem with the husband and wife relationship.
Teacher Yue: Secondly, does the child get "growth"? What is growth? What is natural growth? Now the child looks good on the outside,Tall, but what's the function of the body? Some children have no strength at all, and their bodies are not fully grown. Some children are often sick and all fail to achieve physical health. People who are healthy or unhealthy are easy to see, but people who are mentally healthy are not easy to see. For example, some children's mental age is much younger than their actual age. Some children are so old that they still rely on their parents, and even cry at every turn.
Teacher Yue: Human health is not only physical and mental, but also social adaptability. Some children can only learn, they can't do anything else, and they can't get along with others, such as teachers and peers. Many children retreat home not because of learning problems, but because of the relationship with their teachers or their classmates. Once there was a girl who went to college and couldn’t get along with the students in the same dormitory. Those classmates bullied her so that she couldn’t bear it. They burned their clothes on Sunday when the classmates were not there. As a result, the classmates The school asked her to compensate for what happened to her. She couldn't think about it, and finally dropped out. Therefore, adults are the key. If people do not become well, problems will arise sooner or later.
Teacher Yue: How should people grow? Simply put, you should do whatever you want at any age. For example, kindergarten children should cultivate their children's ability to take care of themselves, the ability to get along with others, the ability to endure hardship, and the ability to overcome setbacks instead of learning.
Parents: There was a problem with education at that time!
Teacher Yue: Yes, there is something wrong with the education of zg now, and we are eager for quick success and quick success. We started to let children read and read in kindergarten. This is a typical violation of the law. Especially "not letting children lose at the starting line" has ruined many children! Life is a marathon, not just the past few years of kindergarten!
Teacher Yue: Some children are in elementary and junior high schools,Even the high school grades are very good, but I can’t get to the university. Why? As the saying goes, "the flowers that bloom early are easy to wither". Recently, a parent of Shanghai Jiaotong University contacted me. Her child was in a bad state at university and failed to take a course. What should I do? What do you guys say? Children don’t have problems until they arrive at university! Some children get good grades in college, but they also have problems. They drop out of school or go to a mental hospital. Why?
Parents: Leave school and adjust!
Teacher Yue: The lesson I taught in the QQ group a few days ago " hollow heart disease ", did you read it?
Parent: I have seen it.
Teacher Yue: Some children are among the best in BJ University, but they don’t want to live anymore. Why? It just didn't grow well!
Teacher Yue: How can we grow well? To grow naturally, let the children experience what they should experience at any age.
Parent: Teacher, I didn't do a good job. Sometimes I still have expectations for my child. I think the child is a good child, and he also wants to be better.
Teacher Yue: Parents will not let their children do because they are afraid of their children making mistakes. They don’t know that “not letting children make mistakes is the biggest mistake of parents”! Can a tree grow well in a flowerpot? Move home in the wind and sun,Can the tree grow well?
Parent: Well, I've been too spoiled since childhood. The whole family held it in their hands.
Teacher Yue: The trees that grow naturally can grow up even if their branches are broken by the storm.
Parent: Spoil the child. Without a grateful heart, I feel that his parents treat him well as it should be.
Teacher Yue: And the trees in the flowerpots are put outside, the trees will be over after a storm!
Parents: Cultivate exquisite egoism.
Teacher Yue: The same goes for children. Why did they return home? Because they can't stand the storm! What should I do now?
Parent: Speaking of the essence. When I was a teenager, I was spoiled by spoiling. The subsequent contrast is strong control, and the result is confrontation. So it caused the unruly adolescence. Only when parents change can the problem be solved from the essence. Achievements are not all. Only with friends can you get mixed up in society. Even if they are not rich enough, they are basically able to be independent and able to eat and drink without worries. People with good grades may not be able to mix well in the unit, only those who can do things for others can go further.
Teacher Yue: If children are not allowed to experience it, they will never have a day in their lives!
Teacher Yue: Finally, let's talk about the "scientific law" of human growth.What is this scientific law? The first is the laws of natural science. The natural scientific law of human growth is that "natural needs should be appropriately absent." Natural needs include: material needs and emotional needs. Excessive satisfaction of material needs will lead to the material relationship between the child and the parent. The relationship between money and the relationship is good, but it is not good if the relationship is not given. Such children are unreasonable and grateful.
Parent: My family is over material.
Teacher Yue: It is easier for children to change, but it is difficult for children to change. With age, it becomes more and more difficult to change.
Teacher Yue: The social science law of human growth is that social needs must be fully satisfied. The social needs are: 1. Freedom, independent learning, independent making friends, independent job selection, independent choice of spouse. 2. Be affirmed, appreciated, praised, etc. 3. Self-actualization.
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Mr. Yue: The man in the video just now has grown up, worked, and changed. However, the greater the price, the greater the price. If someone gets a promotion or a salary increase, you may still be the same. If you understand the scientific laws of human growth, you will know what to do.
Teacher Yue: Are there any parents who want to ask questions? If you have any questions, please ask them and let me answer them, okay?
Parent: Mr. Yue talked about when Mr. Xiaoyue was completely transformed. Let us also have hope.
Teacher Yue: Transformation is a process, and it is an iterative process. It cannot be achieved all at once. I have persisted for more than ten years. So everyone must be fully mentally prepared. Don't expect others to tell you how to do it. If you tell your child what to do, your child will be able to change at once.
Parent: It’s not easy for teachers.
Teacher Yue: You must persist in learning, keep practicing, realize, and finally become your own subconscious. Only in this way can you truly be able to do it. My son and I have been since 2006. 15 years. It's not easy!
Parents: Unswervingly learn from the teacher and internalize the knowledge in your own heart. Teacher Xiaoyue is fine now.
Teacher Yue: So my son now pays special attention to interpersonal relationships at work. This is better than me!
Parent: sunshine, love. He should have a good relationship with his classmates at school.
Teacher Yue: To be honest, I didn't care about it. Now the son is doing it all by himself. Think about us before, isn’t it the same? How much did the parents ask us?
Parent: Teacher Yue's contribution is not easy for ordinary people to do. Learn from Teacher Yue!
Teacher Yue: I was decentralized to the countryside at the age of 17.My parents never asked!
Parent: I should thank the teacher. I think we must first change ourselves
Parents: After wind and rain, grow naturally.
Teacher Yue: Our generation, parents didn't ask much, and they all grew up well, but our children, parents ask more questions, but the children have problems, after all, they have not grown well. Naturally it is Tao.
Parents: This should also be related to the country's family planning policy.
Teacher Yue: If you violate nature, of course there will be problems! That's it for today's class, thank you all!
Teacher Yue (15385545257 WeChat same number): National Psychological Counselor, engaged in psychological counseling for 12 years, focusing on solving problems such as adolescent rebellion, depression, Internet addiction, and rebellion .
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