Have you seen and for mentally retarded children? Will
feel that they are pitiful, and are they glad that this is not their own child?
But think about it another way, what should we do if this is our own child?
Mother's love in this world is selfless. As long as it is her own child, a mother will dedicate herself to it, even if her child is mentally retarded.
83-year-old old man: I can't raise
Decades ago, almost in 1971, in an ordinary family in Guangdong , Aunt Huang gave birth to her second son after more than 5 years of marriage , Seeing the chubby child arrive safely, the whole family was overjoyed, and the whole family revolved around the child.
Children from normal families will start to speak some simple words slowly at 7 months, and start to learn to walk around 1 year old, but Aunt Huang's son does not have the symptoms of these normal children. Aunt Huang encouraged herself: Maybe it developed late, and other are watching.
In this case, it was only when the child was 5 years old that he began to slowly learn to walk while holding on to the table, but in terms of speaking, the son has never shown signs of learning to speak.
In order to treat her son's illness, and also to know what her son's illness was, Aunt Huang's family sought medical treatment everywhere, but everyone knows the medical level of that era, and many hospitals could not directly find out what the illness was, and they searched for a long time. In a hospital examination results: Down syndrome .
I believe that many people who have done obstetric examination now know that there is such a test, called Down's screening, which is used to detect Down's syndrome.
But unfortunately, in the 70s, there was no means of detecting this.
At that time, the doctor in the hospital directly explained to Aunt Huang and his wife that when a child has this condition, his intelligence will only stay in childhood, and he needs someone to take care of him all the time.
Aunt Huang and his wife suddenly fell to the bottom, and Aunt Huang was 40 years old at the time.
40 years old, the current medical technology , wants a child, the problem is not too big, at that time Aunt Huang's friends persuaded Aunt Huang to ask for a new one, after all, at the age of 40, there is still a chance.
After thinking about it for a long time, Aunt Huang refused. In the end, the reason is that I have devoted myself to my son for so many years, and I cannot let this child go. Although the child will have to live on himself in the future, it is still his own child; The problem, you must know that Aunt Huang was married for more than 5 years before she became pregnant with this child.
And even if I am pregnant, it is hard to say whether such a situation will occur. When encountering a person, the psychological pressure is very high, and when I come to this family, it will collapse directly; even if the child is normal, such a small child From a young age, he has to take on the responsibility of taking care of his brother like his family, which is completely unfair to the second child.
So Aunt Huang and his wife were determined to take good care of this child.
Fortunately, when the child was 15 years old, he began to slowly learn to speak, and he could walk slowly by himself, which was a kind of spiritual encouragement for Aunt Huang.
At this time, Aunt Huang, who is 50 years old, is actually thinking about her future life. She and her wife will eventually grow old. Who will take care of her son when she grows old?
So since my son started to speak slowly when he was 15 years old, he kept looking for a matchmaker to give his son a daughter-in-law. The requirements were not high, the woman could take care of herself and take good care of her son. In addition, she prepared a lot of dowry gifts for her daughter-in-law. Just for the son to have a support.
seems to have very low conditions and very tempting requirements. No one wants to marry until his son is in his 20s. People say that they will not marry a fool.
So the plan to find a daughter-in-law for his son to take care of his lower body was in vain, and Aunt Huang could only raise it by herself.
When I didn't find my daughter-in-law, the house leaked every time it rained. My 30-year-old son suddenly his brain shrank , his intelligence got lower and lower, and finally he couldn't walk, he was paralyzed in bed, everything was gone He has to rely on his parents to take care of him, and he will not be able to get out of bed for the rest of his life.
For Aunt Huang, turning over her son, changing diapers, and mobilizing the child's muscles and bones has become a must-do every day from now on.
Until 2013, when my wife passed away, in the days that followed, the responsibility of taking care of my son was handed over to 79-year-old Aunt Huang.
By 2017, Aunt Huang will be 83 years old. Can you imagine the situation where an 83-year-old man has to turn his son over every day?
At this time, my son is 46 years old. Although has low mentality and , and his body is paralyzed, he finally grew up and no longer looks like a child.
83-year-old Aunt Huang, whose physical function declined day by day, until one day, she found that she had no strength to turn her son over. The muscles will atrophy, but considering his own situation, it is impossible to continue to take care of his son.
When Aunt Huang was cooking, she accidentally fell and fell into a coma for two hours. The first thing Aunt Huang thought about was not why she fainted, but what to do with her son in the future?
faints for the first time and faints for the second time. After all, I am 83 years old. What should my son do when he can't sleep?
's desperate heart suddenly filled Aunt Huang's heart.
finally got down to it, bought some sleeping pills , and fed her son more than 60 of them. Aunt Huang sat quietly beside her son, watching her fall asleep, and then quietly left her.
At this moment, Aunt Huang felt relieved, and followed her eldest son to the police station to surrender.
left a sentence at the end: I am 83 years old and I can't support it anymore. I hope he will go one step ahead of me, so that I can die in peace. It is better to see his life than death. I really can't bear to take him with sleeping pills. Leaving the bitter sea of life.
Tiger poison does not eat its children, there is more helplessness.
Everyone is saying that tiger poison does not eat its children, but for Aunt Huang, it is more helpless.
My wife and myself have given the greatest love to their children. Even if the child is only at the intelligence level of a child, it does not affect their love for their son. Instead, they spend their whole life taking care of their son.
During these decades, Aunt Huang has been thinking about a question: who will take care of her son when she is gone?
This is a problem that Aunt Huang has not been able to solve for decades. It is a difficult problem for a woman.
Of course, there are relatives who say that they can send their children to the orphanage, at least they don’t have to take care of them so much, but maybe Aunt Huang has put in too much effort and is not worried about the care of the orphanage, so she has always been there by herself. taken care of.
And for my 46-year-old son, due to the poor circulation of qi and blood , every day is very hard, there is pain every day, life is better than death, and Aunt Huang, who is exhausted, finally made such a decision helplessly. .
Perhaps for Aunt Huang, after taking care of her son selflessly for many years, she only has her son in her heart. She loves and hates her deeply. When she finds that she is more and more unable to take care of her son, she finally does something that can make her A choice that can also free his son.
She was so heartless and hopeless that she ended her son's life with her own hands. That was a helpless move.
I used my whole life to interpret my love for my children, and then I hated myself for not being able to take good care of my children. Finally, when I watched the children walk in front of me, I could be regarded as letting go of this responsibility in my heart.
is written at the end
In fact, no matter where the family is, in the environment at that time, it was not easy to give birth to a child safely. As for other birth inspections, it is simply incomparable to the present.
Especially in rural areas, how many families have given birth to a child, and how many years later did they realize that their child had an intellectual disability, what should I do at this time?
is very incomprehensible. Seeing that this child has lived for so many years under his own care, now tell me that the child is mentally retarded and needs someone to take care of him for a lifetime. This will bring considerable pressure to every rural family. For other families, too, there is stress. How to deal with the back of
, each situation is different.
But no matter how the other family handles it, everyone in the countryside can understand it, just a sigh from behind.
I still remember that Turgenev had a book called "The Sparrow". In fact, when I first read it, this book was just an fairy tale , but when you have experienced all kinds of life, read this book again. One page is filled with two words: mother's love.
Mother love is the nature of living things. Animals have their own maternal love, and human beings also have their own maternal love.
I still remember that there was a picture a few years ago. Due to the hailstorm, a mother swallow protected the cub with her side, and finally exchanged her life for the safety of the cub.
also remember that in 2019, a fire devoured a family, mother and father, in order to save a glimmer of hope for the child to live, they used their own bodies and their lives to resist the engulfment of the flames , save the child.
This is mother's love, if possible, who wouldn't want their children to be healthy and healthy?
When you find out that you can no longer take care of your children and protect the paralyzed children, what will you do? Welcome to leave a message.
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