Many mothers have a deep understanding - bringing a baby at home is more tiring than going to work!
The baby always makes a mess of the dining table, you can only feed it patiently;
toys are scattered all over the place, and you can't help classifying them; It is because of you worrying about everything that the baby has been unable to learn!
Parents need to restrain their urge to solve problems for their baby in a timely manner, and guide him to practice little by little to improve his problem-solving ability, so that he can easily cope with future challenges.
It's not that children are not smart enough, it's that parents don't "play stupid".
Many times, parents are too strong, which not only blocks the baby's learning opportunities, but also hurts the baby's self-confidence and self-esteem.
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always "helps" the child.
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For example: if the baby wants to build a house with building blocks, you can help him build it directly; if he does not know how to do math problems, tell him the answer directly.
As soon as the baby encounters some small difficulties, he can't wait to tell him "you should do this", which leaves less room for the child to think for himself.
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always "bragging" baby.
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especially praise the baby as "smart" and "awesome" at every turn. This kind of formal and abstract praise can easily mislead the baby and prompt him to do things that "look smart" (for example, he will pick some easier puzzles).
Dare to challenge and face setbacks, how can a baby improve his ability?
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Don't let the baby "help".
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With the improvement of large muscles and fine motor skills, the baby can't wait to try his own ability and help you (perhaps more of a disservice).
But if you always wave your hand at his "mixing", or even say "go away, don't make trouble", it will not only hurt his willingness to try, but also affect his ability to learn division of labor and cooperation.
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Make your baby "obedient".
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If parents like to have absolute "parental authority", even if they do something wrong, they will not allow their children to question them, but instead blame them for talking back and being disobedient. This not only does not help the child to establish a view of right and wrong, but also makes him afraid to express.
How should parents "play stupid" smartly?
Parents wisely "play stupid" so that children have room to become smart.
The following are several common routines of "playing stupid", which are worth referring to▼
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"I don't know, what do you think baby can do?" Give him some space to think and let him figure out a way to solve the problem on his own. You can give him a little hint, but don't tell him the answer directly.
For example:
"The toy car doesn't move, baby, let's see what's wrong? The switch is not turned on? The wheel is broken? Or is the battery dead?" ·
When the baby shows interest in something or has acquired a new skill, parents can "pretend to be stupid" and ask for advice humbly. Let the baby in the "teaching" process, consolidate memory, strengthen understanding.
For example:
"Baby, you sing very well, teach your mother to sing it!"
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"Mom is too busy, please help me baby!" If you want to do something, then you might as well "pretend to be stupid" and give him a chance to help, especially some work that requires collaboration to complete.
For example:
"Mom is going to have lunch, baby, can you wash the rice for me?"
"Baby, mother is drawing the sun, can you draw a cloud for mother?"
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"I forgot Now, baby, remember to remind me!"
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In life, we need to cultivate some good habits for the baby, but we want him to remember that in addition to positive indoctrination, sometimes we also need to "pretend to be stupid" to help him deepen his memory, improve his life skills.
For example:
You can try forgetting to bring the key, forgetting to lock the door, forgetting to turn off the faucet, and then ask your baby to help remind you. Soon you will find that the "little housekeeper" will remind you of many things, and he will also develop these good habits himself.
"Pretend to be stupid" and pay attention to your sense of proportion!
① When to "play stupid" and when not to "play stupid", pay attention to the timing and occasion.
The older the child, the more important the skill of "playing stupid". For example, in the "100,000 why" period when the child's thirst for knowledge is overwhelming, he sincerely asks you questions, but he can't keep "playing stupid" to fool him.
② What should be "played stupid" and what should not be "played stupid", pay attention to the scale and scale.
Parents "play stupid" to give babies the opportunity to explore and solve problems on their own.But the premise is that the challenges and difficulties faced must be in line with the baby's ability and safety, otherwise he will not be able to do it, it will only increase the frustration.
③ "playing stupid" must be serious.
This is the time to test your acting skills. When "playing stupid", your emotions and eyes must be in place. The whole process is full of love, don't be perfunctory and impatient, and be careful to be seen by your baby.
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