Hi, everyone, I am Nian Baoai Mommy, a new mother who is constantly healing from harm and being harmed during healing. I would like to ask the family members passing by, if you have experienced what I have experienced, how did you make your decision? What happens now?

Hi, everyone, I am Nian Baoai Mommy, a new mother who is constantly healing from harm and being harmed during healing. I would like to ask the family members passing by, if you have experienced what I have experienced, how did you make your decision? What happens now? In fact, it’s already reached this point. I didn’t want to post yesterday’s data, but I didn’t finish the handwritten content today, so I felt that I couldn’t do both. This is the first time in thirty-two days that I haven’t done any handwriting. I remember I was busy before. It's almost 12 o'clock in the morning, so I must copy it out. Although the reading volume is not that good, I really am not in the mood to do it today. I'm sorry everyone.

The display volume is quite good

The thing started from the book "You are the Best Toy for Children" that I listened to yesterday. I really feel that this book inspired me too much. I feel that we are really bad at being parents. When our children are disobedient and we are in a bad mood, we will all vent it on her. We have never thought about why she should pay for our mistakes. She As a child, you shouldn't have to endure this.

It’s hard to say

I remember the last teacher Fan Deng said: "Children are copies of their parents. If there is a problem with the copy, is there something wrong with the printing process?" The answer is obviously not, all the children's performance will be in the The parents reacted. For example, his father and I love to quarrel. Whenever she hears us quarreling, she will growl in a vague way, even though she doesn’t understand what she is yelling about. Another example is a very subtle movement. Usually I am a bit of a germaphobe. If there is a piece of debris on the ground, I will immediately pick it up and put it in the trash can. Or if I see a hair on the bed, I will immediately get up and put it in the trash can. And Nian Baoer was so impressed that every time she saw something very small on the ground, even if she squatted there and took a long time to pinch it, she would pick it up and put it in my hand to watch on the bed. The same goes for hair. She started doing these things when she was about one year old. Now she picks them up naturally and puts them in the trash can.

I feel that as a child, my Nianbao is too sensible, sometimes so sensible that it makes people feel distressed. But as parents, I feel that we are not worthy of being parents, especially her father, who is so outrageous. I am usually too lazy to help my soy sauce bottle if it falls over, let alone set a good example for my children. As soon as the child is coaxed, he either lies on the mat or moves to the bed. I have never thought about what needs to be paid attention to and what guidance the child needs at this stage of development. I never think that since I am with you, I will make good use of this family time and rationalize the limited time. Every time, she would not play well with her, and then she would run up to me, and her father would tell her that she would not come to him and that she would come to me instead. Then let me ask, why don’t you reflect and reflect on why I didn’t come to you?

I was so depressed that I wanted to hit the wall

When I was eating last night, I said that while I was eating, I would not delay you in listening to the book. Please listen to this book carefully. It is really useful. What can I mean? I just want to improve myself for my child so that I can give her the best. As a result, another big fight broke out. I cried until about three o'clock in the morning, and he was already snoring like crazy. For the sake of my children, I have been working hard and compromising, but I can't get him to change at all. I always say to myself that he will be better for the sake of my children, but reality always gives me a fatal blow, and that is just mine. Wishful thinking. He doesn't want to improve himself or find a formal job. I don't care. He doesn't want to learn parenting knowledge. I can't bear to sneer and mock me. I don't owe you anything. You don't have to be so arrogant in front of me. I didn't know how. I was a mother for the first time, but I didn't stop working hard.

Before, I never knew or thought that the life of marrying far away would be so bitter. I thought I would be happier after having children, but life still deceived me. This was just the beginning of the suffering. After crying most of the night and being depressed all day long, I am lying in bed now and decided to continue writing my article. I cannot give up. Even if life gives up on me, I will still live for my Nianbao!