menopause 's parents meet adolescent children, just like Mars meets the earth. If conflicts are handled correctly, the two parties can operate normally in their respective orbits and be in peace; otherwise, it will cause intense collisions and constant conflicts.
So, at this stage, how should parents and children properly dialogue and resolve conflicts?
Today I will discuss with you the topic: Menopausal parents encounter adolescent children, how should they talk to resolve conflicts correctly.
Normally, parents with adolescent children in their families are generally in menopause.
At this time, most adolescent children are confused, turbulent, extreme, confused, independent, impatient, rebellious, impulsive, etc.;
Parents who are in menopause are also unstable and excited. , Tension, anxiety, anger, etc. appear from time to time.
When adolescent children meet menopausal parents, it is like Mars colliding with the earth, which is bound to cause disputes.
How to correctly resolve parent-child conflicts and rationally resolve parent-child conflicts is very important in current family education.
Pay attention to the adolescent education of middle school students, pay attention to the mental health development of young people, and solve the conflicts between parents and children through correct dialogue and communication. This is a major research topic of family education in the new era.
Today, we come to the case.
Xiaohui, who loves making friends and has outstanding sports and music skills, is already in the third year of junior high school and has average academic performance.
is facing the senior high school entrance examination right away, but he is still as laid back and contented as before.
often goes out with friends to play ball, ride a bicycle, and even form a band with a few friends, and often perform on campus or in the square.
I want to rely on my expertise to enter high school,Ignore the importance of cultural classes and do not study hard.
The parents saw in their eyes and were anxious in their hearts, thinking that their son was too "not doing business properly" and often reprimanded and accused him.
But Xiaohui still does his own way, without any change.
What makes his parents even more angry is that he even had a girlfriend, close and close.
Dad really couldn't bear it, and finally broke out a "family war" with his son on a certain weekend, and "education" his son severely.
Xiaohui seems to have converged. The previous "arrogant arrogance" has weakened, but the signs of improvement are not very obvious. Xiaohui's parents are worried about this.
Due to the relatively unbalanced physical and mental development, adolescent children are prone to a series of psychological problems and behavioral deviations.
Helping children get out of the trough is a problem that every parent is eager to solve.
In order to solve these problems, fists, sticks, criticisms, and accusations often have little effect or even backfire.
Faced with Xiaohui's behavior, if parents ignore their children's feelings, criticize, accuse, and disdain their children's behaviors, and show strong dissatisfaction with their children, the children will have a confrontational emotion towards their parents. .
In the long run, the parent-child relationship becomes more and more stalemate, and parents may lose many good opportunities to help their children grow up.
Xiaohui's father should abandon the condescending posture of adults, put down the prestige of adults, create an equal dialogue environment, and communicate with children on an equal footing.
Especially after you "educate" your son severely, you should have a peaceful conversation with your child.
To understand the children's inner thoughts, respect the children's special hobbies, and affirm the children's talent advantages.
and talk with your children heart-to-heart about the real world, beautiful ideals, the current situation, the actual situation, life choices, rational choices, career planning, and what you should do now.
Know the reason, move it with emotion, and guide it with action, so that it is possible to achieve the ideal educational effect.
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