Years of storms, after time, I have reached my retirement time, and I sighed that life is not easy. When I retire, I live my own well without having to be sad about the so-called "love".
" people are good for thousands of days, and flowers are red for hundreds of days. It is better to lift it than to hold the sand that cannot be held." The friendship between people also has a shelf life. Some say it is because your value of use has expired, and some say that there is no real friendship in front of interests, and some are just exchanges of interests.
It is better to let go without being sad about the loss, because you have never really had it, so why bother with the pain of losing, let it go, and be content with the situation. . When facing people who leave you, there is no need to turn against each other, ask questions or get entangled.
Retreat, then you can do whatever you want and enjoy your retirement life easily and happily. If you leave, don’t keep it, come and greet it regardless of wind and rain. What’s left is fate.
Don’t turn against each other
As the saying goes: "Be a person, stay at the top of the line, and meet each other in the future."
When you get along with others after retirement, even if you don’t like it, you don’t have to turn against each other. Leave a little affection and nod to each other. There is no need to turn against each other and say something that embarrasses the other person, and do not have to do something that makes the other person unbearable.
People still need to keep some decentness between people, which is not only one's own cultivation, but also respect the other party. Since doesn’t want to interact again, you don’t have to choose to make the other person angry. You can choose to stay away silently and stay away.
Mencius said: "Those who respect others will always respect them." After retirement, we will inevitably have people in the collective team who do not want to date. When encountering this, learn to lower our attitude and be good for ourselves, and don't have to turn against anyone for the so-called "face" or words.
Some people will hide their "true face" when they get along with others, giving people a passionate and kind look. Once you don't accept her kindness, she will turn against others and say something that makes you hate and feel uncomfortable.
We don’t have to turn against her at this time, just smile and just smile. The rest of your life is short and precious. There is no need to get angry for an unworthy person and turn your back on your face, so that you can fall into emotional internal friction. We only need to maintain the most basic respect for , which is both respecting others and respecting ourselves.
Don't ask about
When we were together after retirement, because we are not old acquaintances for decades, we must have many subtleties that we don't know. So, when you thought a good relationship, you suddenly became distant one day and stopped talking to you anymore. Please don’t ask the other party “why”.
Because the alienation between adults is a moment, there is no need to ask questions, just like A philosopher once said: "Everything is changing, the only thing that remains unchanged is change." People are always changing , let alone retired elderly people, so there is no need to ask each other like children. Why do you ignore me?
Many times, when you ask, the other party will find some objective reasons, not only do you want to offend you, but also want you to know the root cause. But you still think that you are friends, and you even have the state of "best friends" that you can talk about everything. How can you do this?
Some people will constantly send WeChat messages to others after others ignore her. Most of them are links to various spiritual chicken soup, "What is the true friendship between women", or "true friendship should be like this."
In fact, constantly asking what you ask for will only make you more embarrassed, and in the end it is also a love affair that is close to you. Just "know" yourself, there is no need to ask everything clearly and clearly. chooses not to ask questions, which is not only to show mercy to the other party, but also to leave a way out for yourself.
Not entangled
The greatest pain in life is "gain and loss". The love that was originally far away suddenly comes back one day. You are grateful for the gift of God and the preciousness of friendship. However, when you are immersed in joy, you will feel lost when you lose it again.
When we get along with others after retirement, we don’t have to be sympathetic. fate comes to meet, and the fate is good. There is no need to bother , especially those who are reluctant to leave, and there is no need to ask for it, because what comes is always a bitter and bitter taste.
Sometimes, in the eyes of the other party, my wishful thinking is just a "clown" playing tricks. Not only does it make the other party feel that you are humble and not worthy of her cherishing, but it makes the other party feel how noble she is.
Liang Shiqiu once said: "You go, I won't send you. If you come, no matter how storm is, I will pick you up." The reason why people are in pain is that is just that they can take it but cannot let it go. The fate you want to leave will not be retained, and the love you have come will not be rejected.
After retirement, we will meet many people we don’t know each other. We must learn to distinguish and leave our true feelings to those who are worthy, rather than those who already look down on ourselves. is not entangled, it is the last decency of a relationship, which not only fulfills others, but also allows yourself to be let go.
A good life after retirement: let it go, and let it go
The rest of your life after retirement is long, and you will meet all kinds of people. Some people warmed up the years, while others splendidly splendidly made the times. The comfortable relationship does not need to be forced, just let it go and make it your best. When the fate is over, he waves his hand and does not try to keep it. Only by learning to actively plan in can you be relaxed and happy and take it as you like.
1. Live the present life with a contented attitude. There are almost 10 unsatisfactory things in life, and living your own life is the most important thing. When a person lives, he has a good attitude and everything is fine. Let it go naturally, grasp what he can grasp, and follow the trend.
2. Live until you are old and learn until you are old, and enrich your retirement life with a spirit of continuous progress. Keep up with the trend of the times and be an old man in the new era. Don’t rely on anyone, and don’t give up your own growth, so that the rest of your life will get better and better.
3. Live as you wish, just be happy. After retirement, no matter who we get along with, we can be happy and happy. We will let the rest go with the flow and accept everything else with peace of mind. We will not see those who don’t like them, those who don’t like them, and those who don’t want to see them will not see them.
has retired. There is no need to turn against each other, ask questions or get entangled, because I have already tasted all kinds of ups and downs, and have experienced all kinds of joys and sorrows. follows your heart, let it go, and live a life of peace and contentment, which is the wisdom that I live in.
Author: Huagui Zenxin
Follow my words and enter your heart. You have stories, I have tea, let’s talk about the rest of my life together.
The pictures in the article are from the Internet.
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