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Su Gengsheng once said this:
"People must find their own rhythm and take their own pace."
There are too many people in life who just watch around, are confused in the footsteps of others, and do not know where their own path is.
We look back and forth in other people's blueprints, and eventually lose ourselves and don't know where to go.
In fact, in life, there is no need to envy others.
Only by finding your own direction can you take every step on the right path.
01. Don’t use other people’s rulers to measure your life
I have heard of this sentence:
"Everyone has a ruler in his heart. Some people compare their own things to others, and some people measure themselves with others’ rulers."
Really smart people understand that every role performs their own duties and should not be judged rashly.
Only when you tailor it in every link can you create an impartial life.
self-media author Xiao Han opened a foot wash shop downstairs of his house. The whole family, three generations of children, all worked in the store.
Strangely, the business was quite prosperous as soon as this store opened.
"The business is so good just after the epidemic, is there something wrong with it?"
"What future can a family get by holding their feet every day?"
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Soon, rumors about this store came one after another.
Because Xiao Han visited the foot washing shop many times, he gradually learned some truth.
It turns out that this store was once opened on the other side of the bridge. Before moving here, they went to say hello to old customers one by one.
Therefore, the endless stream of people in front of us are old customers who were once loyal.
In addition, the store service is thoughtful and every link is carefully and carefully, which makes these customers feel very comfortable.
One time when washing his feet, he asked his daughter in the store: "Do you feel bored if you keep doing this job?"
She smiled and replied: "No, I work in the store, I don't suffer from sunlight and don't do any physical work. The whole family is neat and can take care of each other. I feel that there is nothing happier than washing my feet. It's going on."
He couldn't help but sigh: "Everyone has a ruler in his heart, don't use his own ruler to measure the happiness of others."
Everyone pursues different happiness, just like success in the eyes of different people, they all have different definitions; the road in the eyes of different people also has different lights.
If you just live according to other people's definition and deliberately change it will often go against your heart and be very painful.
Only by understanding that many flowers bloom and each has its own shape, we can only get our own life if we find our own path.
02. Don’t let others evaluate it, disrupt your own rhythm
My friend Zhang Yuan is a mother in her thirties.
While taking care of her children, she decided to prepare for the civil service exam.
"This is not something you can pass by just wanting to take the exam." After her best friend learned about this, she said that she was "torturing herself".
is around her, and there are many people talking about it.
Some people advised her to put her family first; some people commented that she was "too stubborn"; in short, from family background to personality, and then to character, there are endless reviews. She had to know all the discussions about
, but she never stopped because of this.
She strictly plans the schedule of each day, always sticks to her own rhythm and standards in life, and does not miss the review of her children.
She was not affected by the sounds around her, and ignored those gossips or mixed reviews, and was consistent.
After her persistence day after day, she finally successfully landed.
Those who once commented on her behind her back were stunned and stunned.
There is a saying that once said:
"People who live well are busy enjoying their lives. Only those who are not very happy like to point fingers behind others' backs.
If every thing you do is kidnapped by the voice around you, it is tantamount to leveraging other people's eyes and walking your own life.
For a long time, they will lose their original direction.
And those who are moving forward in a firm direction will never be afraid of these rumors.
Even if they suffer misfortune all the way, they are firm and persistent and resolutely live the life they want.
03. Don’t find your own way in other people’s map
Life is like a journey through mountains and rivers, everyone’s encounters are different.
Some people choose to go with the flow and follow the pace of others;
There are also people who independently open up new paths and find their own paths.
. There are five cartoons on it that attract a lot of people.
The first picture:
A girl who just graduated. After failing the sixth interview, she walked out of the skyscraper dejectedly.
Looking at the vehicles coming and going around her, she envied those who have jobs.
She thought that it would be great if she could pass the interview smoothly.
The second picture:
3 A girl who had a successful interview got the job that was envied by a newly graduated girl as she wished.
But when the salary of the first month was paid and after deducting five insurances and one fund , she only had 1,000 yuan left.
She sighed and thought, it would be great if she could earn more than 10,000 yuan a month.
The third picture:
, who earned 30,000 yuan a month, was deprived of almost all her spare time under the long-term work rhythm of 996, and was exhausted both physically and mentally.
Her only had one thought in her mind, it would be great if she could get off work on time.
The fourth picture:
A mother who gets off work on time every day missed the opportunity to get the child to get the opportunity to get the elevator. She had to walk down the 18th floor from the skyscraper in high heels.
She thought to herself, it would be great if she could get on the elevator smoothly.
Picture 5:
A deliveryman who successfully climbed the elevator of a skyscraper was under the contempt and disdainful gazes cast by people around him.
He didn't look up and thought silently in his heart, it would be great if there was a chance for an interview.
You see, everyone is running around in the storms of their own life, occasionally looking up and passing others by, always feeling envious.
We inevitably feel that the other party has what they cannot have. Other people's paths always seem to be easier to walk than their own.
Little do you know that everyone has their own difficulties; just like every road, there are unique bumps.
In other people's map, no matter how much future it has, it may not be the one that suits you the most.
people live for a lifetime. Instead of enviing others, it is better to affirm yourself. Only by moving forward along your own trajectory can you get closer to your own success step by step.
04. Mei Niang Say
Finnish There is a widely circulated proverb:
"People who often ask for directions do not lose their direction."
Only by asking for directions to your heart can you be clear about the life you want; only by talking to your soul can you obtain exclusive happiness.
Don't use other people's ruler to measure your life;
Don't change your rhythm due to external evaluations;
Don't look for your own way out on other people's map.
For the rest of my life, I hope you and I can embark on the journey of victory at our own dock.
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