Going forward and harvesting all the way. We always hope to fill our bags more, but we don’t know that the heavier the pack, the greater the pressure, and the more tired we will walk.
As you experience more things, when you reach a certain stage, you will understand that only by "giving up" wisely and "reducing" rationally can you embrace a wider world and encounter more beautiful scenery.
Throughout our lives, we are just changing through giving up, getting through giving up, and growing through giving up.
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When I was young, I gave up impetuousness
Balzac said in "Wonderful Quotes": "As long as you are good at waiting, everything will come in time."
Many people have a young mind when they are young, and are prone to impetuousness. They always pursue the results as soon as possible when doing things, and want to achieve their goals in the shortest time.
But you must know that to get good results, it is not something that can be achieved overnight, but you have to put in time and energy, work hard silently, and wait quietly.
In youth, you must take root down like a tree and constantly absorb nutrients in order to bloom flowers from suffering and settle down from tempering.
is like Chen Shixin, " Daliangshan baby".
He comes from Liangshan, Sichuan, and his family is poor. In his original words:
"The winter is severe cold, the feet are frostbite, and the pain is unbearable; the heavy rain in summer wets the clothes and schoolbags, and the shoes are filled with rain."
In order to get out of the mountains, he spent almost all his spare time studying. Through a little bit of precipitation, accumulation and long wait, he finally got the admission letter from the Hong Kong University Direct Blog.
No one’s success can be achieved overnight. The hardships, hardships and unbearable in the middle are like sharp fangs and claws, which will hit our beliefs.
Only by abandoning the impetuous heart, keeping a close eye on the goals, constantly persevering, and constantly breaking through can we fade the youthfulness of last year and become a better self.
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In middle age, I gave up complaining
Netizen @Yaoyao said that her mother is a person who loves to complain very much, and blames all her misfortunes on her and her father.
Mother complained to her father: "Look at Lao Liu, your company that is behind you, is now your boss, and has a bright mind and a tummy. If you look at you again, why did I find you?"
Mother complained to her: "What's the use of dressing up brightly every day? It's better to study how to change to a better job. Look at the son of the old Li family, you are too boring."
Yaoyao said that her mother was emitting negative energy all day long, and she didn't even want to go back to her home now.
When a person is middle-aged, he has a high class to be filial and a child to be fed by the lower class; he has made amazing achievements and learned lessons from his fall.
has faded away the freedom and youth of "swords around the world", added to the restraint and calmness of "first, rice, oil and salt", and lives slowly moving in the dullness day after day.
At this time, if you can taste the taste, you can also be happy.
However, if you don’t know how to be blessed and get used to complaining, you will fall into injustice and entanglement.
Seeing that my neighbor changed into a new car and compared his own car, he felt that he was not lucky and could not get over his face;
Seeing colleagues being promoted repeatedly, he thought that he was working hard and his salary was not high, so he complained that his leader was unfair and did not give him the opportunity to display his talents.
A few complaints are harmless, but if you always indulge in complaining instead of being content with happiness, it will consume not only time, but also your own energy and fighting spirit, and your entire magnetic field will become increasingly low.
Einstein said: "Don't complain about life, it only means that you are incompetent, and the strong never complain about life."
The strong solve the problem, and the weak blame others.
There are always unsatisfactory things in life. Be more optimistic about everything, find reasons from yourself, complain less and complain less.
Whoever has the stove has dust, and the life of whoever has the mess.
When people reach middle age, they all have their own difficulties. It is wise to keep a good attitude and treat life positively.
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In old age, I have abandoned my narrow-mindedness and walked into my old age, experienced strong winds and waves, experienced rain, snow, wind and frost, and the blessings and sorrows of life have collided with us.
The best mentality of an old man should be to be indifferent to intrigue, to see the joys and sorrows, to see through the changes in the world, and to live with a peaceful and open-minded heart.
has seen such a video.
On the bus, because of the crowd, a female student was holding something in her hand and accidentally met an old man sitting in front of her.
The girl apologized, but the old man refused to give in to blame.
"You young people, can't you be careful when doing things?"
"I am so old and I am sitting in front of you, don't you see it?"
"Ah, young people now..."
The passengers around
gradually moved away, and the girl's expression gradually changed from apologizing to helplessness.
The old man said in a nagging manner, and the more he talked, his face became more and more angry, and his face turned red.
In the end, it was still stopped by another old man behind him with kindness.
After years of baptism and experience, people should have become more broad and open-minded. Keep calm in the face of big things and laugh at the face of small things.
If you still have narrow vision and your mind is still narrow-minded, those decades of time have flowed, just leaving a little mark on your body; decades of time have passed, just adding again and again to age.
people have seen, heard, understood, and put down what they should give up.
If you keep holding on to everything, it will not only make people distant from you, but it will also make you sick.
Look at small things and ignore small things, which is the smartest behavior of the elderly. Neither make trouble for yourself nor put pressure on the people around you.
Only by abandoning narrow-mindedness can you make your old age happier and more comfortable.
Only by taking things with ease and being indifferent can you truly be selfless and broad-minded in your heart.
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Psychologist William James said: "People can change their lives by changing their attitudes."
Walking in the world, each of us is constantly learning, changing, hoping to meet a better self.
When I was young, I gave up impetuousness and devoted myself to studying, so that I could accumulate strength and make a big splash.
In middle age, you can only be calm and active in complaining and correct your attitude.
In old age, only by abandoning narrow-mindedness and embracing all rivers can one be inclusive and inclusive.
Click "Looking", I hope we can all give up and gain, and write different wonderful and brilliant things.
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