The relationship between people is not as difficult as we thought, but it is not as simple as initially thought. The key lies in whether you have encountered people of the same frequency. Whether it is an ordinary friend or a lover who will get along day and night in the future, you need to be the right person in the true sense.
The so-called right, including but not limited to: three views are consistent, like-minded, and have similar personalities and pursuits. Only if all aspects are in line, will there be more common language, and there will be no situation where different circles cannot be integrated.
However, no matter how deep the feelings are, they can't stand to wear down. If it was good at first, but it was not maintained well afterwards, after a long time, it still cannot escape the end of separation.
Just as a line in the movie " Chongqing Forest " said: "I don't know when it will start. Many things will be marked with a date. The saury will expire, the canned food will expire, and even the plastic wrap will expire. I began to suspect that in this world, there may be nothing that will not expire."
is actually more than an item? The same is true for the relationship between people.
The two people who had nothing to talk about at first, may gradually fade with time, and eventually become speechless; the two people who were intimate at first may become strangers over time, and end up directly alike Stranger.
When we were young, we had a simple and simple understanding of many things. We always felt that as long as we were sincere, our feelings would never dissipate. But after a certain amount of life experience, I gradually understand that even the closest people can't live up to time, and they will become rusty and indifferent over time.
so many people would say,Don't overestimate the relationship between you and any one person, you never know how the other person sees you. Sometimes the greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment.
After half a lifetime, you will understand that the human heart cannot stand the test, and the more truthful it is, the easier it is to get tired.
People who are too soft-hearted are more likely to be used and deceived by others. They are really expensive and must be reserved for those who are truly worthy. After a person reaches middle age, he gradually sees through many things and understands many truths, so stop thinking about pleasing others and pleasing yourself as much as possible.
The following three kinds of rituals, don’t just let them go, and be cruel, so that life will go smoothly.
1: Relatives who can’t be treated sincerely don’t have to cater to
In this world, many things can be chosen, but you cannot choose what kind of family you are born in and what kind of family you have Relatives. Blood relationship is something we cannot control or choose. In that case, we can only adapt.
Good relatives can add icing on the cake, and even give charcoal warmth in the snow. Help each other, sincerely treat each other, no matter how difficult you encounter, you can work together.
However, some relatives may not be true to you. He will not sincerely bless you if you have a good life. Instead, he will be the first to go to the bottom when you have a bad life. Such people are usually very small, can't tolerate things in their eyes, and can't see it for too long.
We don’t need to be familiar with them. If we can hide a little bit, we can hide a little bit. Living itself is very hard. There is no need to block ourselves.
As the saying goes,No one asks the poor in the downtown area, and the rich has distant relatives in the mountains. If you treat your relatives sincerely, you will know once they are down. For relatives like
, if there is something in the family to notify you, it is mostly for your money. When you notify him of something in the future, he may ignore it.
Such people who love petty and cheap, reveal their calculations everywhere. Entangling with such a person will only make yourself physically and mentally exhausted. It is better to draw a line from the beginning and stop bothering to cater to it.
Two: There will be no more intersecting old colleagues, there is no need to maintain
We are in a human society, and many people regard face as more important than anything else. But in fact, the person who maintains face cares only about his vanity. How about satisfying his vanity? I've always known whether I'm doing well or not.
There is a saying: No matter how important face is, it is not as important as life. No matter how good face is, it is no better than inner comfort and comfort. Don't bother to maintain the superficial things. Live your life well, more than anything else.
Those old colleagues who won't have any intersections anymore do not need to do some face-saving efforts to maintain those superficial relationships, not to mention it, they will waste time and consume their own energy.
Maybe, your relationship was very good, but after resigning or retiring, gradually there is no intersection. The other party used to take care of you, but then no longer contacts. In this case, there is no need to be polite. It is a decent farewell to find an excuse to push it off.
We will meet many people in our life, but most of them are tourists. It is tiring to maintain the superficial relationship, and it is really unnecessary. Let it be scattered in the crowd,On the contrary, it is a kind of decent.
Three: Old classmates who have not been in touch for many years, must actively break off diplomatic relations
Yi Shu said: The heart is getting cold every day, and the leaves are turning yellow every day. Any relationship does not suddenly fade, and no one will suddenly fall apart. Those old friends who have not been in contact for many years must learn to actively cut off friendship, otherwise blindly entanglement will be exhausting for each other.
In life, many people have this kind of experience. An old classmate who has not been in contact for many years suddenly informs you that he is getting married, or he has children, etc., mostly for the purpose of making money.
If you give it, you may never get it back. After all, there is usually no contact. Maybe after he receives the money, he will secretly delete you and disappear completely in the crowd. If you don't give it, he may remember it in his heart, and he may slander you behind your back when attending classmates reunions, making you not a human being inside and outside.
My friend Xiaomeng said that a junior high school classmate once informed her that she was going to get married. For the sake of face, she sent two hundred red envelopes in the past. Unexpectedly, she deleted herself as soon as the other party posted it. At that moment, she knew how weak the relationship between each other was.
In a relationship, I have been giving unilaterally but have been unable to get a response for a long time. Do you want to persevere? Many people feel that they should give up. This is not cruel, but a rare reason and sobriety.
After middle age, don’t be so generous. No matter how soft-hearted and kind you are, you must understand the meaning of living for yourself. You don’t have to care too much about the opinions of others, and there is no need to maintain false interpersonal relationships.
interpersonal communication,The focus is on going both ways, courtesy, and those who just want to make money and don’t have a sincere heart for you will only want to use you, so why bother to suffer and hurt themselves in vain?
Only by learning to leave, we can live more easily and more calmly. Don't follow the above three courtesies, don't contact anymore, and let our world return to peace.
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