Wanting to get married, buying a house, starting a business, wanting to do whatever, these wants prompt us to make money, and the ultimate goal is happiness. But if we are afraid of not having money and force ourselves to make money, such a goal is negative, and we will not be happy.
The relationship between money and happiness is very subtle. When money meets basic supplies, if we cannot find the happiness behind making money, we can only continue to earn more money. But when you find that high-paid people work harder than you, it will only make you more unhappy and anxious. Therefore, the meaning of money is given by us. Making money is because you want to be the person you want to be.
"Loving yourself is not only the right way of life, but also the right emotion."
Do you know the reasons why you are usually angry? Hungry? Not getting enough sleep? Hormones? What others say? Or something else? "The result of being angry is drama. The more you think about it, the more drama you will get into, and the angrier you will become." If you know the reasons why you are usually angry, you can change your mind and avoid it. Hungry anger means hurrying to eat, Sleeping anger means going to bed early, and hormonal anger means telling yourself not to be angry. Others say, "Why should you be angry for others?"
"Falling in good times" When immunity is low, it is easy for us to get sick accidentally. At this time, as long as it can relieve the discomfort, we will basically accept it. Just like when someone comes to comfort and accompany you in adversity, it is easy for us to think that the other person is an angel and ignore the other person's "scumbag" behavior. But when we are in good times and everything is moving in the direction we want, we can be more patient. Evaluate each member of the opposite sex rationally.
"Marriage is about learning together hand in hand" and considerate relationships will last longer. You must learn to express your vulnerability and helplessness frankly, and thank the other party for their efforts. The author has a few ideas:
1. Don’t run out of the door when you quarrel, the people left behind are often the most hurt.
2. When quarreling, discuss the facts and don’t settle old scores.
3. Don’t look at your significant other by other people’s standards.
4. The standard of romance is set by the other party (sometimes we think our behavior is romantic, but the other party does not, so we have a dispute. It is up to the other party to decide whether it is romantic or not. It is better to make the other party feel good)
5. Your lover should grow up in your aesthetics, and you think it looks good.
6. Express I love you every day.
There is a story worth pondering. The author took his daughter to get the vaccine , and the car on the roadside rang. The daughter was so frightened that she shrank into the author's arms. So when the couple quarreled loudly under the roof, where should the daughter hide?
In 2023, I hope that we can all have less psychological internal friction this year.
