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No one can escape suffering and suffering in life, but some people eat it after suffering it, and some people have some enlightenment after eating it. The
comparison is very common among people, but it is not a good habit. As the saying goes, you can’t compare with others, and you can’t live by comparing yourself with others. If you are caught up in comparison in life, you will become obsessed if you are not careful.
There is no so-called fairness in this world. The "fairness" we pursue is nothing more than what we see in our own eyes and what we think in our hearts. If you look at it again from another angle, what you thought was fair will no longer seem fair.
Hope and disappointment always go hand in hand, and experiences can be good or bad. No one can control the troubles in their life. There are nine out of ten unsatisfactory things in life. Their occurrence will not only sharpen a person's mind, but also accelerator of growth.
Whether a person has suffered hardship can actually determine the direction of life.
The ancients said: "A young man who succeeds in his ambition will be unlucky." The smoother a person's life is when he is young, the less likely he is to achieve success as an adult. This is the difference between enduring hardship and not enduring hardship.
People who have suffered great hardships will have the following four qualities. They are not easy to come by, so I hope you cherish them.
Know how to give in
People who have suffered greatly will not be too rigid in character. Even if they are born with "hard bones", they will learn to adapt after suffering.
Those who can achieve great things are often hard on the inside and soft on the outside. No matter how you behave or do things, you will not feel too oppressive. The more people experience it, the more they understand that the trick to getting things done is not to be tough, but to guide it skillfully.
People who know how to give in are more likely to be accepted by others. Whether they are putting forward opinions or expressing opinions, they are more likely to be listened to by others. Capturing human nature is about half the battle.
You must know that no one likes to be forced to complete something. Even if that thing was essentially for his own good, it was useless. Human beings like to be valued and praised. If you can explain the truth clearly and coax things to be done, there is no need to use a tough attitude to make people feel rebellious.
People who have experienced hardships in life are more likely to understand the bad situations and inner difficulties of others. Because they have been hungry themselves, they will not ask the terrible question "Why don't you eat meat?"
understands that "letting go" is not only understanding and tolerating others, but also leaving more possibilities for yourself in the future.
is very strong
The more hardship a person has endured, the stronger he will be.
People who have never experienced hardship do not understand the sadness of life. Many times what they say and what they do are not very consistent with the reality. There are too many unfeasible ideas, which will lead to frequent mistakes.
A strong person is always awake and full of resilience because he sees clearly. The older a person is, the stronger his character becomes. Some people may interpret this situation as an increase in endurance. In fact, this situation occurs because on the one hand, he becomes calm due to being well-informed, and on the other hand, because he has no choice but to grit his teeth and bear it.
Rousseau said: "Suffering, for the weak, is the tomb of death, but for the strong, it is the soil from which ambition grows."
The human heart, like the shoulders, will increase its tolerance as the number of times it is subjected to force increases. Strong people are not born strong, but grow through hard work after experiencing the ups and downs of life.
The hardships we have endured and the sins we have endured will become "experiences" and be stored in our hearts.
Prepare early
There will be unforeseen circumstances, and people will have misfortune and good fortune. The reason why these truths have become truths and spread throughout the world is because many people have used personal experience to prove that they do exist and are unavoidable.
Therefore, there are two kinds of smart people in this world, one is those who have seen other people’s experiences and learned lessons to avoid pitfalls for themselves, and the other is those who firmly remember the pits they have fallen into and will never fall into them again.
These two types of people have one thing in common, which is to prepare for a rainy day. They can usually consider multiple possibilities for the outcome before something happens, and then make simple preparations for various outcomes in advance, or formulate response plans.
This kind of behavior can be called foresight or thoughtfulness.
As the saying goes: "You will gain wisdom when you take a bite." For most people, the wisdom that can be reflected in life is obtained by the hardship they have endured.
The more people who have experienced severe hardships, the deeper their understanding of life. Not only can they easily see things that are difficult for others to see clearly, but they can also easily prepare for what may happen soon.
Always contented
Regarding happiness, it can even be said that most of the pain in a person's life comes from his own dissatisfaction. When his eyes are always staring at the lives of others, he will slowly forget the way he came.
Human nature is greedy and always wants to take the most beautiful things in the world for itself, which is impossible to achieve.
However, there are some people who have too little experience and insufficient understanding of life. They constantly have fantasies about things that do not belong to them. Over time, they will form obsessions. That kind of persistent dissatisfaction will tear apart all the beautiful possibilities in life.
People who have suffered greatly have a peaceful mind, understand many truths in the world, know what can be done and what cannot be done, will not worry about things that do not belong to them, and will not be upset about not getting what they want.
People who have suffered greatly are often grateful and can be satisfied with the status quo. They know that what they already have is what should be cherished the most, so it is easy to be satisfied and happy.
Maturity is beautiful, contentment is happiness. In fact, the hardships everyone has endured count.
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: Wei Chen, a freelance writer and writing tutor. Often quiet, occasionally humorous.
hopes to bring you mental relaxation through words. I hope your life will be better after encountering my words.
