Author: Mo Xiaobei
01: Preface
Born as a human being, everyone wants to live happily and happily, wanting to live the way they like, but life changes as they live. I originally wanted to live like this, but in the end I found that I deviated from the direction. Why does
deviate from the direction?
In fact, many people themselves can't explain it clearly. Anyway, as they live, they suddenly go against what they had expected.
clearly wanted to embrace happiness, but in the end they got pain; he clearly felt that life should be good, but in the end he found that this was not the case at all.
After a long time, we seem to be unable to live anymore and don’t know how to live to embrace happiness better.
When we think life will not have happiness, but find that there are still people who live happily, how do they do it? How did you live your life the way you like?
Half of their lives have passed and finally understand that the reason why they live happily is because they understand the true meaning of life and know that a good life is not about adding or subtracting themselves.
02: Reduce desire and double happiness
Why do we have been unhappy in life all the time?
In fact, it is because desire is at work.
If it weren't for desire, we could have lived a better life, but because of desire, we lost ourselves.
We don’t understand life at all. Although we say we want to be the masters of life, we end up being the slaves of life.
Desire is really terrible. It will ruin a person and make a family that originally lived a happy life unhappy. If you don’t know how to reduce your desires, it will only make yourself more painful.
Tell me a story that happened to me.
I have a friend who originally lived a very happy life. Although his family didn’t have much money, he had no worries about food and clothing. He had a small house full of warmth and a car for transportation.
It was all good, but later my friend was not satisfied. He felt that such a life was too boring and wanted to change such a life, so he thought of changing a car.
If he has a lot of money in his hands and changing a car will not have any impact on his life, then there is no problem with changing a car, but in fact he does not have this ability.
When he and his wife told him to change the car, his wife naturally opposed it because they really didn’t have that much savings in their hands.
Although his wife disagreed, he insisted on himself and even had to change the car even if he divorced. His wife didn't know what was wrong with him and didn't understand why her husband became like this.
Finally, his wife couldn't resist and had to choose to change the car. Less than half a year after changing the car, he encountered problems in the unit. He was actually laid off and lost his source of income.
was stunned and had to sell the car he had just changed. After a few moments, he lost 30,000 to 40,000, which made the already unlucky family worse.
The wife cried and asked him, why did she have to make trouble when she was having a good life?
He was speechless. At this moment, he finally understood how terrible desire was. If he could reduce his desire at that time, the family would not have become like this, but it would have been too late.
A person’s desire is really terrible. It will make our lives go from happiness to pain.
We are all looking for happiness, thinking happiness is complicated, but we don’t know that it is the ones that are complicated.
Lin Yutang once said:
"Happiness, one is to sleep in the bed at home, two is to eat the meals made by parents, three is to listen to your lover saying love to you, and four is to play games with your children."
It's just that most of us clearly have these, but we are not satisfied, and eventually turn happiness into pain. When we fully wake up, everything is too late.
03: Reduce useless socialization and better realize your own value
Why do I emphasize useless socialization more than once?
Because, this does have a huge impact on our lives. Although the old saying goes, one more friend will have more paths, you have to look at what kind of friends you have.
If you can grow together, there is certainly no problem, but what if you are just friends with wine and meat? Friends like
will not bring you any valuable things except to consume you.
Originally you could have read books at home to improve yourself, but you felt that you should socialize, have to gather with friends and drink and brag. At the table, your friends would do everything for you, but after you get off the table, you become strangers to each other.
has seen such a content and is quite touched: the male protagonist in
is particularly keen on deep friendship. He gathered with his friends every few days to drink. If it is just a superficial look, they are all very good friends.
At that time, the male protagonist also felt that when he encountered a problem, these friends would help him, but in the end he found that this was his wishful thinking.
When the male protagonist's father was hospitalized and needed money in urgent need of money, these friends were mute. It seemed that the male protagonist had no relationship with them at all, and all the words he had said became decorations.
These male protagonists finally understand that these people may be able to add icing on the cake when you are smooth sailing, but when you encounter difficulties, you will never give timely help. Social interaction like
seems useful, but in fact it has no use.
People who truly live smart will not waste time in ineffective social interactions, but can calm down and improve themselves through reading and learning, and make themselves an excellent person.
It is true that there are many social circles that can provide you with convenience at some times, but if you don’t have real skills, no matter how much others can help you, you will be “virtuous and unworthy”, right?
04: Xiaobei's message
Pursuing unrealistic desires will make you lose direction on the road of life; spending too much time on ineffective social interaction will not only waste your life, but also make you miss a lot of opportunities to achieve yourself.
So, don’t waste your limited life on unrealistic things.
In this life, if you want to live happily and easily, you can only learn to subtract your life.
Although the world is colorful and dazzling, not everything can be arranged by you in your life.
Because, some unnecessary things appear in your life and only bring you a drag.
Life is not long, don’t waste time. You must live your life infinitely wonderful in your limited life, so that you can not be in vain for a walk in this world.
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