Hello everyone, I am Xiaobei.
positive and optimistic, what a beautiful word and state. Have you noticed that many people disguise themselves as “self” and lose themselves because of the so-called optimism.
This is very split, as if it is constantly tearing itself apart.
They need to care and release more than anyone else, but they temporarily choose to close and choose to forcibly forget what sadness is, what happiness is, and what is true strength. A person like
, perhaps he/she is currently on our "hateful" list.
At the beginning, I also made a similar problem, placing some people on the "hateful" list.
Because I didn't know at the time, was it them or myself that were the problems, and I just simply started from my perspective and thought that some of their behaviors were disgusting, and I didn't like it.
Later, after being enlightened by a friend, I slowly began to contact each other, and tried to understand from multiple angles, and slowly stood opposite each other or jumped out to look at certain problems and situations before I understood some things.
Of course, this is far from enough.
Most of the time, I still look at it from my own understanding and perspective. After all, my knowledge is limited and there are some habitual problems. Inertial thinking makes me not understand some things for the time being, let alone empathizes or anything else.
This takes time to try and you also need to be willing to do it yourself.
If I say I can understand it, it is a deception, it is a brief exchange for empathy, not what I wish.
Just like I mentioned many times that people are short-sighted and blind and arrogant, in most cases, they will feel and look at the world from a self-point and other things in this world except yourself.
Regarding this point, we cannot simply summarize it, and we cannot blindly judge right or wrong.
After all, there are differences, deviations, and cognitive inequality, just like what I see is the blue sky and white clouds, perhaps it is another color in the eyes of others.
As mentioned earlier, I used to classify a certain type of friend as the "hate one" list. Regarding this, after I realized the problem, I felt ashamed, although it did not cause misunderstandings and harm to both parties (they were not actually arbitrarily classified by me).
But this always makes me feel that doing it is quite ignorant.
Of course, I need to explain it here. I am sorry for some of my own brainless and reckless behaviors.
If you have similar experiences and agree with my statement, let’s hold your claws from a distance. [Handshake]
We cannot choose to be born, just like we cannot choose who will be our parents and what kind of family we will grow up in.
Many people repeatedly talk about the pain they encountered in their original family and the series of painful feelings they brought to them, repeatedly stating them over and over again, reincarnating over and over again, like a cage that can never get out of.
Many times, I want to ask them: "Who is the one who traps you?"
is really your native family? Or do you don’t want to really get out?
always uses this to say things. Every time I encounter problems, I will act like a person who is hurting me by my original family. It looks very annoying.
either every time you need to do something, you will move out the storyline of your original family again to whitewash yourself.
The results I have now achieved are because I have been working hard and striving to break out of the circle of my original family. Everything I have has is endless.Finally, we came to the conclusion that we rely on ourselves to get out of the predicament, and once again, Balabara. After a period of construction, the personal IP was built and we began to do other derivative things.
This is very split. After one operation of
, I kept mentioning it repeatedly, which has led to no more like to eat refried meat now.
Everything must have a degree. If it exceeds the public's affordability, it will backfire and over time it will have the opposite effect.
Of course, we cannot deny that many people have suffered, and are suffering because of the harm of their original family in the past, and cannot get rid of the entanglement of suffering.
For this, we have not experienced other people's lives and cannot be commented on casually.
But I don’t quite agree with it. I often put some problems out and kept telling each other repeatedly, and often denounced my original family. It is normal for many people to take it out and talk about things to attract traffic when they have only a few understandings. In the Internet age, traffic can explain some problems on the one hand.
But don’t use this as an example at any time, which makes people feel too pretentious and too troublesome.
Besides, this statement has been around for many years, why are you still talking nonstop! ?
feels like some people rush to say they are depression a few years ago. I really can't complain, don't be so mean, okay?
, don’t evolve into a wolf, it’s so sad.
This is a very serious issue, and many of us are experiencing some pain.
With only a few understandings, some people tell their experiences and vent their grievances and sorrows over the years. This is not a bad thing. It is a good thing to have such a medium for them to vent and release them.
is a manifestation of courage. Fortunately, there have been no problems in so many years.
There are other people who don’t understand anything, don’t understand anything, follow the trend and keep talking about these words all day long, and keep repeating them. No matter what I say, I will lean on it, as if I feel embarrassed if I don’t have any connections.
This is a bit inexplicable.
keeps the pain that others are experiencing with you and keeps selling misery repeatedly, which is very offensive.
Hope that people who are experiencing pain can come out as soon as possible.
Furthermore, I hope that people who have not experienced this will not follow the crowd and use it as a means to attract attention.
people have seven emotions and six desires .
should not be ignored and denied, no matter what emotions, feelings, and desires it is, they should and can be seen.
From the day of birth, countless pairs of hands holding brushes painted and filled out the blank drawing paper in our lives.
Some people get a dazzling picture, some are weird-shaped pictures, some are incomplete pictures, and some may just have lines without color.
No matter what kind of picture it is, it is your unique drawing paper, and only you can have it. Every life that leaves a mark on this painting paper has a close connection with us.
This also means that each of us is an independent and special existence.
It is undeniable that we will restrict our actions because of our own cognition. As the saying goes, "A newborn calf is not afraid of a tiger." Although
will be doomed, there is a glimmer of hope.
Just like when people know where, the world becomes as small as a map. If they don’t know where, they will feel that the world is boundless.The same is true for the new life. During the process of growing up, there will be many rules and rules to avoid tying us.
has no absolute freedom, it can only be allowed under one or several frameworks.
People who grew up under different environments and ethnic groups are different. But you must know that you cannot go beyond the square and the circle, and you will never leave the essence.
No matter what we are outside, there is always the softest point.
We carefully care for this softness, and we have never even sensed its existence ourselves.
What I once couldn't understand the most was that what obviously happened would make people very sad, but he could force himself to face it, and always suppress his emotions. He even put away his tears too early at the age when he should have cried loudly.
Sometimes heavy rain falls, and he is in the rain, and the rain that is already blurred on his face is mixed with tears.
If someone sends sincere and without false kindness, he will stand like hedgehog , making people unable to get close to it.
It’s not that someone is born with armor, but that he is growing up and adding layers of armor to himself.
When people do not understand and do not look at it objectively, this type of person will make people feel particularly unreasonable.
I was like this at that time and I couldn't understand it.
is obviously a very sad thing, but the person involved acted very indifferent, and could not see any sadness at all, and he comforted us in turn.
also tried to contact slowly, but ended in failure.
When they are unwilling to open their hearts, no matter what keys and pry tools the outside world use, they will return to nothing.
The only thing that can be done is not only waiting, but also a proper and non-absurd company. Friends like
smile all day long and smile all day long. Some may be true, while others are very fragile. I don’t want others to see my helpless and fragile side, and then use a smile as a “weapon” and “mask”. Only when I am alone can I show my fragility.
They may not have any friends worthy of making friends with. Many of their hearts and emotions can either vent their words and emotions to themselves or to the air.
actually really wants to find someone to talk to and want to be treated gentlely, but it is always a little bit worse.
When they face sadness and sadness, they choose to protect themselves, turn on the self-defense mechanism , and suppress a series of emotions into the subconscious mind.
on the surface seems to be fine, and there are no excessive behaviors and emotions.
But this is exactly the problem. What really hurts a person for a long time is not the loss itself, but the things that continue to do to escape pain.
When sadness and emotional values accumulate to the point where you cannot bear it, the terrible explosion in an instant is the most terrifying thing, and you can even directly defeat a giant.
Everyone has different manifestations of sadness. It seems to be a strategy that can protect themselves in a short period of time, but the terrible thing in the long run is that if avoiding and suppressing sadness is a normal state, it will eventually lead to unbearableness, and it is very likely that it is already "severely ill".
But temporary evasion and temporary suppression will not solve the problem, but the problem has always existed.
If we keep trying to maintain a false positive and false optimistic state and forcibly cover up the problems in reality, it will be of no benefit to our real life at all, and on the contrary it will also play a resistance. There is always a problem with
that has not been solved. It's like a person hiding in a condom, or the emperor's new clothes.
Therefore, we must not be such a "self". We will hide our true selves and events behind all the false glory. Those illusory things will not bring substantial satisfaction and happiness to ourselves.
is like a headache that is slit after sobering up. Only by experiencing pain can you gain the self after sobering up, but it is difficult to quit after repeated alcohol paralysis and addiction.
face the problem directly, face your own pseudo-strongness, and never lose your truest "self".
at the end:
I don’t know, have you seen the Russian high-scoring short film "Hard! This muddy life.
Remember to go and take a look if you have time.
This sharing ends here. Thank you for your friends who see this and wish you all the best.
The world is so beautiful, please be sure to take good care of yourself.
Good Day
2022.12.10
