Why does a person become less talkative and less interested in interacting with others?
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I wonder if you have the feeling of ? I was clearly feeling aggrieved, and I swallowed it again; I watched others talk and laugh, but you didn’t want to speak, and I would rather stay quietly alone...
In fact, changes in a person often do not happen suddenly, but may have experienced some changes, or there may be other reasons.
1. Seeing through the warmth and warmth of human feelings, it is useless to say more
In the past, we liked to say because we didn’t know that people’s hearts were sinister. For rumors, you must explain them. When you hear gossip, clarify them immediately; if you have any worries, you will tell them to others, hoping that others can comfort yourself, which will cause you a lot of worries.
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As you get older, you live a transparent life and see indifferently. Instead of entangling with these bad people and things, it is better to shut up and fully understand that there is no real empathy in the world. It is better to stay silent and live your life quietly.
Instead of wasting time to talk to others and get a few perfunctory responses, it is better to use this time to do more meaningful things.
·02. Not good at socializing, just let yourself go
For "social terror", social occasions that are not suitable for are simply nightmare. Even if you don't speak or move, you feel uncomfortable all over.
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They are afraid of performing poorly in social occasions, so they will pay special attention to their words, actions, and actions. Any small mistake will make them feel embarrassed and embarrassed.
They amplify not only their own performance, but also other people's reactions. When others look at each other, they feel that they are expressing dissatisfaction to themselves; a irrelevant word can also stage a Qing Palace drama in their hearts.
Everyone wants to leave a good impression on others and have good interpersonal relationships, but social interaction can bring benefits, but it can also bring pressure.
When this pressure is so great that it makes people tired of dealing with it, some people will choose " to make " and give up unnecessary social interaction. For things you are not good at, you don’t have to force yourself. Facing unbearable pressure, retreating is also a choice.
Of course, retreating does not mean being in the same place, nor does it mean that they will close themselves. In situations where they are not adapted, they will choose to remain silent and not actively socialize with others, but in their own circle, they may be a "talks" and talk in front of familiar people.
They just want to live a relaxed life and be with people who are comfortable with each other, and don’t be tired of themselves in order to deliberately cater to others.
3. I have had trauma in my heart and I am unwilling to open my heart
When a cheerful person becomes silent, it is likely that he has experienced some things that have made him lose his enthusiasm and confidence in life.
Maybe it is the departure of the closest relative, maybe it is the betrayal of a lover, or maybe it is a career failure. The huge blow is unbearable, so I will protect myself and isolate my contact with the outside world with silence.
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In their inner world, they are full of helplessness and torture, and they know that people's hearts are complex and unpredictable. Instead of telling their thoughts and being mocked, it is better to hide silently and bear it alone.
Only those who are sincere and patient enough can win their trust and open their closed hearts.
4. It is different from the people around you. I don’t want to force myself to be together
When I was young, I was keen on socializing. We thought that one more friend would be more paths, so we tried our best to make friends, so we went to make friends and then experienced the worldly ways and saw some people clearly. After being hurt and cheated, we gradually understood what we wanted.
Thoughts are at the same level and cognitions are at the same level. There are endless topics to talk about and endless things to talk about. Only by being with such a person can you open your heart and be scruples.
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When he can’t find people with common interests and hobbies and similar views in the crowd, it will be difficult to communicate with others. They may not be interested in other people's topics; others may not be able to understand their views.
But out of politeness and respect, and having to pretend to cater, this will make socializing a thing that consumes time and energy, and is also tiring.
Time is precious, it cannot be wasted in vain, energy is limited, and you cannot give it to others at will. Staying away from ineffective social interaction, no longer talking to others, no longer talking endlessly, leaving time and energy to people who deserve it, and speaking freely with sincere friends is the most important thing.
Instead of trying to force yourself and say too many lies and empty words, it is better to say nothing and do your own thing quietly. Learn to think in silence, improve your ability to think independently, and also have a fulfilling life.
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In this world, nothing is unchanging, especially people, which are easier to change.
When a person becomes unwilling to speak or interact with others, it means that he must have experienced something and was hit, deceived and hurt. Through these things, you can understand what you want and how to be a person and do things in your future life.
People like this have a strong heart and live a clear life, and will no longer be afraid of loneliness and gossip. As long as you live faithfully in your heart and make life less regrets as possible, it will be an amazing life.
Life comes alone and walks alone, nothing to be sad. I hope each of us can manage ourselves well, not discuss other people’s changes, give respect, not care about other people’s evaluations, and act as we like!
