See such a comic online.
A man looks at people through the crack in the door, but blames others for being flat.
In life, we often hate a person because of one thing or one sentence.
But in fact, it may not be someone else's fault, or it may be that what you see is not the whole picture of things.
Let go of the prejudice in your heart, push open the door to prejudice, and you will see a more real world.
Don’t hate someone easily, it is a manifestation of a person becoming more and more mature.
People you can't stand may be behind the pain you can't imagine.
Van Gao said: "Everyone has a fire in his heart, and those passing by only see smoke."
On the road of life, we are all "outsiders" in other people's world. What you see may not be the true appearance of the other party.
Under the calm appearance, perhaps the heart is experiencing chaos. No one can share the burden of life, and no place to relieve the barriers in your heart. Only you know the taste of
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Netizen @Xiaowen shared such a story.
There is a colleague in the company. She always comes very late when she eats at noon. When she comes, most of them have finished eating and left.
She only cooks 50 cents each time, and does not cook vegetables, but scoops a bowl of free vegetable soup and eats it with a bite of rice and soup.
For a long time, some people began to feel uncomfortable and talked about it privately. Some people said she was stingy, and some people said she was frugal.
There were even people who deliberately joked in front of her: "Look, the person who drinks soup for free is here again."
Every time she listened, she bowed her head and said nothing.
One day at noon, Xiaowen worked overtime temporarily, and there were only a few people when she entered the restaurant. Xiaowen saw her sitting alone in the corner eating.
Xiaowen finished the meal, walked to her and sat down, and asked softly, "You only drink soup, can your body do it?"
She paused for a moment and said stutteringly, "I know someone is talking about it, but my husband is sick and has not been to work. The child is still in school. There is no way to be unconscious."
Psychology, there is a phenomenon called "projection effect".
says that people often judge others by themselves, regard what they think and see as standards, and analyze and judge other people's lives.
Little do you know that the so-called truth you see is just the tip of the iceberg; people you can't stand may be suffering behind them that you can't imagine.
In this world, not everyone is rich and worry-free, not everyone is free and comfortable. There are always some people who try their best but still have a hard time.
The assumption that does not ask about the truth is actually a licking of the skin and talking about the bones; the comments that don’t know are like adding insult to injury.
The situation is different, so it is better to be cautious when speaking; the position is different, and it is better to understand it as the top.
If you cannot see the whole picture, it is also a kindness and understanding if you cannot understand the fire and maintain silence appropriately.
Source: Panoramic Vision
Never hate a person easily
Kill one There is a sentence in Mockingbird " that is deeply touching:
"Unless you wear someone's shoes and walk around like him, you will never really understand someone."
When interacting with people, if you always have preconceptions, you will lose your ability to distinguish. Looking at problems will not only misunderstand others, but also make yourself regretful.
Zhang Bank of China When he served as the editor of "Interpretation of the World", he asked the writer Yu Pingbo for manuscripts.
Yu Pingbo happily agreed and wrote a long article. Zhang Zhongxing was very satisfied and the article was published soon.
After a while, Yu Pingbo wrote a letter to inquire about the royalties.
Zhang Zhong Chuan didn’t understand after reading it: Such a famous writer cares so much about the trivial matter of manuscript fees?
Therefore, he had a view of Yu Pingbo and felt that it was too vulgar and no longer dating him.
It was not until Yu Pingbo died that Zhang Zhongxing knew the reason behind it.
It turned out that when he asked Yu Pingbo to make an appointment, it was when Yu Pingbo was most short of money. He lived a very difficult life and could only rely on his wife to pawn things.
After learning the truth, Zhang Zhongxing felt guilty. He regretted that he should have made a rash and made a wrong conclusion without understanding Yu Pingbo's difficulties.
On the road of life, some people are going well, while others are struggling. Everyone has their own situation and everyone has their own difficulties.
If we always look at the problem from our own position, we can only see our own difficulties and ignore other people's difficulties.
The prejudice and barriers between people are often caused by us not thinking about problems from the other party’s standpoint.
So, don’t rush to judge others’ right or wrong, and don’t hate someone easily.
The world of adults always has some pain and hardships that are hard to describe.
Only by looking at the problem from a different perspective can you understand the truth behind it and draw more strength in a relationship.
Source: Panoramic Vision
Understand others and fulfill yourself
During the Republic of China, Cai Yuanpei was appointed as the principal of Peking University .
In order to improve the level of Peking University's school management, he introduced talents, and the famous scholar Gu Hongming is one of them.
Gu Hongming has profound attainments in Chinese studies and loves Chinese traditional culture . He is a firm guardian of traditional culture.
At that time, Peking University was the source of the new culture movement , but Gu Hongming, who advocated ancient literature and Confucianism, publicly opposed the new culture movement advocated by Cai Yuanpei, which brought great pressure to Cai Yuanpei.
Many students at Peking University have called for him to be fired.
Just when Gu Hongming was in a very awkward situation, Cai Yuanpei stepped forward and kept him amid opposition.
Cai Yuanpei said: "Although Gu Hongming has different views from me, he is knowledgeable and talented, and Peking University needs him."
Later, someone called the conservative masters of Chinese studies to negotiate, criticize the New Culture Movement, and attempted to send Cai Yuanpei to the moral court.
Just as the outside world was talking, Gu Hongming stood up and tried his best to defend: "I, Gu Hongming, believe that Mr. Cai, will definitely not abandon Peking University." After the storm, Gu Hongming gave a series of lectures on " The Spirit of the Chinese " that Gu Hongming presided over was popular at Peking University.
Peking University has also become a school with all kinds of flowers under the management of Cai Yuanpei.
Everyone has their own aspirations and their origins are unique.
Everyone has their own values, and it is inevitable to see problems one-sidedly. A person with a broad vision often knows how to let go of prejudice and respect the other person.
is also as Kant said: "I respect any independent soul. Although I do not recognize some, I will understand them as much as possible."
No matter how vast the forest is, there are no two exactly the same trees; no matter how vast the world is, there are no two exactly the same people.
When faced with people who are biased from their own opinions and choose inconsistently, try to understand more and learn to be more tolerant, which may lead to a good relationship.
If you feel a grudge, reject the other party, or even hate others, you will inevitably be biased.
The most comfortable relationship between people is to understand each other and fulfill each other.
Different ideas, just respect; different directions, just wish you blessings.
If you give goodwill to others, others will also repay you. Learn to understand others, and in the end you will be yourself.
Source: Panoramic Vision
The word "彩" is composed of "彩" and "彩". "彩" means that the road is walked with the feet, and "彩" means that everyone has their own path.
Walking in the world, you have your sufferings, and he has his difficulties. You may not know other people’s difficulties, and you may not be able to understand other people’s difficulties.
Never hate someone easily, eliminate prejudice, and blessings come naturally.
Respect others' differences is also paving the way for yourself; understanding the other person's difficulties is also accumulating blessings for yourself; understanding other people's difficulties is also a fulfillment of yourself.
Having a tolerant heart, having kindness at all times and warmth everywhere is a person's greatest maturity.
Author: Tang Tang, life is trivial, writing is the export.
