In life, from youth to youth and then to middle age is an inevitable growth process. No matter what age group, there are troubles of that age group. Born as a human being, there are many things to bear. It is not easy to deal with what happens in your life. It always leaves some regrets and always encounters some worrying things.
In childhood, you may be upset by your parents; in youth, you may be confused by love; in youth, you may be worried about your future; in middle age, you may be worried about your troubles. The so-called "middle-life crisis" has retreated from the immaturity of adolescents at this age, and there is not much time left to struggle for your dreams, and there is not much "capital" for trial and error.
What you want to do is not done well, what you want to get is not obtained, and what you don’t want to lose is slowly losing. This will make people feel tormented from the bottom of their hearts. Can you not worry about it? When people reach middle age, there will be three kinds of "sorrow". I hope you won't have it.
1. If you want to do something, you often feel that you are willing but not able to do it.
When I was young, I was full of energy and was still full of energy for several nights, as if I had infinite physical strength; no matter what I did, I was very energetic, not afraid of trial and error, not afraid of falling, not afraid of others' jokes, as if there was nothing in this world that I could not do.
The so-called "a newborn calf is not afraid of a tiger". Young means strength. The younger you are, the more you will feel that you can control your destiny and let your life develop towards the results you imagine.
However, when people reach middle age, they will experience some things, some setbacks, some price that they can't bear for the wrong things, and some will hit a wall. These are valuable experiences in their lives, and experience itself is a "double-edged sword". It will make you no longer be rash and no longer repeat the same mistakes, and at the same time it will make you cringe, fall into path dependence, dare not make arbitrary progress, and dare not try and make mistakes willful.
At the same time, when a person reaches middle age, his learning ability or physical strength may not be as good as a teenager, so "having to accept old age" is a problem that he cannot avoid.
2. I want to make up for some previous loopholes, but I find that it is difficult to recover from the flood.
A person has experienced childhood, youth, and youth. Looking back on the past, there will inevitably be some loopholes and some regrets.
In childhood, I felt that I hadn’t had enough fun; when I was a teenager, I met the opposite sex I like, and for some reasons, I missed it. When I was a young man, I wanted to improve my studies and do something, but it was ultimately because of my own limitations and conditions, and I didn’t get what I wanted.
The above is often a regret in a person's heart. If you are unwilling to let go, it is easy to become an obsession that a person will find difficult to let go for the rest of his life. When he reaches middle age, he is often troubled by these obsessions. He wants to let go, but he is unwilling to accept it. He wants to fight for it in the end, but finds that many things have been overwhelmed and the regrets he once was irreparable. Just like some people secretly fall in love with a opposite sex, when they are middle-aged, they still think about the other person and want to make up for the regrets they used to do. However, the green years have long passed, and things have changed, so how can this regret be compensated? Some years will not be the second time once they pass. If you forcefully make up for it, you will just deceive yourself.
3. There are many bottlenecks in career and academic studies, and there is a lack of motivation.
As a middle-aged person, the road of life continues, and getting old is an unavoidable problem.
Before getting older, there are still many responsibilities to shoulder, and there are still many things to do. Whether it is study, work, or life, there are endless things to deal with.
However, when a person reaches middle age, the things he has to do are complicated, and most middle-aged people have to take on the problems they encounter, and it is difficult for him to find a partner to complain about, and it is difficult for him to count on others to help him. This is a "lostness" that he cannot avoid.
At the same time, when he encounters things, he often encounters some bottlenecks and often hits walls. As the number of times he hits walls, it will make them feel tormented in their hearts, slowly erode their fighting spirit, and make them become more and more eager. He has no choice but to take it lightly and choose to lie flat. However, this is not the lingering sorrow in their hearts.
