First Learn to dare to express your needs
The education we have received since childhood seems to directly put forward our needs as a manifestation of being selfish; so when we face our needs, we often feel ashamed and feel that directly telling others what I want is a selfish behavior that will affect others. In reality, people who always dare not express their needs and never bother others will often suffer a certain amount of loss and are in a weak position in the competition.
For example: At work, you only know how to do it silently and dare not come up with the idea of wanting a raise or promotion will make your leader get used to your "desireless" state, so you will default that you have no needs. On the contrary, colleagues who dared to propose were promoted and paid a salary increase not long after!
So, if you have any needs, as long as it is normal and reasonable, don’t suppress yourself too much, just express it directly. We must express our normal needs and desires confidently and bravely, and strive to be the person we want to be.
Children dare to express their needs, and most people think that childhood is the happiest!
Happy children
2 Do what you like
Many people are always timid when facing life, dare not express their emotions directly, nor dare to do what they really like. They have found a lot of excuses to hide themselves, but in fact, such people are not happy. In their short life, being able to do what they really want to do, say what they want to say, don’t go with the flow, face themselves truthfully, and respect their inner feelings. This is a great pleasure in life.
What is happiness? Happiness is to do whatever you want and do what you want. When doing what you like, you are full of energy. Only when people do what they want to do can they have abundant enthusiasm and energy. Sometimes it is difficult to do the job you like, but at least you should strive for it instead of giving up easily, because only in this way can we get happiness from it. The greatest value of life is an experience with limited time. Nothing can make this experience better than doing what you like. A very important topic in life is to find what you like and devote yourself to it. This is the source of a person's sense of value.
Third deep understanding of yourself, accept your imperfections, and don’t over-deny yourself
When you make a mistake, or you can’t do anything, you will feel sad, even painful. These unpleasant feelings are like traps, which will trap many people in it. At this time, we will continue to strengthen the belief: "I am not good enough." "I am really useless." It is not embarrassing to realize that your abilities are limited. Some things you can do well, but some things you are powerless. Live out real people, they will live openly and openly. What they pursue is to live out themselves, not to express external perfection. This external perfection is the expectation of others' recognition, is to live for others, and is to live for others.
Fourth You have no obligation to make everyone satisfied
No one likes the feeling of not being liked. When someone hates you, you may unconsciously reflect on it to see if you have done something wrong. Sometimes it is indeed your problem, but there are also many times when it is not your problem, but the problem of the person who hates you. For example, it may be because of a misunderstanding, or it may just be disliked. "Looking from the horizontal, it becomes a peak, and the distance is different, and the height is different." It is impossible to have a unified conclusion in everything. We cannot make everyone satisfied with us, so we can use their opinions as references, but we cannot replace our own opinions. We should not be bound by the diagnosis of others and we should not be bound by our progress. Follow your passion, your heart, and they will lead you to realize your dreams.
Fifth Learning to reject
is a bad feeling to be rejected, but often this bad feeling is necessary.For example, if someone borrows money from you, but the person’s credit is not very good. Once you borrow it, you may never be able to take it back. At this time, you need to refuse. So rejection is a ability, and the value of this ability is to protect us, protect us from being hurt or deceived.
Sanmao once said: "Don't be afraid to reject others, because when a person asks, he has prepared two answers in his heart, so giving him any answer is expected." He is prepared for success or failure, and it does not depend on how you answer.
Only when you reject the life you don’t want is more likely to get the life you want.
