As the saying goes, "It is difficult to become a person without being poor, and it is not a blow to the innocent."
The more things a person experiences, the less he will have too high expectations for human nature and human feelings.
Because they know that relying too much on others often leads to disappointment.
"The mountains will fall, and everyone will run."
Only by making yourself stronger and more valuable can you gain a true sense of security.
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Can see the complexion
I have heard this sentence: "Shame-skinned is the most amazing talent of a person."
In life, we always have to look at some ugly faces.
If we are too sensitive and care too much about other people's faces, it is likely to cause huge mental internal friction.
Some people show a disgusting expression towards us.
So we either get angry or change ourselves to get their likes. There is actually not much need for both
.
In life, it is impossible to get everyone's likes, and there are always people who hate us.
Some people hate us, it doesn’t necessarily mean that we are bad, it may also be because the other party has different views on ours.
"A big belly can tolerate things that are hard tolerant in the world."
A person's real big picture is reflected in how to treat "people who hate themselves".
In the face of the disgust and incomprehension of others, you can just laugh it off and be calm and gentle. Only those who are free and open-minded are truly free and open-minded.
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Can hear the truth
Confucius said: "Smart words are so beautiful, and they are very kind."
nice words, everyone loves to listen to.
Therefore, some people with "unrighteous minds" try to confuse people with "sweet words" to achieve their improper goals.
People who are truly reliable and good for us often don’t have too many “good” words. Why is
?
Because good words, although pleasant to the ears and heart, they cannot play a real guiding role in our behavior.
So, what can it play a role of "guidance" and "warning"?
The answer is: True .
Because the truth often conforms to our actual situation, it can cause us to reflect on. Through reflection, we can discover our own shortcomings and correct our own shortcomings. In this way, we can improve day by day.
Telling the truth is often dangerous.
at the very least it will cause the other party to be disgusted, and at the worst it will cause the other party to be retaliated.
So, most people often dare not tell the truth.
If a person hears some "flattering good words", then he will be not far from "crowding in the gutter".
A truly powerful person will not only not be disgusted when facing people who dare to tell the truth to them, but will instead trust the other party more.
"A good medicine is good for diseases, and honest words are unpleasant and beneficial for actions."
Only when a person dares to listen to the truth, loves to listen to the truth, and often listens to the truth can he move more steadily and go further.
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Can do difficult things
The sign that a person starts to lose is to indulge in the comfort zone and not be enterprising.
A philosopher once said: "Everything is changing, the only thing that remains unchanged is change."
If you only know how to be greedy for pleasure and stay indifferent, then you may be eliminated by the times.
When people are in peace, they must have the awareness of "being prepared for danger in times of peace".
When you are stable, only by constantly challenging yourself and improving yourself can you calmly deal with possible changes in the future.
When I was in school, some people would rather do a lot of simple questions than do a few difficult questions.
results, they often find it difficult to achieve too much results.
If a person wants to break through the boundaries of his ability, he must be brave enough to do some difficult things.
When you bite your teeth and try every means to solve the difficult problems, then your own abilities will be improved unknowingly.
Lu Xun said: " There is no road in this world. If more people walk, it becomes a road. "
Only when a person is not afraid of difficulties, constantly groping, taking one step, and taking another step can he walk out of his own smooth road.
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Challenges are sometimes opportunities.
Facing the challenge, the cowards chose to escape.
So, while avoiding the challenges, they also lost the opportunity; brave people can meet the challenges, so they can seize the "olive branch" given by God in time.
failure is not scary, it is scary to lose without a fight.
Only when a person has the courage to accept various challenges can he have the opportunity to create miracles.
◇Source: Philosophy
