A heart is very small, and there are even fewer people who can truly put it in your heart. If you want to forget that person, you have to eliminate it little by little and cut it out from your heart little by little.
It is really difficult to let go when facing someone you once loved deeply, but when facing an ending relationship, the only way forward is to forget that person.
There are really many helplessness in life, and choosing to forget someone is one of them.
Want to love, but the person you once loved deeply has left, so you can only pack up your memories alone, move forward, turn the past into the past, make the past the real past, and make the future a visible future.
In the first period of time, if we want to cut a person out of our hearts, we will feel particularly painful and uncomfortable, and even have various delusions to numb ourselves and let ourselves fall into depravity.
You should know that if you didn’t give sincerely at the beginning, there wouldn’t be so much pain later. If you couldn’t survive the short-term pain, you would be in pain in the future.
The ultimate goal of life for decades is to make yourself live a happier life. So, if the future is no longer clear, why can’t you choose another way?
In this world, everyone is the same without it, so don’t pin your hope on the impossible.
The most direct way to forget someone is to have one word: busy.
In the book "Happy Knowledge", Nietzsche wrote:
"Life is short, and even if the god of death sends a call in the next second, it is quite common. If you want to do more things in a limited time, you must know how to put aside and give up, but you don't have to worry. The reason is: When you act hard, those unnecessary things will automatically leave like yellow leaves."
is the same in the world of emotions.
If you are used to meditation and thinking, you will only fall into troubles over and over again and be tortured by pain, but if you start taking the first step of action, then many so-called troubles will automatically disappear.
Because most of the troubles in this world come from delusions, they have too high expectations for unrealistic things, and when the expectations fail, they are disappointed over and over again and a little bit negative.
If you want to forget someone, don’t let yourself have too many delusions before this.
Take action and try to forget the person in your heart, instead of forgetting while saying that, but quietly moving out time to miss the other person crazy.
Make yourself busy and get busy until you don’t have time to recall the past.
Maybe before that, you will feel that you cannot live without the other person's company and the care of others. But later, when you know how to live alone, when you know how to enjoy loneliness, you will find that there is really no one in this world that cannot live without anyone.
Even if you still haven’t met someone who loves you deeply, at least, you can love yourself.
keeps yourself busy, don’t have time to check the other person’s dynamics, don’t have time to recall the beauty of the past, over time, when your life is full of more beautiful memories, and when your horizons become more open, you will no longer be nostalgic for those who were once unworthy.
All the thoughts in this world are gradually forgotten in the days when you are obsessed with it.
After ordering the time, you can avoid longing taking up too much time and avoid pain taking up too much emotions.
Any relationship is the result of two-way pursuit. If someone chooses to leave on his own initiative, it means that the relationship has ended.
A person’s efforts to recover are in vain. It will only waste your time and energy, and only consume your passion and love.
Some people think that they once paid so much, but ended up with such a result. Is this fair?
But feelings are unfair, the efforts I have been willing, and the feelings I have been real, so what can I hate? If you really say hate, you can only hate yourself for not knowing people well and for not having the ability to manage your relationship.
Since the relationship has reached an irreversible level, choose to forget it.
Don’t let unrealistic delusions affect your current happiness and make yourself lose the opportunity to get happiness.
does not leave time to the person who has left. Slowly, the position of the person who has left in your heart will change, from the original irreplaceable to the present no longer important.
Zhang Ailing once said:
"Meeting the right person at the right time is happiness; meeting the wrong person at the right time is sad; meeting the right person at the wrong time is sigh; meeting the wrong person at the wrong time is helpless."
If two people do not go to the end, it means that they are not the right person.
When a relationship reaches its end, the only way is to forget, and forget someone. The most direct way is to have one word: busy.
When you are so busy that you don’t have time to be pretentious, you will naturally forget someone.
Carnegie said that a sentence written in "Women's Pattern Determined the Ending" is worth learning from:
"The best way to love a person is to manage yourself well and give the other party a high-quality lover."
If you can become better, know how to manage your feelings, and know how to respect love, you will be able to reduce many unnecessary regrets in the future.
In the future, I hope you and I can: love yourself first and then love others, and make a living first and then love.
I am Aya, the writer of warm emotions. How lucky I can meet you in this life! Click to follow and let’s learn together!
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