survive, and life gradually dawns. If you can't stand it, you and I will have to be eliminated.
The world is actually particularly cruel because it has always followed the law of "sustaining natural choices and survival of the fittest". Whoever is not suitable for survival and development will be abandoned by nature.
If we want to keep up with the pace of life, we can only do this to the extreme - endure it.
Many people will say, I have been "suffering" for so many years, why haven't I made it through yet? Is it really meaningful to keep going?
No one can give a real answer to this kind of doubt. Because we are all practitioners in the purgatory of life, if we don’t advance, we will retreat, and no one can stay out of it. In this way, only if you keep going, there will be hope.
Especially those born in the 1960s and 1970s who have worked hard for half their lives, their hearts have long been extremely tired. At this time, they hope to take a break and don’t want to achieve any fame and career. They just want to live a more ordinary life.
Such a "stubborn" wish is actually not easy to realize. Just imagine, if you want to be plain and others also want to be plain, then won’t it be introverted? Once inclustered, everyone needs to put in more effort.
The post-60s and post-70s who are in an awkward situation cannot withstand these tests and have really been in vain for the first half of their lives.
1. Admission to "ordinary".
Someone said that The most advanced state of life is to accept the ordinary of parents in the early years, accept the ordinary of one's own in middle age, and accept the ordinary of children in the old age.
people, why do they become less happy the more they live? It seems to be a lack of material things, but in fact it lacks a heart that "accepts ordinary". Once a person does not know how to accept the ordinary, he will only live in a tangled and painful way.
Seeing that others earn 1 million, they can only earn 100,000, and they feel unhappy; seeing that other people’s parents are rich and their parents are ordinary people, they feel heartbroken; seeing that other people’s children are smart and their children are mediocre, they feel particularly unwilling.
, why is it necessary? As long as you spend as much money, as long as you spend; as long as your parents are healthy; as long as your children are happy. Isn’t this the life we should pursue?
cannot accept "ordinary", so we cannot live a transparent life. Those who cannot live clearly, just like those who are about to die, will eventually pass away in resentment, get nothing, and live in vain.
2. Adjustment for "internal consumption".
In recent years, one word has entered our vision - internal friction.
What exactly is internal consumption? To put it bluntly, is when we waste our energy for unnecessary people and things, thus causing unnecessary negative impact.
For example, if you are very tired at work and are scolded by someone, then you are too angry for this sentence. In this way, how can you live every day with a calm mind?
For example, when you encounter a choice, you have to worry about whether it is better to choose this or that one. In the end, you missed any opportunity and gained nothing.
people, once they fall into internal friction, they lose watermelon and sesame . Without internal friction, you can still have a calm heart. With internal friction, you will lose even your calm heart.
people are middle-aged and are half-confused and half-savvy. Don’t be petty about some small things, it’s better to be confused. I believe that your internal friction will become less and less.
3. Reduce unnecessary "anxiety".
What modern middle-aged people lack the most is anxiety. What I lack most should be that "quiet and far-reaching" heart.
Why does anxiety become the most reluctant level for middle-aged people? Because anxiety often occurs and we can't stop it, we are reluctant to admit that we are the anxious person.
Anxiety is like a ghost, surrounding us. We know that anxiety is not good, but we just like anxiety. The reason is that we do not have a confident and strong heart.
Seeing someone on the Internet promoting an annual salary of one million, we will feel inferior and then become anxious; seeing that people driving luxury cars in life, we will only drive ordinary small cars, we will also be anxious.
These anxiety are unnecessary. Because people have different situations, different families, and different backgrounds, there is no need to compare them. The more you compare, the more you suffer.
If you have the choice, be a calm person and reduce anxiety, you will be much happier.
4. Refine a heart that is "no matter how successful or failure".
Mr. Feng Zikai said that you should not be confused in your heart or be trapped in your emotions. Don’t be afraid of the future and don’t think about the past. So, well!
Don’t let your mind be confused, don’t let yourself be trapped by love, don’t be afraid of the unknown in the future, and don’t miss the regrets of the past. In this way, you and I can have a peaceful life.
If we want to keep our "mindset" from being confused, we need to start with the word "success or failure". does not complain about failure, nor is it proud of success. Doing your best and letting things go naturally is the way of nature.
has the truth that "Life and death have fate, wealth and honor are in heaven."
Success or failure is not something we can do ourselves, so why should we worry too much about the result of success or failure? When it is time to succeed, we will definitely succeed. And when it is time to fail, we cannot escape.
In this way, success or failure is not our pursuit, and the process of enjoyment is the only thing we need to do.
text/Shushan Youlu
