Ten years ago, we were friends... When we saw this topic, the song "Ten Years" immediately jumped out of our minds.
Ten years, it seems like a long time, but when I look back, I realize that it is so short. I was ten years ago, as if I was still in the light and shadow of yesterday. In fact, the old man had taken away ten years of time!
Ten years ago, I had just given birth to a baby and had just returned to work after taking maternity leave. At that time, I was busy and anxious and could not find a balance between work and life. I complained that every night when I was working night shifts and could not accompany my children, I always quit my job and transfer them to the direction of resignation and transfer...
For this reason, I forced my husband to find a way. Although I did not make a big fuss, I had an unhappy relationship with my husband.
People often say that choice is greater than effort. If you go in the wrong direction, no matter how hard you work, you will not get the results you want in the end.
When I was all my mind and just wanted to escape, all my efforts were in vain. Until today, I still haven't escaped from my night shift post that I hate deeply.
After the second child was released, I changed my goal of not working at night shifts to speed up the time to have a second child. In this way, my personal focus of life will be completely changed, and I will concentrate on preparing for pregnancy and getting pregnant, and successfully gave birth to the second child.
After becoming a mother of two children, while enjoying the joy of family life, I still failed to find the fun of work, and still worked hard to find a balance in my busyness and anxiety, always hoping to have more time to accompany my children.
just move forward day by day, step by step. I never thought that time passed so quickly. When the second baby was already in school, when I found a new direction in my life, and when reading and writing became my compulsory courses every day, it was actually ten years later.
Looking back on the days I have passed in the past ten years, when I recall it, there are more days in my mind full of sunshine and fewer periods of rainy rain, but some special periods are vivid in my mind.
Without the help of the elderly, neither couple can go to and from get off work normally and pull the two children to school. People with the same experience will definitely experience it.
Those resignation thoughts that have arisen many times died due to factors such as "unworthy" and "unwilling to give up". Now it seems that I want to say to myself ten years ago:
Thank you for gritting your teeth and persevering in those busy and helpless days. No matter how big the conflict between life and work is, no matter how busy the day and night, except for the guilt that you cannot accompany your children and worry about your children's mental health, you have never complained about the intimacy of life, your husband has no official position, your elderly are not capable, or your children are not well-behaved...
Even if you are extremely exploited at work, you have just lie in the hospital for three months after your body is broken, you have only complained about the unfairness of some leaders and have only protested against the unreasonableness of the
system.
Thank you for your natural tenacity and optimism, thank you for your natural love for your family and hardworking towards family life! Thank you for understanding the focus of life very early, not work but family.
Children are loved and willing to be born. As long as you don’t work night shifts, both children sleep soundly in your arms. Their attachment to you is so natural, and your caress for him is so natural.
No matter how unhappy you encounter at work, you have never brought your emotions back to your family, never treated your children as a punching bag, and never lost your temper with your two children.
You are such a person in the unit who can’t rub the sand in your eyes, but in front of your children, you are the "best mother". As long as there is a child in front of you, your emotions in
will be properly and stable.
Thank you for slowly getting rid of the impatient nature in your personality because of the role of "mother"! Thank you for your courage to choose to have another baby when you are busy with life!
You are such a person who loves to study and strives for progress. Although what you want is not promotion and wealth, you can calm down and read and write after forty years, so that you can slowly evolve from a state of deliberate "finding" to a situation of "not looking". This is also thanks to yourself who insisted on living hard ten years ago.
Yi Zhongtian once said: Reading Kong is a kind person, reading Meng is a kind of righteousness, reading Lao is a kind of wisdom, reading Zhuang is a kind of wisdom, reading ink is a kind of action, reading Han is a kind of cold eyes, reading Xun is a kind of self-improvement. Every family of the pre-Qin philosophers had to read, and once they had preferences, problems would arise.
All Schools of Thoughts, you have just started reading "The Analects of Confucius" and you have gained a lot of inspiration from it. So just read it slowly like this. I hope that this decade will be more satisfying than the previous decade!
I was not as calm as myself ten years ago, not as wise as myself now, and not as relaxed as myself now. But without the tenacity of me ten years ago, I would not have the stability of me now, without the change of direction ten years ago, I would not have the lovely second treasure now, without the obsession I gave up in time ten years ago, I would not have the leisure to read and write now!
I was not perfect ten years ago, but I deserve my deep gratitude! Thank you, I was ten years ago!
