text / Weichen
Parents are the backbone of a family. For many families, the closest time between brothers and sisters is when they are underage. At that time, our parents supported us. As children, we lived a carefree life, and the relationship between brothers and sisters was pure and simple.
As we grow older, everyone has their own life trajectory. Our parents are getting older and they are no longer able to protect us from wind and rain. The cruelty of life is vividly displayed in front of adults.
The brothers and sisters each got married and had their own families and responsibilities. From then on, the focus of life was no longer the old home, but a new family full of hope.
A family is like a big tree. Each member is a different branch growing on the same root system. With the baptism of wind and rain, some branches are thick and dense, while others are thin and yellow.
The life gap between brothers and sisters will become wider and wider as time goes by. Some will prosper while others will wither. It is really rare to flourish together.
Perhaps many young people think that the term "dislike the poor and love the rich" is unlikely to appear in their relatives, but the facts will ruthlessly make those who were once confident see the ugly truth of human nature.
"Zengguang Xianwen" says: "When you are poor in the busy city, no one cares about you, but when you are rich in the mountains, you have distant relatives. If you don't believe it, just look at the wine at the banquet. Cups of wine are served to the rich first. There is a high-headed horse tied in front of the door. It is not a person who comes in person, but also a person. . There is a begging stick in front of the door, and friends and relatives don't come to the door. In this world, gold is needed to make friends. If you don't have a lot of gold, you won't have a deep friendship. If you have money and wine, you will never see anyone who is in trouble. "
Every word of truth is precious. Human nature is such a reality. In the face of interests, no relationship can withstand the test.
When people reach middle age, they will understand that the relationship between brothers and sisters is never as simple as imagined. This kind of relationship that combines closeness by blood and competition for resources really cannot withstand the test of life.
If you want to maintain a good relationship between brothers and sisters, you must know how to keep a distance.
Although they are very close, they should never be too close to each other after adulthood. Especially when it comes to matters that may involve interests, it is best to make it clear in advance.
As the saying goes: "Brothers, let's settle the score." This is not to set up defenses in advance because of distrust, but a way to protect each other.
There are no two identical leaves in this world, nor are there two identical thoughts. Even brothers must clearly explain what needs to be said and express the feelings that need to be expressed before cooperation. Otherwise, once a misunderstanding occurs, it will become an irresolvable knot.
In life, don’t always feel embarrassed to say something when getting along with others, especially between relatives. The more embarrassed you are, the easier it is to hurt your feelings.
Since ancient times, there have been countless examples of how the closer the relationship, the more serious the harm will be. Some cases involve one party changing his or her mind, or other cases resulting in misunderstandings due to different perceptions.
In short, being unprepared and unclear will eventually become a weapon to hurt people, severing the once deep feelings between each other.
Although it is family love that is constantly cut off, the heaviness of this relationship can sometimes become a burden in life.
When brothers and sisters grow up and start their own families, don’t misplace yourself and still think that each other is the closest person. This behavior will not only lead to disharmony in your own small family, but also make family ties a burden to each other. .
After becoming an adult, the kind of family affection that can be clearly grasped is to look at it from a distance, to let it fly freely, rather than to hold it tightly in your hands for fear that the other person will have a new life trajectory.
When people reach middle age, the world in their eyes is very different from before. The affection between brothers and sisters can indeed make people feel warm, but life needs to develop after all, and your partner and children are not your relatives.
If the friendship between brothers and sisters is taken too seriously, it will inevitably affect the relationship between husband and wife and children. Any relationship has its own place. Knowing when to stop is enough to make the relationship more stable.
Try not to interfere in the family affairs of brothers and sisters. This is the most important thing for relatives to understand.
Brothers and sisters have never been a family. Everyone has his own life. There is no need to compare with each other, let alone become enemies for the so-called fairness and unfairness.
Even if the parents are indeed unfair and cannot level a bowl of water, they should not put this dissatisfaction on their brothers and sisters. It is the parents who are unfair, and there should be harmony between brothers and sisters.
There is another type of people in life who are very confused. When they reach adulthood, they do not compare themselves with outsiders, but compete with their brothers. Therefore, for many people, the people in the world who hate them the most are their brothers and sisters.
knows how to be considerate, try to forgive, and keep an appropriate distance. Only in this way can family love show its best appearance.
Never treat brothers and sisters as a family at any time, let alone pursue the so-called "average" and "fairness." Blood relationship is just a fate given by God. It cannot represent the future, let alone determine their own lives.
In the end, you still have to rely on yourself in life. The most beautiful fate between brothers and sisters is when they are minors. Don't expect too much in the rest of the time. If you expect too much, you will be disappointed.
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About the author: Wei Chen, a freelance writer and writing tutor. Often quiet, occasionally humorous.
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