There is such a question: "What is a person's biggest enemy?" A high praise person answered: "In this life, the biggest enemy is not poverty or disease, but the inability to control one's own life. It is always like this Being surrounded by people and things like that, you will n

had such a question: "What is a person's biggest enemy?"

had a high praise reply: "In this life, the biggest enemy is not poverty or disease, but the inability to control one's own life. Always. If you are influenced by such people and things, you will never be able to live your life according to your own wishes."

believes that. As women, we have multiple identities. We are mothers, wives, and daughters. Our lives are filled with children, husbands, and the elderly, but we forget that we are still ourselves.

You still have to walk your own path in life. The joys and sorrows are your own. You have to bear all the hardships and storms by yourself. Those who dictate your life cannot replace you. Therefore, breaking free from the constraints, being your own master, and ignoring other people's prejudices is the best way for women to live.

Just as the writer Yi Nan wrote in her new book "She and Her Islands": "My girl, what she wants to do and who she wants to like are all her own decisions. She will not do it because of others. "

In the book "She and Her Islands", the author tells the story of six women with different personalities. Through their own transformation and hard work, they broke through the barriers and were born in a humble life. , and ultimately become the master of your own destiny.

1 I want to make my own decisions about my life

Li Yijin is an ordinary girl with ordinary appearance and ordinary job. From childhood to adulthood, Li Yijin grew up under the 360-degree surveillance of her mother.

When he was a child, his mother would take care of which classmates Li Yijin made friends with and who he sat at the same table with. If his test scores declined, his mother would storm him. I finally got through it until I graduated and found a job elsewhere. Can I be free from my mother's control?

However, her mother still interfered in Li Yijin's life frequently. Her mother looked down upon Li Yijin's work and her boyfriend. Li Yijin was almost useless in her mother's eyes, and he often even had to endure her mother's criticism and criticism.

Li Yijin, who grew up in such an environment, was timid and had low self-esteem. Every time she was scolded by her mother, she always thought that she was not doing well enough. She resented her mother, and her biggest wish was to escape her mother's control, but she did not dare to express her wishes in person.

Later, under the influence of her cousin and friends, Li Yijin became brave. She decided not to escape and to be honest with her mother.

When she went home to visit relatives, Li Yijin confessed in front of her mother and grandma the struggles and pain she had felt in her heart for so many years in the face of her mother's strength, and made it clear that she would make her own decisions in the future of her life.

After getting rid of her mother's control, Li Yijin felt the joy of freedom and became more and more confident. He even supported his mother and put an end to years of unhappy marriage.

In this life, people have to face everything by themselves. In the face of parental interference and arrangements, we must dare to say no, no longer live under the control of our parents, and make our own decisions about our own lives.

2 How wonderful is the life of a person who controls his own life?

In sharp contrast to Li Yijin, it is her cousin Tao Shuna. Tao Shuna is the daughter of Li Yijin's second aunt Meng Wanqing. Tao Shuna has been smart and lovable since she was a child.

Tao Shuna has received the best education since she was a child. She has excellent grades and is versatile. She is a genius child in the eyes of the Meng family.

Her mother Meng Wanqing is an enlightened parent. She never interferes too much with her daughter and respects her daughter's choices in everything.

Whether she goes to college or chooses a major, it is Tao Shuna’s decision. Meng Wanqing never questions her daughter's choices. As long as it is a decision made by her daughter, she supports it.

Although they are mother and daughter, they are like sisters. Tao Shuna will talk to her mother about everything because her mother is her support and she trusts her mother.

Tao Shuna, who grew up like this, is brave and confident, dares to pursue her own ideals, and has her own opinion in everything.Tao Shuna is not only a doctoral student at a prestigious university, she also entered an internship in her favorite company, caught up with the boyfriend she has liked for a long time, and has a wonderful life.

If you take control of your own life and be the helmsman of your own life, you will have a more exciting life. When a person truly controls his own life and lives for himself, he truly respects life.

3 Bravely escape from the past, the world is broader

Li Yijin’s mother Meng Mingwei is the eldest son of the Meng family. As the eldest sister in the family, Meng Mingwei has been very sensible since she was a child. She helped her parents bring up her two younger sisters and helped her mother manage the factory. The world is this small world at home.

Meng Mingwei has never said what she wants to do, everything depends on her mother. Even when she got married, she followed her mother's arrangement and married an honest worker in the factory.

However, Meng Mingwei’s marital misfortune began here. Her husband had a twisted heart. He hated his parents for not caring about his wife, and he also hated himself for marrying a lame woman. He vented all his suppressed anger on Meng Mingwei.

He used the most vicious words to insult Meng Mingwei. He treated Meng Mingwei with the most indifferent attitude, and even became violent towards Meng Mingwei when she was pregnant.

Meng Mingwei thought about divorce, but for the sake of her daughter and the fear of others gossiping, she could only swallow her anger and get by.

After her daughter grew up and became independent, Meng Mingwei filed for divorce, but was rejected by her husband, who also encountered intensified abuse. Desperate Meng Mingwei once thought of committing suicide by jumping off a building. Later, with the help of her daughter and mother, Meng Mingwei finally divorced.

After the divorce, she had never felt so relaxed, as if a huge mountain had been lifted.

How many people are like Meng Mingwei, who are in unhappy marriages but don’t have the courage to come out. Maybe they are persisting for the sake of their children, or maybe they are afraid of other people’s gossip.

However, life is our own. We don’t need to live in the eyes of others, we don’t need to live in the world of children, and we don’t need to live in the coercion of secular values. We have our own life, our own life, our own Responsible.

Some people say that women have two fates, one is given by their parents and the other is given by marriage. In fact, a woman's destiny can be given by herself.

Life is like a boat. Only when the direction is in your own hands will you not get hurt. Only when you live for yourself can you be wonderful!