A good horse can be ridden by others, and a good person can be bullied by others. That's how it is in the real world.
If you are too kind, you will be regarded as a soft persimmon. As a person, you must know how to reject others, and don't let others think you are a bully.
Many people are often bullied and never dare to resist, for fear of offending others. In the end, not only do they lose their interests, but they are left in a weak position for a long time and do nothing.
In interpersonal communication, the more people know you, the more ruthless they will be to you. Remember the following five rules, and others will never dare to bully you again. Whether in the workplace or at home, you know why everyone makes things difficult for you. .
Don't blame others for being too unfriendly to you. Look for the reasons within yourself, make yourself stronger, and all problems will disappear naturally.
There are four essential reasons why you are being bullied.
First, never show your trump card
Your trump card has already been revealed by others. Whether it is your classmates, colleagues, or the male and female lover you just got along with, everyone is polite when they first get to know each other. of.
No one will bully you right away, because others will not bully you easily when they don't understand you. Then why did he bully you later? Just because they see your trump card, you become transparent in their eyes.
If someone says something disrespectful to you in front of you, or does something that makes you uncomfortable, it must not be like this on the first day they met you, but as you interact with each other and gradually play games with each other. One result, in other words, is that you personally cultivated him into a person who is unscrupulous towards you.
In the process of dating, you constantly make concessions and compromises to others. This allows them to see your weakness, and then gradually increase the pressure, become more aggressive, and go straight to your bottom line until they completely eat you.
Once this pattern is formed, it will be difficult to reverse it in the future. So remember, no matter who you associate with, never show your trump card, and never trust anyone without reservation, because once others think you are useless, they will turn around faster than turning the page in a book. .
Especially, when others find out your trump card, you may be in danger. Because finding out your trump card means that the other party knows your family background, your handles, your private affairs, and your fears. Then isn't this tantamount to harming yourself?
In the workplace, showing your trump card is equivalent to playing with fire and burning yourself. When interests are involved, you will lose completely. You can trust people, but you can never trust humanity.
Second, control your own mouth
Many people can manage not to speak ill of others, but they still cannot control their own mouth and like to reveal their true feelings to everyone. Remember not to reveal your feelings to anyone, not even the people closest to you. Why do you like to confide in people when you meet them?
When you are interacting with others, you want to show your honesty to gain the trust of the other person, and then you also hope that the other person can be as honest as you are, and then the two of you will become friends. This is correct, but most of the time Part of the time your sincerity is fed to the dog.
Revealing your true feelings is equivalent to running naked in front of the other party. When you have no reservations, the other party can betray you unscrupulously.
If you think about it carefully, if you have a falling out with your good friend, then he will know a lot of things about you, and then he will spread those things everywhere. So remember, the people who can put you to death are those who know you best.
In this world, people are not as smart as snakes swallowing elephants. You don’t know what other people’s intentions are at the beginning. The better you speak, the more likely you are to be deceived. Don't reveal your true feelings to anyone, so as to protect yourself.
Always remember that when you meet someone, you can only say a few words, but you can't give everything away.
Third, don’t let anyone touch your principles and bottom line
You can have a kind heart, but you can’t have no means of guarding against others. The most essential reason why others dare to bully you is because you are too weak.
Don't be too weak as a person, be tougher. If you are bullied, fight back immediately, and make the other party understand that if you mess with you, you will have to pay a higher price, and resolutely conquer the other party until you are conquered. We not only have to safeguard our own bottom line, but also let others see that I am not a soft persimmon and cannot be manipulated casually.
A very tough person, no one dares to touch his bottom line casually.
Fourth, don’t have a good temper when getting along with anyone. Your status depends on your strength.
The quality of a relationship does not depend on how you treat others, but on your own strength. Put away your excessive kindness. Be patient when encountering trouble and be ruthless in taking action.
To be a human being, you must have Buddha in your heart and a knife in your hand.
Only the strong can gain respect and tolerance from others at any time.
Your status is gained by your own step-by-step game, not by blind tolerance. People will pity the weak and sympathize with the weak, but they will only follow the strong.
Without value and ability, you will not be recognized if you are friendly to anyone.
Others respect you not because you are easy to talk to, but because you have strength and you are valuable to them. Therefore, if you want to be respected and popular, you need to quietly accumulate your own strength and improve your abilities. Become a person of value to others.
When you have the ability to crush others, you have to be merciful and merciful. This is the only time in your life. You might as well be bold, so that you can make high-quality friends.
Finally, I would like to remind you that if you want to stand up, you must first learn to stand up.
