must be clear about one thing, there are many people in this world who don’t like it.
Even if you don't have a close relationship with them, there is no conflict of interest.
You haven't even spoken a word or met once.
But others can just pass one of your updates or a photo.
can say many unfriendly and even vicious words to attack you.
There is no reason to like someone, and there is no reason to dislike someone.
Don't try to reconcile with people who don't like you.
Even if you lower your head, it will only make them despise you more. When
first joined the company, I met an aunt who targeted me everywhere.
is obviously not a department and has no intersection.
But this aunt just likes to publicly criticize me on various occasions.
met her only once when the newcomer introduced himself.
I can't think of anything I could have done to offend her.
only remembers that I introduced myself very seriously, but she interrupted me before I could finish speaking.
She impatiently asked the next person to continue, skipping me who was a little embarrassed.
I was still young at that time, so I didn’t take it to heart. During the trial period of
, I discovered that this aunt was really malicious towards me.
usually communicates with their department every time.
She has a dark face, arrogant words and deeds, and a bad attitude.
As if I owe her a lot of money, I talk like a gun and a stick.
At the beginning, I would doubt myself and wonder if I was doing something wrong.
also tried to be friendly with her, buying milk tea on a hot day to show her courtesy.
But such a lowly show of kindness did not win her favor.
On the contrary, she also talked among her colleagues about my lack of interest in work, which was trying to win people's hearts.
Later, she and some leaders in the company complained about me.
A leader with whom I have a good relationship told me exactly what she said.
Only then did I realize that this person hates me so much.
She mentioned so many shortcomings of mine and made it clear that she wanted to drive me out of the company.
What makes me wonder is that I have never had the slightest offense towards this aunt.
After I found out that she rejected me, I started to keep distance from her.
didn't even say hello when they met, and completely treated her as a transparent person.
thought that we would be able to live in peace with each other, but she never thought that another statement about "I am a noble person" would come out of her mouth.
A newcomer in the workplace was indifferent to her, an old man, and showed no courtesy at all.
Things like this that don't cause any real harm to me, but make me sick from time to time, basically never stop.
We are not a department and there is no competitive relationship.
Even so, it still can't stop her from finding trouble every now and then.
It wasn’t until I changed jobs that I lost my temper in front of her.
During the verbal dispute, I also figured out why she hated me.
doesn't have any so-called trigger, she simply doesn't like me.
That's it, she can continue to disgust me. The existence of this aunt
made me realize that I am not RMB and cannot be liked by everyone.
Whenever I hear bad comments from others in the future, I can simply ignore them.
Many times, we habitually reflect on ourselves.
It seems that most people's preferences are the standards, and non-compliance is their own fault.
But if you really take everyone's opinions to heart, you will only tire yourself to death.
Don’t say that we are just ordinary people. Even those glittering celebrities are also criticized.
Some celebrities have obviously done nothing evil, yet they are pointed at and scolded all day long.
If you occasionally make a mistake in one or two innocuous words, you will be sent to the execution platform for cyberbullying.
Even if they occasionally become famous without makeup, they will be scolded by a group of people for not paying attention to their image.
The reason why some celebrities have such heavy idol baggage.
It’s not because they like to wear masks, it’s because wearing a mask may make them less malicious.
But even a high-quality idol with no black spots still has a group of fans chasing after him and scolding him.
They are loved by so many people, and they are inevitably hated by some people.
We are just ordinary people running for life, how can we be liked by everyone.
Many times, the image you are trying to maintain is worthless in the eyes of others.
What you think is polite may be hypocritical and polite in the eyes of some people.
The three views you emphasize are very upright, but in the eyes of some people they are just stubborn.
Things you like are garbage in the eyes of people who don't like them.
What you say after careful consideration will be regarded as nonsense by people who don't like to hear it.
Others may not even care about the relationship you maintain deliberately.
The ideal that you have been holding on to for a long time may not be worthy of elegance in the eyes of some people.
If you spend your energy on changing their opinions, it will really be time-consuming and labor-intensive, with little effect.
Don't bother trying to please someone who doesn't like you.
Because there are many people who don't hate you waiting for you to make friends with.
Human beings are not born to please everyone with what you do.
Instead, find some people who can understand you and hug each other for warmth.
When you are unable to change others, you can only adjust your own mentality.
has some inexplicable maliciousness, and it doesn't appear because you are bad.
It's because they are different from you and insist on their own opinions.
As long as you don't hurt others, you can be true to yourself.
are all living for the first time. It is better to please others than to please yourself.
