When I was a child, my father often used the phrase "those who sing are lunatics, those who watch are fools" to encourage us children to read more, exercise more, and avoid being addicted to TV.

When I was a child, my father often used the phrase "those who sing in operas are lunatics, and those who watch operas are fools" to encourage us children to read more books, exercise more, and avoid being addicted to TV.

Only when I grew up did I realize that among adults, lunatics are everywhere, and fools are everywhere. has only changed its form. The TV has become a WeChat circle of friends.

If you pay a little attention, you will find that some people are very enthusiastic about posting to Moments. They post five, six or even a dozen posts a day, and they never tire of it. And some people seem to be enthusiastic and cheerful, and you can see his likes and comments everywhere.

In contrast, some people rarely post to Moments. Even if they are all visible, there are only a few updates. Some people have not even opened Moments. If you think about it carefully, most of these people are not lazy or introverted and have low self-esteem, but they belong to these three types of people.

1. Focus on the present and don’t like to pretend to be yourself.

People are selfish animals. It is human nature to speak freely and express themselves. But humans are also social animals and cannot do without the influence of the social environment.

In order to better adapt to society, we have to hide our dark side.

As a result, many people have learned to put on masks and disguise themselves.

WeChat Moments is an excellent disguise, convenient and low-cost.

I have a cousin who likes to post photos of herself in WeChat Moments, in a nine-square grid, once every morning, noon and evening.

But these selfie pictures are all the result of beauty + one hour of intensive editing. The picture of

is very beautiful. Every time, thirty or fifty people like it. A lot of people praise her for her beauty, and she is very happy to hear it.

For her, the way to make herself happy is nothing more than beauty camera + Xiuxiu processing + sending to WeChat Moments. The cost is very low and can be done with a mobile phone.

The beauty is very attractive to both men and women. Soon she got to know many rich girls, rich second generation, and elite men. Every day, there was a queue of people who came to chat with her or invite her to dinner, but they could not reply.

Countless flowers and applause made her feel that the world is very beautiful, and life is not as scary as what is said on the Internet, "The world is a nineteen-level purgatory."

However, she forgot that the netizens who saw her beauty through WeChat were only interested in her beauty, and it was difficult to establish a true friendship.

A fragile friendship will collapse when it encounters wind and rain.

Once my cousin was sick and needed surgery. I humbly asked around, but no one was willing to lend her money. Only a boy who sent her good night and good morning every day transferred 200 yuan. The cousin sent a thank you message, but the result showed "You are no longer the other party's friend, please send verification."

Only then did my cousin realize that ’s usual sweet words and greetings were just a sweet dream.

After waking up from the dream, everything returned to zero.

She simply cleared the photos in her circle of friends, changed her habit of taking selfies and editing pictures, and focused on real life.

An illness helped her see the friends around her clearly, and also taught her to recognize the true face of life.

When you have no real ability, beauty is not a help, but a resistance.

not to mention the beauty after refinement.

In addition to beautifying the face and body, WeChat Moments can also modify wealth and social status.

Many people like to post about their travels, luxury cars, villas, five-star hotels, and Michelin chefs in their circle of friends. It is too absolute to say that they are all fake, but a considerable number of people got it through shady channels. Get to know him. All my friends know that the beautiful pictures and videos posted in WeChat Moments are just short-term self-deception.

The circle of friends can deceive others, but it cannot deceive one's own heart, nor can it change the original appearance of life.

Instead of spending a lot of time making beautiful pictures and videos to please others and make money, it is better to put down your mobile phone and focus on improving yourself.

After understanding this truth, my cousin focused on the present, took the fitness instructor qualification certificate, and became an excellent fitness instructor in her spare time.

The students praised her for her good figure and temperament, and humbly asked her how to discipline herself. Her physical strength also greatly improved her work efficiency, and she was quickly promoted and received a salary increase.

If you pretend to be true, you will end up being false, and if you pretend to be true, you will end up being false.

A truly powerful person does not need to rely on the Internet to disguise himself. The money in his hand and the calmness of his heart are the best proof. No matter how beautiful the WeChat Moments are, it is just a dream.

2. Don’t like comparisons and complaints

As the saying goes, life is tiring, half comes from survival and half comes from comparison.

It is really helpless to run for survival. The family and the children are in urgent need of food. It is understandable, but if you are trapped by the heart of comparison, you are stupid.

There are mountains beyond the mountains, there is heaven beyond the sky, and there are still strong hands among the strong. Once a person is controlled by the desire to compare, it is like participating in an endless rock climbing and cannot stop.

I am not teaching you to be a mediocre person and give up fighting like an ant, but that proper comparison can activate your inner fighting spirit, and living in comparison all day long for fear of falling behind is tantamount to causing trouble for yourself. .

For a free publicity display column like Moments, everyone will naturally send their own achievements, advantages, and wealth. However, we need to distinguish the authenticity by ourselves.

If you continue to believe without thinking, and with the support of the heart of comparison, you will only add a lot of troubles to yourself.

Nowadays, the circle of friends is also where many people market their products. It is normal to promote and beautify their industry and work.

I have a WeChat friend who was added from another group and has never met in person.

He will disclose his income in the circle of friends every day, how many hours he has done consulting, how many courses he has sold, and how much money he has earned.

The number is very beautiful, and it makes me very excited. It once made me wonder whether I should become his teacher and switch to his industry. After all, the industry is more important than the position, and choice is more important than hard work.

However, by chance I discovered that the screenshots he sent were all duplicates. In fact, there were only two or three consultations, but he sent the same picture every time, but changed the copywriting, which made me mistakenly think that his daily income was A stable four to five thousand.

I believe that I am not the only one who has this idea. There must be people like me who feel envious when they see others making a lot of money and complain about their own incompetence.

However, how can there be so many good things in the world that are low-entry and profitable? Even if exists, by the time ordinary people in China learn about it, China's more than one billion people will have already turned into a red sea. Without special talents, you will just become a leek.

After understanding this truth, I focused on my own industry and no longer looked up to others. Not only was my work appreciated by my leaders, but I also slept much better.

Everyone has their own time zone. Only seeing the shortcomings of others will make us arrogant, and only seeing the advantages of others will make us humble.

In fact, there is no free lunch in the world. Most people have nothing to compare with or complain about. The greater the gain others gain, the more likely it is that their experience will be more miserable.

As the writer Liu Liangcheng said: We cannot see all the snow that falls in a person's life. Everyone spends the winter alone in their own lives.

3. Understand the nature of human nature: people’s joys and sorrows are not the same.

With the development and popularization of the Internet, we know more and more things and know more and more people.

You have business friends, ranging from two to three thousand friends to four to five thousand. Wherever you go, you are surrounded by people who say "Boss Zhang" and "Mr. Chen". In fact, how many people really care about you? Woolen cloth? How many people really understand you?

A netizen said that he had just renovated his house, so he took a few photos and posted them on WeChat Moments. He originally thought that everyone would congratulate him in unison, but he did not expect that the comment area was full of ridicule.

"Your house is too small. The 200-square-meter flat floor is so comfortable."

"The decoration style is too old-fashioned and not a big brand. I don't want it for free."

"The house faces south, and the color of the floor tiles is too dark." , it’s dark and there’s no light in winter, you’ll definitely regret it.”

After reading these comments, he closed the circle of friends in anger and tossed and turned for several days. His wife thought he was sick.

bought a well-decorated house with the money he had saved over the years, but was criticized by his friends on WeChat. He still doesn’t know where he went wrong.

From the nature of human nature, everyone cares most about themselves, and they are accustomed to looking for what they need from the lives of others.

So when you post all kinds of good things and sadness in your circle of friends, others are just posting them from their own perspective.

His remarks actually have nothing to do with you, they are what he needs. He doesn't know how you really feel, and he doesn't want to know.

" A man is dying of illness downstairs, the family next door is singing on the gramophone, and the opposite party is playing with their children. Upstairs, there are two people laughing wildly, and there is the sound of playing cards, and there is a woman on a boat in the river crying for her dead mother. Human The joys and sorrows are not connected, I just think they are noisy. " Mr. Lu Xun said.

People's joys and sorrows are not the same, which means that no one can truly understand others, and everyone's ultimate destination is themselves.

Sharing what you like with people who don’t understand is a kind of self-defeating loneliness.

Moments seem to be becoming more and more important, but in essence, they are becoming more and more understandable.

"Only in solitude can a person's soul see its own clarity and brightness, and enjoy the luxuriance and prosperity of life."