Half of people's troubles are choosing too fast and thinking too slowly. If you can do the opposite, choose slower and think more, you can reduce a lot of troubles.
We are used to escaping. When the current thing is not done well, we will choose to do another thing to avoid the previous thing.
It seems that the troubles have been transferred, but the root of the problem has not been solved. The same troubles will inevitably appear in the future, and they will only increase.
It's like having trouble at work but not seeking solutions, not improving personal skills but thinking of resigning to escape. So what should you do if you have trouble finding another job? Resigning again?
If you are dissatisfied with life and feel that life is difficult, you use marriage to divert your attention. Newlywed life may temporarily inject a little freshness into your unchanging life, but what happens after this freshness wears off? Life will continue to be a stagnant water.
We always pin the unsatisfactory life on things that have not happened, so that we make hasty choices. We try to use one thing to avoid another thing, but if we can't do the things in front of us well, how can we ensure that we can do things well in the future?
We don’t pay attention to choices, we always take one step at a time. Little do we know, the choices we make easily have already controlled our lives.
Maybe our current life is not what we want, but it is definitely our choice.
What kind of job we choose and what kind of people we choose to be with constitute our current situation.
Many people are actually aware of the other person’s shortcomings when they are in love, but they automatically ignore some flaws, thinking that things will get better in the future. But the reality is that flaws only get bigger and bigger, and contradictions accumulate.
Just like some men cheat, women don't divorce, but want to use children to keep men. But after having children, I realized how stupid the idea of using a child to keep a man is.
After Shanghai was lifted from the lockdown, local divorce registration appointments were full. Which of these marriages is not your choice?
Some people say that choice is greater than effort, and it is hard to disagree. There is no need to say much about hard work, but if you just put in the effort without aiming in the right direction, you will often get half the result with half the effort and come back in vain.
Some people choose a major that is not suitable for them, but their work is not going well, and some people delay themselves for the rest of their lives because they choose people who are not suitable for them.
A seemingly random choice may very well determine the rest of your life.
So, be slow when making your choices, aim before shooting, and let the bullets fly for a while.
