Sometimes, "chicken soup" is like a stimulant. When you are unable to move forward, it will tell you:
"Come on, the end is ahead."
However, there are some "poisonous chicken soups" that will not only affect our outlook on life, but sometimes also make our lives develop in the wrong direction.
In today’s article, Dachun summarizes some of the most poisonous “poisonous chicken soup” for friends. I hope that friends will not be confused again.
In the Internet age of free speech, we must look at various information flows with independent thinking and dialectical perspectives, so that we will not fall into a "thinking cycle" from which we cannot extricate ourselves.
01. There is only one kind of success in this world, and that is to spend your life the way you like.
This sentence makes sense at first glance, but if you think about it carefully, you will find:
It rationalizes that when we encounter difficulties All evasive behavior.
bought the best camera and planned to do new media photography, but gave up after half a month. The reason was that there were too many rules and he was bored; he spent money to buy a good piano and signed up for a professional piano training class. But later on, it was nothing, because I didn’t like it enough.
We yearn for the glamorous life of others, but rarely consider the difficulties and obstacles behind it. Once we encounter unexpected troubles, we will retreat;
Then, under the guise of "we don't like it", we come Let yourself give up with peace of mind.
In fact, in my opinion, this kind of dislike is to avoid trouble and avoid problems.
Although escape can indeed bring us short-term happiness, it can accumulate and accumulate troubles and obstacles that will one day swallow up our entire life.
We think that living "the way we like" is romantic and free, and is something that many people envy.
Little does he know, it will destroy a person invisibly.
If you don't have the courage to face the troubles in life, then "like" is the excuse you make for your cowardly self.
But if you can face those obstacles and troubles head-on, then "like" is your obsession with working silently and your belief in persevering to the end.
In the world, there are many ways to succeed, but none of them succeed by escaping.
02. You have to thank those who have hurt you, because their presence makes you stronger.
If you have ever been hurt and violated, you will understand the poisonous nature of this sentence.
When you face the betrayal of a friend, or even speak harshly to him, will you still stand next to him and pat his shoulder and say "it's okay"? When you are maliciously violated by bad people and your body and mind are severely damaged, will you still thank those evil people? When you suffer from domestic violence, will you still be grateful to the person who punched and kicked you and made you disappointed in life?
I believe that many people will say categorically: "No".
Harm is harm, it does not make us stronger.
What really makes us stronger is our reflection, understanding and relief from the harm.
There was a time when I was particularly concerned about other people’s feedback and comments on my articles.
Among them, what makes me unforgettable and cannot let go is the blow from the people around me:
Your article has no logic at all, so don’t dream of being a writer and just calm down and start writing; The language is not clear and the wording is inaccurate. , I have never seen such a bad article; ...
's excessive rhetoric and malicious suppression once made me doubt myself, had I chosen the wrong direction to work on?
There were even several times that made me think about giving up writing.
Am I too fragile and glass-hearted?
Later I found out that it was not.
As soon as your ideas and practices start to be different, you will be denied, ridiculed and suppressed from all aspects.
They try to use verbal attacks to make you understand that you can't do what they can't do.
But these injuries are like an invisible sharp blade, which will cut off the connection between you and your dreams bit by bit, and even wipe out all your passion for life, eventually reducing you to a The Walking Dead without expectations.
And do we want to thank these people who have reduced us to the walking dead?
No, what we should be grateful for is the one who has not changed his original intention and silently carried all the pressure and continued to move forward.
Just like Bi Shumin once said in "One Person is a Cavalry":
"I never thank those who want to insult me. They should not be grateful because of hatred and narrow-mindedness. Hatred and Narrowness can often kill people. You did not die because you saved yourself. There is only one person you should thank, and that is yourself. "
For those who have hurt us, Being able to avoid hatred and retaliation is already our greatest tolerance and kindness.
03. When you want to stop and rest, don’t forget that people who are better than you are still running
In marathon long-distance running competitions, if you observe carefully, you will find that those who win the championship often do not run the hardest in the early stages. The fastest player.
are those who accumulate strength at a constant speed in the early stage, steadily increase speed in the mid-term, and continue to exert force in the later stage.
Because this kind of people have their own rhythm and frequency.
In this era of fierce competition and excess talent, we are always worried that if we do not work hard enough, we will be eliminated by society.
So even stopping to rest for a while has become a luxury.
When I was an intern in a sales company, the heavy performance pressure once made me breathless.
Just when I was planning to take a few days off to rest, I saw that the seniors who were sure to win the "sales crown" every month were still working hard. In order not to be left behind, I finally had to join their ranks.
Under a week of "strong pressure", I found that my enthusiasm was being drained step by step, and my body also issued a series of warnings.
Later I discovered that if you target others and force yourself into other people's frames, you will not only lose your true self, but also add a lot of unnecessary troubles to yourself.
Therefore, I adjusted my work rhythm. I completed the tasks seriously when I went to work, signed up for classes after get off work to study and further my studies, and gave myself some time to relax on the weekends.
After a period of time, the work efficiency has been greatly improved. The suggestions put forward in the team discussion have also been adopted, and they have also been praised by the leaders.
Many colleagues are wondering why the plan they came up with after staying up late and working overtime is not as good as an intern’s idea.
You see, if we find the rhythm that suits us, slowly accumulate strength, and then at the right time, we can achieve overtaking in corners.
There are so many outstanding people in this world, but there are always some people you can't catch up with even if you try your best.
is not as good as just focusing on your own track and moving forward steadily at your own pace.
There is no need to worry or be anxious. After all, you are also running hard for the life you want.
Finally, Dachun wants to say that in this era where we can express our opinions freely, we must not lose our ability to think independently and make independent judgments.
Don’t let those poisonous chicken soup disrupt your rhythm, let alone let your values be controlled by the Internet.
I would like to share a paragraph with you, and I will end it with something I like very much:
"There are two major misunderstandings in life. One is to live for others to see, and the other is to watch others live; And truly wise people live for themselves."
