Perhaps, in life, too many of us are particularly afraid of loneliness and being alone.
Whenever I am alone, I always feel deep anxiety, as if I have been abandoned by the whole world.
Therefore, we deliberately become gregarious and obsessed with the hustle and bustle.
However, what did we get in the end? Although it was exciting in the end, it was a huge waste of energy and could only continue to be mediocre.
Loneliness is not as scary as we think. It just depends on how you use the time alone.
As written in "Settle for One's Time":
"A person's life can be plain, boring, and stagnant, or it can be a fulfilling, wonderful, and exciting adventure."
When you give up Get away from the bustle, stay away from the hustle and bustle, enjoy solitude, and learn how to be alone. Then you will find that it is easier to see poetry and the distance when you are alone.
Being alone is the best value-added period.
Venus said:
"Loneliness is the space you leave for yourself. When you are with others, you are more cooperative. Only when you are alone can you discover yourself and grow." "
It is true that when getting along with others, you must accommodate other people's ideas and time. Then at this time, you cannot do what you want to do wholeheartedly.
Only when we are alone, then all the time belongs to ourselves.
In this state, you can move forward without being dragged by others and pursue your own distance.
âs friend Daxun âdisappearedâ some time ago.
For several months, he didnât have dinner together, show up, or post on WeChat Moments. Every time I called him to come out for a gathering, he declined politely.
Just two days ago, he called and asked to invite some of our friends to dinner. I asked him: "What have you been doing during this time? If I don't see you again, I thought you were going to disappear."
Listen I teased him like this, and he smiled awkwardly and said:
"Isn't this to participate in a technical competition? During this period, I have been working hard every day."
"Looking at you with such a cheerful face, you must have won the grand prize, right?" I asked next.
"Well, just yesterday, I won the first prize. Not only did I get a bonus, the company also promoted me to a new position. I'm not happy about that, so I invite you guys to have a good gathering."
Poet Wang Guozhen said:
"Only those who control time can control life."
If a person is always afraid of being alone and always hopes to experience enthusiasm among people, then in the end time will often be wasted unconsciously.
Only when you enjoy being alone can you truly become the master of time.
then continues to grow, and finally reaches the place you want to reach, and completes the goal you expect.
Loneliness is the only way to grow.
There is a saying:
"All the brilliance that has ever been in life must be repaid with loneliness."
Perhaps, many people always feel that they are capable, even if it is a waste Time can also create a brilliant life.
But in fact, the cruelty of this world is far beyond your imagination.
Even if you try your best, you may not be able to live the life you want, let alone eating, drinking and having fun!
People must learn to face loneliness, because loneliness is something that each of us must experience. Even if you don't want to take the initiative to face loneliness, life will force you to face loneliness. In the
TV series " Golden Years ", Jiang Nansun was initially a little princess who was held in the palm of her family. She had a well-off family, beautiful appearance, and a boyfriend who responded to her every request.
Therefore, she has never been lonely, and of course she will never be lonely. She lives a carefree life every day.
But later, Jiang Nansun's father not only lost all his family property due to stock trading, but also owed huge debts.
To be honest, when she was most helpless, she wanted someone to shoulder the responsibility with her, but there was no one. Even her boyfriend, who she thought would always love her, deliberately alienated her at this moment and was eager to end the relationship with her. .
After that, she could only struggle alone, pay off her debts, and support her own future. Of course, it was this lonely moment that allowed her to quickly grow into an outstanding professional elite.
Martin said:
"Every strong person has gritted his teeth and lived through a period of time when no one helped, no one supported, and no one asked for help. After that, this is your coming-of-age ceremony; if you can't get through it, beg for mercy. This is Your bottomless pit. "
Loneliness, in many cases, doesn't come just because you don't want it.
When loneliness comes, only if you are not timid, welcome loneliness with a smile, and enjoy loneliness with the best attitude, loneliness will become your wealth.
In the end, after we get through it, the fatigue along the way will disappear, and what awaits us will be an endless smooth road.
In loneliness, cultivate yourself deeply.
The poet Bai Luomei once said:
"A person, a book, a cup of tea, and a curtain of dreams. Sometimes, loneliness is so heart-stirring, and only at this moment can things in the world be so uneventful. Shocked. "
In fact, the best time in life is not the hustle and bustle, but the loneliness when enjoying solitude.
When you know how to calm down in loneliness, you can better think about the future and do the things you like without any distractions.
Not only will you live a happier and more peaceful life, but you will also become a better person.
You still have a long life. I hope you can see the prosperity, be able to withstand loneliness, and then make your life more and more exciting.
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Author: Li Yuweiliang, a post-90s writer who is rational and emotional, likes to express personal opinions through words, and brings you spiritual healing, emotional confusion, and life insights.
