I've been there, comparison stole my life. Ever since I can remember, my mother likes to compare me with others. I am like a comparison tool that is better than houses, cars, cosmetics, to satisfy her huge vanity.

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Have you ever been compared with others?

Do you often compare yourself with others? I have experienced

, and comparison has stolen my life.

Indeed, appropriate comparison can stimulate people's fighting spirit. But endless comparisons will make people live in inferiority and self-doubt.

As Theodore Roosevelt said, "Comparison is the thief that steals happiness."

In the past, I have been living in comparison with others. When I was a child, my mother compared me with others. When I grew up, I Compare yourself to others.

As long as I can remember, my mother likes to compare me with others. I am like a comparison tool that is better than houses, cars, cosmetics, to satisfy her huge vanity.

"Look at Zhang Zhang, who has a perfect score in mathematics. What about you, 90 points? Is 90 points enough for you to eat?"

"People Tongtong can cook now, but you only know how to eat, but don't you know how to study more?"

"Don't you know how to speak? Don't you have a mouth? Zhuangzhuang always greets people when he sees them, but you are just like a mute."

People! People! People are everywhere!

But you are obviously my mother. , why do you always pay attention to others?

In the eyes of my mother, I seem to be useless, but I have obviously worked very hard.

But what my mother sees is always my shortcomings. No matter how hard I try to be good, she will always turn out another person who is better than me.

At the beginning, I would be stimulated by this superficial incentive mechanism.

In order to prove that he is not bad, he studies hard, learns to cook, and becomes a sweet-talking child, becoming what his mother calls other people’s children.

But the cold water drained away my enthusiasm. I no longer needed her affirmation, and I even thought she regretted giving birth to me.

I just want to escape, escape from the life she compares to.

Later, I was admitted to a university far away from home, and I rarely called home anymore.

I originally thought that I could escape the nightmare of being compared, but I didn’t know that I had walked into another abyss.

When I first entered college, I was blinded by the beautiful young girls on campus.

roommate Lily is beautiful and confident. She remains elegant and graceful when standing on the huge stage, without any stage fright.

roommate Zhang Zhang was free and easy, chasing after her friends on the playground and kissing downstairs in the dormitory.

’s roommate Nana is confident and open-minded. If she meets a boy she meets, she will definitely send him a message on WeChat.

As for me, in comparison with them, I look like a working girl who goes out to work, carrying a rough canvas bag, the linen shirt on my body has been washed out of line, I am hunched over, and my eyes are not clear under the black-rimmed glasses. No charm.

I yearn for their life, I long to have their life, their appearance is the appearance of youth in my heart.

As a result, the bookcases originally occupied by various books were replaced by a dazzling array of cosmetics, and the wardrobe was also filled with all kinds of clothes and bags. Even if the school requires wearing a mask in class, I will definitely put on exquisite makeup. .

When I finally had the courage to ask the person I liked for WeChat, I lost the ability to express myself.

For a whole year, I imitated their lives, dressed up like them, participated in activities and played like them.

As Mr. Lu Xun said, "If you wear a mask for too long, it will grow on your face. If you want to take it off again, you will have to break your muscles and bones to peel off the skin."

I hate my mother comparing me with others, but I don’t know when it started. , I also started to compare myself with others.

Under the illumination of my roommates’ exquisite faces, confident smiles, and cheerful personalities, my youth seemed bleak. I often fell into deep anxiety and desperately wanted to change myself.

But when I really became what I once envied, I only felt exhausted.

The long makeup time, a large number of club activities, and complicated interpersonal relationships drained all my time and energy, leaving me with only an empty but exquisite skin.

I am like a walking zombie, walking along the footsteps of others.

When I finally chose to let myself go, carry that rough canvas bag again, spend the time studying makeup memorizing English words, and spend the time participating in unnecessary entertainment in the library, I truly felt that I belonged to myself. The power of youth.

Each of us has our own unique rhythm.

Our youth should not have only one look.

The rhythm of others is like a heavy shackles to us, trapping our thoughts and souls in the abyss of anxiety.

Our whole life seems to be measured by different indicators.

When I was a child, I compared my height and weight. When I got older, I compared my interests in studying. When I grew up, I compared my work in school. Even when I am old, I will compare with my grandchildren.

is a thief that steals happiness. Its appearance means there will be highs and lows, and there will be winners and losers. This makes us lose the joy of enjoying the thing itself and reduces our happiness experience index.

We always envy what others have, but ignore what we have. When we envy others, maybe we are also the object of others' envy.

In fact, the most important thing in life is not to surpass others, but to surpass yourself yesterday.

Horizontal comparison is like comparing one's shortcomings to others' strengths, but we can never combine the advantages of everyone. The only thing we can compare with is ourselves yesterday.

I hope everyone will not fall into the cycle of comparison. Don't compare yourself to others, just be yourself.

Life is not long, you should spend time on yourself, don't compare with others, and follow your own heart.

Life is your own, and there is only one life. You must learn to find yourself, follow your own path, and live the way you want.

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