Stop being passionate, no one cares about the circle of friends you post

The more a person lacks something, the more he likes to show off, because they try to cover up their inner lack with one lie after another.

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Do you have such friends in your circle of friends ?

They especially like to post news on Moments. Every day, they can be seen posting about their daily life, their families, their feelings, their affection, their children, and all kinds of posts.

What did you eat, what you drank, what did you do, all your emotions and troubles were all vented in the circle of friends.

There are several such friends in my circle of friends.

Once I specifically checked how many Moments he posted in a day, and found that he posted 15 Moments in just 2 hours.

2 hours of Moments, catching up with the number of Moments I post in a year.

This makes me feel a little surprised. I didn't expect that there are such active friends in the circle of friends?

Through this friend's post on Moments, I found out that she is an full-time wife . She is at home every day except for taking care of children and doing housework, and rarely goes out.

So the only way for her to communicate with the outside world is through the Internet, through online chat; and she is recognized by others and frequently appears in other people's circles of friends, mostly to show herself and not let everyone forget him. Among my friends before

, many of my friends like to post on Moments, and it is common to post a few posts a day.

But now it seems that the people who often post on Moments are just those few. Most of the rest of

disappeared in the circle of friends; no likes, no comments, and no interaction.

Everyone seems to remain in a semi-disappeared state, and if there is nothing, they basically do not appear in the sight of the outside world.

Once I was chatting with a friend, I asked my friend: You used to be so fond of posting on Moments, why don’t you post it once a month now?

friend replied: Because no one cares, so I don't bother to post it; at the beginning, I posted the news of the circle of friends and stayed in front of the mobile phone, and I was very happy to see who interacted with me. But later, no one interacted with him, and he stopped posting news in the circle of friends.

Some people are escaping from the circle of friends, and some people are still indulging in the joy of this "online dating".

In fact, many times the news you post in the circle of friends is not noticed by many people at all.

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The more one lacks something, the more one likes to show off.

feel more and more that this sentence is really right.

would like to share with you an interesting psychological effect , called " pregnant woman effect ".

refers to a person who easily enlarges the accidental factor, and then mistakenly thinks it is a common phenomenon, such as a pregnant woman walking on the street, his eyes are more willing to pay attention to other pregnant women.

And when a person holds a luxury bag of a style, he will pay more attention to the same bag when he is outside.

What color and style of shoes you wear, you will pay special attention to other people's shoes when you walk on the street.

This effect is called the "pregnant woman effect".

What a person has, the more he cares about it; what a person lacks, the more he shows off.

Just like a rich person, he is always easy to cry poor, and he will not easily show his wealth; while a person who lives in poverty, he wants to show that he is rich and generous, otherwise he will feel that others will look down on him. Own.

People who are keen to post on Moments also have such a mentality.

They are careful when editing each dynamic, check it over and over again, from the copywriting to the pictures, they are very careful.

They want recognition, attention, compliments, and engagement; that's what they want, and when it doesn't, then he's going to be disappointed.

Because they care too much about what the world thinks about them.

But have you ever thought about how many people care about you posting so many Moments every day?

really care about your friends, they are always by your side, not active in the circle of friends; those people just watch you quietly, but do not want to have any intersection with you.

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People are always easy to magnify a tiny thing in themselves and create some illusions.

This is similar to the " spotlight " in psychology, which refers to a person inadvertently magnifying their own problems.

For example: When we make a fool of in , we always think that other people's eyes are watching us. At this time, our face is hot, and we feel that we have lost face and dignity.

However, when you make a fool of yourself, few people pay attention to you; even if someone sees it, they will forget it after a long time.

For example: Let me remind you now, what color clothes and shoes are your colleagues wearing today?

You may only remember one or two people who are in close contact with you, and the rest, you don't even remember at all.

Some people like to stay in front of their mobile phones after posting news on Moments, and refresh them over and over again, waiting for someone to like and comment on them.

He thought that his friends must be very willing to interact with him.

In fact, most people tend to choose silence because they don't care that much about your life.

When you make a fool of yourself, others will soon forget it; the circle of friends you post will only be read briefly by others, and then quickly brushed over.

So, don't spend your time on these meaningless things.

When you spend most of your energy and time in "meaningless socializing," it's easy to lose yourself.

When you care too much about other people's evaluations and opinions, you will eventually find your own positioning and direction.

Don't care so much about others, your own life and emotions may not be felt by others.

Today's topic:

Do you also care about what others say about you?

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