The third blind date partner, tall figure, oval duck-egg face , full skin, tender and smooth as water, big and clear eyes, gentle and virtuous between eyebrows and eyes, and delicate facial features. I think it will be her in this life. But the sky does not follow people's wishes, the falling flowers are intentional, and the flowing water is ruthless. After reading a few letters, I met twice, and my passionate love went away with the wind.
started to go to the military academy for winter vacation in 1985, and accidentally embarked on the road of blind dates in 1989. In a flash, it entered its fourth year. During these years, except for visiting relatives and friends, the rest of the time is either on the blind date or on the road to blind dates. As my third blind date partner left me, I became increasingly unconfident about blind dates and felt that it was a road that had no end!
There is no way to go for marriage, but life still needs to continue. No matter how difficult the road to blind date is, I still have to continue.
Time is on the Spring Festival in 1989. On the eve of the Spring Festival in 1989, with two new platoon leaders replenishing themselves in the company, I was an old platoon leader and an older unmarried young man. I made a request to the company commander and instructor to go home for vacation during the Spring Festival. After the company reported, the battalion leader quickly approved my leave report. I simply bought something, handed over the work at hand, and embarked on the journey home. At that time, train tickets were too difficult to buy. Not to mention tickets with seats, they couldn’t even buy station tickets. I spent 2 cents to buy an platform ticket at Beijing station . After trotting all the way, I squeezed into the train with the crowded crowd, said a lot of good things to the conductor, and asked her to see my officer certificate , so I boarded the train heading towards my hometown.
After returning to my hometown, I saw that most of my childhood friends, classmates and friends around me had partnered, and some children could even walk, and I felt very empty. Seeing their wives and children on the warm bed, I was really envious and unpleasant. My depressed mood formed a huge contrast with the strong New Year atmosphere in my hometown.
That year, I went home for the New Year, and my military school classmate Fu De also came home for the New Year. He was not only my high school classmate, but also a comrade who joined the army. He was also admitted to Shijiazhuang Army Academy in the same year. Although we were divided into two troops after graduation, we were very close. He has also been worried about my marriage, so he asked his former matchmaker, a distant uncle, to introduce a partner to me.
After New Year's Eve, I briefly visited my close relatives and friends. Looking at my elderly parents who were a little anxious because of my marriage and love, looking at the expectant eyes of the two elders, I felt guilty and embarked on a new round of fourth blind date trip again.
My military academy student is the marriage he just gotten before the Spring Festival. So his uncle was full of confidence in introducing me to the partner.
On the morning of the third day of the Chinese New Year, I rode my bicycle to the city for dozens of kilometers with the bitter cold wind. After nearly two hours of riding, I arrived at my classmate’s home in the city. There was no phone call at that time. Before the Spring Festival, I met the girl with this classmate who had planned to be a third year of junior high school. But when I asked in a hurry, I realized that the woman was going out to pay New Year's greetings. His father-in-law and his family warmly welcomed me. I remember that year, in order to look more energetic, I specially wore summer clothes. It made me feel so cold that I truly experienced what it means to be beautiful and frozen.
019 Spring Festival holiday ended and returned to the army, and took a picture in front of the company.
After the introduction, the woman learned that the woman was an employee of our municipal facilities management system. At that time, I didn't know much about the municipal government and thought it was from the municipal government. When I was looking for a partner, I could say that I had no requirements for the woman, as long as I was eating commercial grain and had a non-agricultural household registration.
The next day is The fourth day of the Lunar New Year 2 at around 3:00 pm, I met the woman at the introducer's home. As soon as the woman entered the door, she saw that she was wearing the popular horse boots at the time, wearing a big red cotton jacket, a large necklace like white Buddhist beads, and wearing heavy makeup. Although she was carefully decorated, she could not hide the vicissitudes of the corners of her eyes. When I saw it, I was not quite the same as what I imagined.
After the woman sat down, the introducer introduced the situation of both of us in a passionate and concise and clear manner, and said some words to greet each other during the New Year. After the greetings, several people in the room shook each other and retreated, leaving time for us two male and female protagonists
We chatted separately for more than ten minutes of insignificant topics, and then she got up and left. After staying for a while, the introducer came in and told me that the woman was very satisfied with me and asked for my opinion. I said I had to go home and discuss with my parents. But after a while, the woman came back and said enthusiastically, "Let's go out for a walk." I was about to take the opportunity to leave and introduce him quickly, so I agreed happily.
I have been away from home for many years and grew up in the countryside. I am not very familiar with the city, so I followed the woman to ride a bicycle and walk slowly, hoping to find a proper time to leave. We walked along the river bank east of the city for a while, but we turned around but we turned to her doorstep. To be honest, I was not prepared at all at that time. Her parents were overjoyed when they saw me wearing military uniforms. After her mother asked about my basic situation, she said that I was a fellow villager and would not let me leave no matter what she said. It was already dinner time, and I insisted on leaving. The family stayed very enthusiastically and saw that I was anxious to leave. Her father stood aside awkwardly, not knowing what to do. Her mother smoothed out and said, Xiao Zhang, we are fellow villagers, it’s not too late to leave after dinner, what can we do with a meal? Even if you have a meal here, I can’t tie you and my daughter together. While talking, the introducer was soon notified to come to her house, his classmates from our military academy and several brother-in-laws of the woman. Due to my reasons, everyone had a slightly awkward supper.
I returned to my relative's house in the city. After sobering up the next day, I always felt that it was not suitable for the woman. Although the woman has a good job and the family is very enthusiastic, for some reason, I just can't find the feeling and want to try hard to convince myself but it can't. I don’t know why I felt that she was not the fate I was looking for, no, definitely not her! Intuition reminds me repeatedly. I told me in my heart that she was not the half I was looking for, and I couldn't deceive myself, let alone convince myself.
I immediately went to my classmate's house. When I saw his uncle, I was very embarrassed. When someone asked me the reason, I only said one thing: People who are in the army can't accept such fashionable people. As for why I don't want to, I can't tell you why.
Later, my classmate asked me, if she didn't wear it so fashionable and her makeup was not so thick, would you like it? I said, I wouldn't choose her, as for the reason, I can't explain it clearly, I can only understand it but not express it. It's just a feeling. Although the fate has not come, I still want to thank her family for their warm hospitality to me back then and sincerely wish her to find a satisfactory partner!
Fate comes and goes, all are the will of heaven, deep and shallow, all are fate. All fate is a destiny, but not all fate can be fulfilled. Time is like a song, the world is like a dream, and it is disturbing, and you come and go, but the fallen flowers are intentionally gone, and the flowing water is ruthless. As for the right and wrong of the past, let it be left to time and time to judge and witness! (To be continued)
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