I remember it was three months ago, at a colleague's party in the unit, I met Wang Mei, a 23-year-old girl. I bought her an ice cream, and so we added contact information to each other. A few days later, she asked me, "Do you want to be my boyfriend?" I was stunned by this sudden

I remember that it was three months ago, at a colleague's party in the unit, I met Wang Mei, a 23-year-old girl.

I bought her an ice cream, and so we added contact information to each other. A few days later, she asked me, "Do you want to be my boyfriend?"

I was stunned by this sudden question, but then I thought, I am 28 years old, and I really should find a girlfriend to get married as soon as possible, and my parents at home are also urging me to the ground.

However, I was still careful because I felt that Wang Mei's words were a bit too hasty and wanted to refuse, but I was unwilling to refuse from the bottom of my heart.

Just like that, we become boyfriend and girlfriend. However, every time I send her a message, she either says she is busy with work or taking care of her parents in her hometown.

Wang Mei had no money to pay the mortgage, so she borrowed money from me

After about a month, I sent a message to Wang Mei, wanting her to come out for a meal and go shopping. However, Wang Mei said, "I'm annoyed now and I don't have time."

I asked her, "What's wrong? I have any troubles? Tell me, I'll help you."

Then, she told me, she said she has a house and owed her mortgage for 8 months. Now the bank is going to auction her house.

When I heard that she still had a house, I asked her where the house was and how much money she owe. I helped her pay it back. She quickly sent me a real estate certificate and a mortgage of more than 34,000 yuan.

I was really surprised by how much money I could afford, but I still could afford this money, so I agreed to pay it back. In fact, I also have selfish intentions. After all, if we get married, then the house belongs to both of us.

Then, just as I was about to transfer money, I suddenly stopped because I often browse , Douyin , so I am familiar with this plot and always feel that I have seen it somewhere.

So I went online to check it out. Sure enough, I found that some people on the Internet said that nowadays, many people use dating and constantly borrow money from each other, and then when the money is finished, they will suddenly disappear and can no longer contact you. There are many people below

that they have encountered this phenomenon.

Seeing this, I decided to be careful and tell Wang Mei, "I can't transfer now, I have to go to the bank."

She said "Okay", but since then, I never mentioned helping her repay her mortgage. During this period, she asked me twice, and I both said that I was busy with work and had no time to go out.

I have to help pay off my debts when I get married

Then more than half a year passed. During this period, she kept saying that she was taking care of her hospitalized mother in her hometown, and I had never seen her. In fact, when things have developed here, I am ready to give up because no matter how stupid I am, I feel that it is unlikely that both of us will continue, and they are like strangers.

One day, I was thinking about how to send a message to break up, but at this time, she called and said that her family was urging me to get married and asked me if I wanted to get married. The question of

was unexpected. I didn't know what to say for a while, and I agreed in a hurry. However, what I didn't expect was that this was her purpose.

Soon, we met our respective parents, and at this time, the other party proposed to get engaged. Wang Mei's mother said, "Our daughter owed 190,000 foreign debt when she opened a store. If you help pay it back, then we will continue to get the marriage and act as a bride price. If you don't help pay it back, we will give 200,000 bride price."

As soon as the other party said this information, it was like a bolt from the blue. I could see that my mother's face was a little unfavorable, and my mother told the other party that we need to discuss it.

Later, the result of our discussion was that we agreed to pay 190,000 yuan to help Wang Mei pay off her debt. In this way, my family raised 200,000 yuan and transferred it to Wang Mei. As for whether she had gone to pay off her debt, I didn't see it on the spot.

Wang Mei suddenly proposed to break up

Originally, I thought I had given a bride gift and held a wedding. Next, it was time to get a marriage certificate. However, when I sent a message to Wang Mei and asked her to get the certificate, she suddenly replied, saying, "I owe a lot of money outside, can you help me pay it back?"

I was stunned by her sudden words, so I asked her, "Why do you owe money again? How much do you owe you owed me?"

I was stunned by her sudden words, so I asked her, "Why do you owe money again? How much do you owe you owed me?"

I was stunned by her sudden words, so I asked her, "Why do you owe money again? Have you been lying to me for a short time? "

Then she said that she still owed 200,000 to 300,000 outside. I would definitely not pay it back for her so much money. At this time, she said, "Since that's the case, if you don't pay it back for me, then break up."

After hearing her words, I felt like I was poured a bottle of cold water, and my heart was so cold that I kept sending confidence to question her, what exactly it meant, but she did not reply, and later blocked me.

I ran to Wang Mei's house and went to find her. Her parents said, "Don't look for me, I can't control it, and I don't know where she is."

Things have developed to this point, and I finally understood that since I met Wang Mei, I was wishful thinking, and Wang Mei was not planning to marry me from the beginning. She must have owed a lot of money outside, and suddenly asked me to marry me in order to cheat me of the bride price.

Since then, my family has gone to Wang Mei’s house to make trouble several times, but none of them have found Wang Mei himself. Later, one time, during the Chinese New Year, I returned to my hometown early and went to her house to guard it. Sure enough, on the evening of New Year’s Eve, I caught her.

At that time, there was a man next to her and she wanted to stop me, so I asked him who he was. He actually said he was his blind date. It was ridiculous. I told him that Wang Mei lied to me about the bride price, and then he went crazy. He said, "I gave her 100,000 yuan of bride price."

In this way, we stood in the same camp and began to collect debts from Wang Mei. However, Wang Mei said, "The bride price given is not worth refunding."

The matter ended here.

So, if the man paid the betrothal gift money to the woman in accordance with local customs, but both parties did not get married, can the betrothal money be returned?

Article 5 of the "Interpretation of the Supreme People's Court on the Application of Marriage and Family Section of the Civil Code (I)"
If the parties request the return of the dowry paid in accordance with the custom, if it is found that it falls into the following circumstances, the people's court shall support it:
(I) Both parties have not completed the marriage registration procedures;
(II) Both parties have completed the marriage registration procedures but have not lived together;
(I) Payment before marriage and leads to difficulties in life for the payer.
applies to the provisions of the second and third items of the preceding paragraph, and the divorce between the two parties shall be conditional.

In other words, Wang Meiyi and I did not receive the marriage certificate , and the other did not live together. Wang Mei should return the bride money to me.