In 2004, I retired and returned to Xi’an, and finally found a clue to Wen Xiao.
I learned that he has been in his hometown of Xianyang since he returned from the Xinjiang Corps. Time has already let me fade away from the original shyness, and I have become vigorous and resolute.
As soon as I get Wenxiao's number, I will go home and call him.
heard the voice of an elderly man on the phone, but the voice was loud and shocking. He asked in the thick Guanzhong dialect: "Oh, who is it?"
I can’t forget this voice Yes, even though I haven't heard it in 42 years, it is still so loud.
I don’t know. In 42 years, will I still have a chance to clarify my innocence?
I am a crazy girl in the eyes of my family. I live in Xi’an city wall and I like to climb high and low, even the mighty city wall, I want to crush it Watt jumped up.
My family said that although I am a girl, I am very "gangster".
In the third year of the junior high school, my cousin who was doing geological prospecting in the field sent a photo to his family. In the photo, he was wearing an outdoor adventure outfit. On both sides are two towering old trees.
I think my cousin is very proud, and I have to travel the mountains and rivers of the motherland like him. When I became a "bandit", despite the opposition of my family, I resolutely applied for the Xi'an Geological School after graduating from junior high school.
started my life in Dengpei.
I remember that on the day of school, when I first entered the classroom excitedly, I found that the classroom was full of noisy boys, only a few female classmates were sitting sparsely in the front row.
As soon as I took my seat, I found a group of boys jokes that I am fat, saying that I am: a roller
. A few days later, as soon as I entered the classroom, a boy yelled: the roller is coming.
I followed the voice and found that every time it was a boy who took the lead in making a fuss, his name was Wen Xiao.
I glanced at him and thought he looked quite pleasing to the eye. Thinking of this, I had already lost most of my anger.
Wen Hyo is a rural child. Due to late school and working as a worker for several years, he is a few years older than the students in our city.
He is an active member in our class, whether it is three and a half or Meihu opera , he is always present in various cultural performances.
When Wen Hyo just entered school
There was once a school organized a cultural performance in the cafeteria, and he said that he would sing " Liang Qiuyan " for everyone. We didn't have a microphone at that time, but Xiaowen had a very loud voice.
I only saw him open his mouth, "In spring, the two swallows will fly together, and the sisters will bring layups and pick vegetables." There was Liu Chunsheng, the male protagonist in the play.His voice echoed in the restaurant.
"Liang Qiuyan" is the most popular drama of our time. Everyone loves to watch this. At that time, many people said: "I saw Liang Qiuyan and didn't eat for three days."
Liang Qiuyan in the play With Liu Chunsheng, they fell in love freely, opposed their parents' arranged marriage, and finally came together.
Looking at Wen Xiao on the stage at that moment, I unexpectedly came up with a ridiculous thought: My "Liu Chunsheng" may have also been found.
In the eyes of others, the geology is very difficult, but I don’t think so.
We have a lot of field surveying classes. We are going to study on the wasteland near the Big Wild Goose Pagoda opposite the school. Every time we carry the measuring instrument, we will pass by with one foot deep and one shallow foot, and it is common for our legs to be pierced by thorns. .
I am very active and I feel that my measurements are fresh every day. And the school's rich extracurricular cultural activities helped me quickly get into the class with my classmates.
teacher taught us to sing "Song of Prospectors", and I sang along: "It was the wind in the valley that blew our red flag, and the violent rain washed our tent..."
Whenever male students in the countryside brought some souvenirs from their homes, a group of female students rushed over and asked them.
A few boys sat on the canopy bed, smoking their big pipes, showing black heads and joking with us. Wen Xiao also appeared among these rural boys.
One year later, Moon Hyo was still teasing me for being a "pressing machine" with the boys in the class.Looks heartless.
But I thought to myself, this boy must be interested in me to come up with such a clumsy method to attract my attention.
I can no longer let these thoughts bother me, I decided to take the initiative.
After plucking up the courage, I wrote a note with all the funny words about Munhyo, and threw it out quickly when he walked to Munhyo's table.
Soon I had a response. The girl's instinct was very accurate. It turned out that he really liked me. He felt that I was warm and lively, and I was happy.
What makes me even more pleased is that I found that he writes good handwriting, his handwriting is beautiful and vigorous, I am happy in my heart, hey, I actually found a talent.
I miss us at that time, not only for Bun Xiao at that time, but also for the simple and happy youth.
At that time, the idea of love was simple and the way was simpler. Besides, I'm only 17 years old, so I dare not speak blatantly, and I never dared to speak to Wen Xiao alone in front of others.
Only when I arrived in the classroom, I always had a way to pass the note to Wen Xiao. The note could not be love or something, but no matter what I wrote, I couldn't hide my love for Wen Xiao.
did a good job of confidentiality work. Two years later, the classmates knew nothing about our affairs, except for one person. That was Wen Xiao’s hometown: Hao Dong.
He and Wen Xiao were from the same hometown, they met at a young age, and later came to Xi’an to study together, so naturally they had nothing to say.
Our most adventurous attempt is to take a walk to the Big Wild Goose Pagoda.He tiptoed while it was dark, and tiptoed back.
No one has noticed us, only the silent moonlight sprinkled on the Big Wild Goose Pagoda, sprinkled on our faces, at that moment we were in love.
That was my best golden age. I didn't know a big change, waiting for us.
It was 1961 when our school suddenly couldn't go on.
teacher said that the dry land has been short of harvest for years, and Chairman Mao and his elderly people no longer eat meat. The Soviet Union again withdrew all the experts at this time. The country has reached the most difficult period, and the school will be suspended after the final exam.
As for what to do after classes are suspended, the teacher also said that Xi'an cannot support so many people, so we suggest that we go to the army.
At that time, the propaganda papers for conscription were plastered all over the streets of Xi'an. There was not only the unresolved Taiwan issue, but the Dalai Lama defected to India, and the entire Tibetan region was facing turmoil. India took the opportunity to occupy our territory and provoke wantonly.
The classmates signed up one after another. Naturally, Wen Xiao and I were indispensable, but the conscript comrades said not to recruit female soldiers, but Wen Xiao passed the political review and physical examination.
Wen Hyo assembled in the 85 school next to the school on the second night after the medical examination, left his hometown amid the roar of the truck, and drove to Qinghai station.
The recruits walked in a hurry, we didn't even say goodbye.
is in my depression, I received the first letter from Wen Xiao, in which he called: Dear Xingfang.
said in his letter that everything was fine and he had to train every day in the army. Although it was hard, the food was good. The only thing he could not worry about was his parents.
Wen Xiaoxin also attached a photo in which he was wearing a military uniform and standing straight on the grasslands of Qinghai. My heart was completely captured by him.
That damn letter seems to have some magical power. When there is no one in the daytime, I read it out and read it again at night by the light of an oil lamp.
Wen Xiao kept the photos sent to me that year
After the final exam, I decided to go to the countryside to visit Wen Xiao’s parents and fulfill his wish. Haodong and I took the train together to the county town where their village is located, and then walked along the muddy dirt road for a long time.
Wen Hyo's mother is a very easy-going person. She is not tall. She is very happy to know that her son had a girlfriend before he became a soldier. In the evening, I slept with her on the same kang, as a family.
When I returned to Xi'an from Wenxiao's house, I found that my classmates from the countryside had already returned to their hometown. The playground of our laughter sports had already turned over the soil and was ready to plant winter wheat.
Our families are students in the city, and we embark on a journey to Sanmenxia Farm.
Not long after we arrived at Sanmenxia, the Yellow River's reservoir burst and flooded the land we had finally cultivated.
The flood was chasing from behind, we ran in front with our luggage, and I didn’t know if our feet were smashed on the rocks. It wasn't until I got on a train to Xi'an that my heart fell.
got off the train,All the classmates who had escaped were found to be like clay sculptures. At that time, they were young, and everyone stood there mocking themselves at the suffering: they looked like a beggar from a distance, and a fugitive from a close look. If you look closely, it turned out to be a prospector, hahaha.
Before we had time to breathe, we were pulled into a large truck that leaked everywhere. This is a farm in Ganquan County in northern Shaanxi, and the environment is even worse.
It’s just early winter. I was wearing a pair of cotton trousers and my legs were frozen and unconscious.
However, more terrible things are yet to come.
The most important part of the farm’s daily labor is not to cultivate or to chop wood.
The land in northern Shaanxi in early winter has long been frozen hard. We tried our best to open the land and found that the land was full of ice. If you want to chop wood, you have to go to the mountain, and there are wolves on the mountain.
It’s useless to be afraid. Everyone has to chop a certain amount of firewood to get food. When the girls went up the mountain to chop wood, they could only ask the boys for help.
In return, the girls will also give the boys a little bit of the daily food, and it's just chaff, or the bran made of bran, and the boys simply can't get enough to eat.
I don't feel too bitter in retrospect. I am very motivated every day, and I became a female production team leader on the farm. In addition to being strong, it was more important at that time that there was hope in my heart.
As soon as the holiday came, I couldn't wait to go to the county with my classmates, saying that I was eating braised biscuits and for the tooth-making festival. In fact, I was even more looking forward to receiving a letter from Wen Xiao at the county post office.
I know from his letter,Wen Xiao eats well in the army, not only can he eat food, but he even has canned ribs every week. He quickly became the deputy squad leader of the anti-aircraft artillery squad because he knew how to measure and wrote good handwriting.
However, India is becoming more and more arrogant. Moon Hyo said that he sighed during training and was ready to go to Tibet and fight the enemy at any time.
I had a romantic revolutionary optimism at the time, thinking that the difficulties of the farm will always pass, and Moon Hyo will return home with great victory over India, and we can be together forever.
I didn't know at the time. There was no private space in the barracks. The letter I wrote to Wen Xiao was ruined by his comrades before Wen Xiao opened it.
I still feel shy when I think about it. If I know that the troops have no privacy, it is impossible to write so many naive words in the letter.
Wen Xiao is my classmate, and the one who works with me on the farm is also my classmate. At that time, I thought that my classmates were trustworthy. Who would have thought that some of them were scarier than wolfworms.
Old-fashioned cave dwellings in northern Shaanxi
Our female classmates were arranged to live in newly dug cave dwellings, while the male classmates were arranged to live in the old cave dwellings, requiring a ditch to pass.
One day, a male student asked me if I would like to visit their boys’ cave. This male student is usually very good and smart. I also study well. The relationship between the two is not bad.
I didn't think much about it, so I followed it and realized that the ravine was so deep. In daylight, the cave was empty except for the two of us.
He closed the door of the cave and rushed towards me without saying anything.I was terrified, and I resisted desperately, but couldn't hold him with greater strength.
I was bullied by him, and I bleed. I was shocked and frightened, rushed out of the cave, cried and ran to tell the farm leader.
Maybe the leader of the farm was to protect me, so he handled this matter very low-key. He was only expelled from school, and since then, I have never heard from him again.
But there is no airtight wall in the world, this matter still spread among the classmates, and the incident changed when it spread, and it became that I had an improper relationship between men and women with other male classmates. .
At that time I was young, and I felt that this incident was very disgraceful no matter how it was said.
However, it was my lover, Wen Xiao, who gave me the fatal blow.
I was just sad at the time. I didn't know how to write to Wen Xiao to explain this, and I didn't understand the discipline of the army.
What's more, the war with India is about to start, and I don't want him to be distracted by this. I want to wait for him to finish the battle and then explain that I am a victim, and Moon Hyo should be able to understand me.
However, I did not expect that one month after the incident, I received a letter from Moon Hyo. The moment I opened the letter, I knew everything was over.
He didn't call me "Dear Xingfang", he said in a few words that he would end the relationship with me, his tone was firm and unquestionable.
I really poured cold water from head to toe. I know he must know something. He didn’t understand the truth in the barracks and I don’t blame him.His unfeelingness has his own difficulties.
But how did he know? Who told him? How did the other party describe it? The more I thought about it, the more desperate I became. No matter how I explained it, it was meaningless.
I just hate the one who bullied me, he ruined me, ruined my innocence, and ruined my love.
I desperately ran to the mountain, crying presumptuously, on the ridge of the Loess Plateau, when the wind blew, bursts of bitter sand poured into my mouth.
crying, crying, crying for a long time, I suddenly found that there was a person standing beside me.
His name is Jianmin. He said that the farm found that I was missing, so everyone went to find me separately. He had met me when he was cutting wood here, so he wanted to come here again.
Jianmin is a classmate in the class next door to our school. Because his family is also in Xi'an, he came to the farm with us. He didn't know my relationship with Wen Xiao, he just thought I was bullied and ran up to the mountain to cry.
Jianmin said that he was worried that I would be unsafe here alone and that I would be taken away by a wolf. He also told me not to think about it and that I was a victim and not to punish myself for other people's mistakes.
I went to the mountain to cry for three days, and he went to the mountain to follow me for three days.
After crying after tears, I have to go to the farm and work again. I went to chop wood. Jianmin also cut wood near me. I went down the mountain, and Jianmin went down the mountain right behind me.
He was afraid that I would find my shortcomings. I was only 18 years old, and I was accompanied by Jianmin during the most difficult time in my life.
he is a good man,But I don't love him.
I still think about Moon Hyo. Without his letter, I don't know if he has been on the battlefield or whether he is safe?
Soon the principal of the school came to the farm. He not only wanted us to work here with peace of mind, but also said that he would let us start a family here with peace of mind.
"The current situation in the country is like this. It will be more difficult for a few years, and classes may not be able to resume for a while," the principal said.
Although the life on the farm is bitter, but if you want to survive, you have to learn how to be happy in hardship. After the farm work is finished, Jianmin and I will walk aimlessly in the barren hills, talking endless words, no one I don't know how long such a day will take.
The days went on like this. He was an honest man. At that time, his family was poor and he had no fun, just like playing with musical instruments.
After a long time, I decided to treat Jianmin wholeheartedly. I thought I could hide my love for Moon Hyo.
I wrote to my father about Jianmin. My father didn’t understand why he broke up with Wen Xiao, and he liked Wen Xiao so much.
I just simply said that Moon Hyo has been in the army, and the time has faded over time.
My father was worried that Jianmin’s family would be poor, and he was afraid that I would suffer from marrying him. I said that others would treat me honestly and be kind to me.
Our family portrait before going to Guangxi (the second row and third from the right is me)
I was so strong at the time and didn't tell my father what happened on the farm.I decided to hide my love for Moon Hyo and hide his photos.
So I was with Jianmin. I went up and down the mountain together, and then walked separately where there were people. People at that time were always afraid of being pointed by others.
Two years later, Jianmin and I graduated together and were assigned to the survey team in Guangxi. We who work in the survey team don't even have a place to settle down. We live in felt tents.
I and Jianmin are married. No relatives or friends, just sent a wedding candy to the comrades of the survey team, and then changed the mosquito net for two people into a double mosquito net, even if it was our wedding room.
I should have completely forgotten Wen Xiao and Jianmin to live a good life, but Jianmin and I are two types of people after all, and I have never forgotten Wen Xiao in my heart.
Although Jianmin and I have three children, we often quarrel, and we even get started when we quarrel fiercely.
Whenever I think of Moon Hyo, he is such a hearty person with high emotional intelligence and optimism. If we are together, we will not suffer so much.
I know that I have always been pretending to be Wen Xiao. No matter how hard Jianmin works, he is not as good as Wen Xiao, but what about?
Those of us who do surveys are always eating and sleeping. The tent we set up has been swept away by the flood several times, and I can't remember which time it was. After all, I couldn't find the photo of Wen Xiao hidden by Jianmin on my back.
My memory of Moon Hyo has lasted for a long time at the age of 23, the spirited young man in military uniform, and his hearty laughter.
life flies quickly,After the reform and opening up, Jianmin went to the sea to engage in real estate and made a lot of money. Everyone is pursuing ten-thousand yuan households, and our family already has millions of assets.
Jianmin is a child from a poor family. He has never seen so much money. He is very proud. But it's easy to forget when people are proud. Jianmin fell in love with gambling, and every time I had to find him in Renshan's Mahjong Hall.
He also does the troublesome things, but I didn't make the determination to divorce him.
Wealth is coming soon and he is defeated quickly. More than one million will quickly defeat him. When he was proud, I never spent a penny from him. When he was disappointed, he took away more than 200,000 yuan from me one after another.
The economic situation at home is ups and downs. I am not sorry for Jianmin financially, but I really can't live with him.
I quarreled with him all my life, and played with him all my life. When I get old, I can't make noise anymore, and I can't move anymore, and I start to miss my hometown.
That city where Wen Xiao and I stayed together: Xi'an.
In 2004, after I retired, I returned to Xi’an and bought a house. I went back to live there for half a year. My brothers and sisters were very happy.
What's even more happier is that many of the old classmates who were scattered across the country back then chose to return to their roots and return to Xi'an. Forty years later, our old classmates finally got together again.
At a classmate gathering, I recognized one of them at a glance, the soldier he and Wen Xiao were together.
"You know Bun Hyo,Where are others now? "After waiting for forty-two years, I am no longer reserved.
"He also returned to Shaanxi. After returning from the XPCC in the 1990s, he has been in Xianyang. I have his phone number, or I will call him and ask him to attend the next class reunion. "
"No, you give me the phone number and I will call him directly.
The years have already let me fade from my original shame, and I have become vigorous and resolute.
The man who answered the phone was an old man, but his voice was loud and surprising. He spoke in a strong Guanzhong dialect. Asked: "Oh, who?
I can’t forget this voice. I haven’t heard it for 42 years, and it’s still so loud. I resisted my excitement and only asked him about his current situation.
I know that Wen Xiao has three filial pieties. My son, it’s a pity that my child’s mother got cancer and died more than ten years ago. Today, Wen Xiao and his wife, Mr. Wang, are living a leisurely retirement life.
No one of us talks much about the past,
Soon, I organized a group of old classmates to visit Wenxiao’s house. Teacher Wang was also there, and I chatted and greeted like other classmates, but occasionally looked at Wenxiao twice.
He is over sixty years old, But people still look as energetic as they were back then, and the appearance is still the kind of "pleasing to the eye" I like.
Because I am often the only one at home in Xi'an, it soon became an important base for gatherings of old classmates, Wen Xiao I often visit my home with a few old comrades.
Every time Wen Xiao comes to me, he always brings me some small gifts.It’s not my favorite when I was in college, or some seasonal fruits. He has not changed at all from his student days, speaks loudly and jokingly.
Moon Hyo's photos when he was young
The most interesting thing is that he still likes 40 years ago, he likes to write his words on a note to me.
Sometimes it is a passage, sometimes it is a poem. When I read it, it was a narrative poem, telling that we missed each other's golden time due to the war, and when we were old, we met again. It was really shocking and joyful, and I was very moved.
Sometimes, he also sat next to me and read the poems he wrote. I was aside, just laughing, unable to say anything. After so many years, I still feel that Moon Hyo is really talented.
We are like going back to the year we first met at the age of 16. Wenxiao and the others drank, I followed to drink, Wenxiao and the others smoked and I also learned to smoke, and I also learned to play mahjong with Wenxiao and the others.
Wen Xiao is a straightforward person, and my past and current reunion have not kept the word from Teacher Wang. After all, everyone is an old person. Teacher Wang is a genuine college student and teaches high school Chinese at a very good level. He can chat with Wen Xiaoneng, and literature is their most topical topic.
Even the words in some of the notes that Wen Xiao wrote to me are also polished by Teacher Wang. I really admire Teacher Wang's atmosphere. At least until now, Jianmin doesn't know what happened between Wen Xiao and I.
Teacher Wang is an interesting person. She once said bluntly to me: "You and him can be together, but you have to give me a break-up fee. This break-up fee is enough for my retirement. "
I know,Teacher Wang said this half of his jokes and half of his seriousness. What she didn't know was that Wen Xiao and I were separated for 42 years, and we could meet again in our hometown. I was already content and didn't intend to compete with him for Wen Xiao.
As for the letter of unrequited love that year, Moon Hyo deliberately never mentioned it, but I always wanted to ask for some understanding.
"You wronged me back then. I am actually a victim." Once I distracted other classmates and couldn't help telling the truth to Wen Xiao.
The eloquent Bun Hyo was silent. He listened to me to finish the story of the year. While listening, he kept smoking cigarettes one by one.
After a while, he replied gently: "Okay, I see, you are indeed a victim. I was wrong at the beginning."
After waiting for 40 years, I finally said Out of the secret hidden in my heart. However, Wen Xiao's guilty expression made me a little bit intolerable. I think it’s not easy for him to pass these years.
When Wen Xiao received a letter from his classmates, he was very happy. He thought it was an ordinary letter. As usual, he was still a group of comrades in arms. They held the letter together and read it aloud.
The letter directly stated that I was a freak and had an improper relationship between men and women on the farm and was discovered... Sent me the letter of unrequited love.
Soon, the self-defense counterattack against India started, and Moon Hyo walked to the battlefield with his comrades in despair and humiliation.
The battlefield cannot tolerate children’s personal relationships,In the battle on the border, which was called a complete victory, in just one month, the Chinese soldiers sacrificed more than 722 soldiers. There were 42 soldiers from Shaanxi who died in their division alone, including the comrades who slept in the lower bunk of Wenxiao.
These martyrs were buried in the Cemetery of the 55th Division of Zedang Martyrs Cemetery in Tibet.
Report on the Sino-Indian War in 62
Wen Xiao will also tell me about the battlefield, time has changed, more interesting things, such as the collapse of the Indian army, the entire camp is on the ground Disbanded and race to escape.
At that time, Wen Xiao and the others teased the Indian army and said: "Disband on the spot, pay for your own travel, and gather in New Delhi." The Indian army did its utmost to plunder and oppress. After the PLA arrived, they did a lot of good deeds for them. The Monba brothers thanked the PLA in their hearts.
During the battle, they carried the wounded and sick of the People's Liberation Army to the rescue center and put them down gently. To the captured Indian army wounded, the stretcher was more than a foot above the ground, and he was thrown down heavily, with a look of displeasure.
After the war ended, Moon Hyo returned to his hometown, only to realize that his mother had passed away for half a year. In order not to distract him, the family members did not mention this matter in the letter. Wen Xiao knelt beside his mother's grave and couldn't say a word.
Wen Xiao said that since ancient times, loyalty and filial piety cannot have both ends. Before his mother died, she must miss her youngest son on the battlefield most. But in any case, he has to thank me.
"It's okay." Moon Hyo said, "My mother saw you before I left. The old man feels that his son will be taken care of in the future, so he should be less regretful."
Wen Xiao married a girl named Ma in the village next door. Later, when he retired from the army, just in time for the Ita incident in Xinjiang, Wen Xiao and his comrades were sent to the Xinjiang Construction Corps, so he took Miss Ma to the Xinjiang Construction Corps, where he was stationed for thirty years.
At the end of the 1980s, they returned to Shaanxi with their three sons. Unfortunately, Ms. Ma died of illness within a few years after returning to her hometown. Later, I found Teacher Wang.
After listening to each of the three decades of experience, I am still a little bit unreasonable after all. It would be great if there were no misunderstandings back then!
Wen Hyo saw what I was thinking, but didn't say anything at the time.
When Moon Hyo came to my house for the second time, he took out a piece of letter paper from his pocket and folded it neatly. Moon Hyo sat next to me, put on reading glasses and began to read:
"It is your blessing that you have lost my bad horse. Now your children and grandchildren hug your knees and have nothing to worry about. Not a god is better than a god. You should be content. May I ask, whether it is the powerful or the people of the common people, who has not experienced a few shortcomings in his life?"
He paused and then said: "There is no one who sells regret medicine, so why bother yourself. Persuade your lord. Looking around, some of the people behind you want to liberate themselves."
Wen Xiao's letter manuscript
I know that Wen Xiao now loves and is ashamed of me. Actually, I never hated him, I just hate that time makes us grow old too fast.
But when I think of the person who wrote the informant, I am still a little angry.
wrote to Wen Xiao that year,It was not someone else, it was Moon Hyo's friend Hao Dong, who had already returned to work in farming, and he heard about me from nowhere.
For this reason, I took Wen Hyo to Hao Dong's house specially. When I saw him, I found that his eyebrows were all white and old. Three ancient people were sitting together, and they were relieved without saying a word. .
We are all old and we have no time to complain. I cherish every minute I spend with Wenxiao, and I also cherish the happy time chatting with other old classmates.
My children are all developing in Guangxi. I am in Xi'an for half a year and Guangxi for half a year. As long as I go back to Guangxi, we often talk on the phone. Every time I receive a call from him, I am very happy.
Once, my daughter and I were traveling in Guilin when Wen Xiao called me. He only heard him on the other end of the phone, he coughed formally, cleared his throat, and then read to me his new poem, which was written to me.
In the noisy scenic spot, listening to Wen Xiao's serious voice, I couldn't help laughing. My daughter laughed at me, saying that she looked like a girl in that moment.
Indeed, I am happy to hear Moon Hyo's voice, maybe this is love.
In 2014, my children insisted on giving me my 70th birthday, and my daughter chose Lijiang. I don't understand why they want to mobilize people in this way, but they just went away.
On the day of my birthday, Moon Hyo unexpectedly appeared at my birthday party, along with his eldest son.
I was really surprised and happy that I couldn't speak for a long time, and at first I thought how it would be such a coincidence. Could it be that they also happened to be visiting Lijiang.
I later learned that my daughter had planned it in advance.We never told Jianmin about Wenxiao and I, but our children knew about it. They also learned that Teacher Wang has passed away and Wen Xiao has become alone again.
daughter is very formally sending an invitation letter to Moon Hyo, hoping to surprise me.
Just like seeing a parent in love, Moon Hyo received an invitation letter from his daughter, and he was very embarrassed. Just when he was erratic, his eldest son and daughter-in-law became the masters for him, not only bought him a ticket to Lijiang, but also accompanied him to celebrate my birthday.
In those few days, our two families were like a family, living in a large courtyard, cooking and eating together every day, it was so happy.
I have imagined countless times that I have a big family with Moon Hyo. My children and grandchildren are around my knees. I plant some flowers and plants in my yard, and Moon Hyo writes his poems. This dream actually came true when I was 70 years old.
One day when Wen Hyo and I were walking in the ancient city, he took the initiative to take my hand and looked at the hands that were no longer delicate. In addition to being shy, I was more emotional.
Holding hands this time is the first time that Moon Hyo and I have been in love in 50 years.
This scene was actually taken by his eldest son. When I saw the photo, I was really embarrassed.
I can understand the kindness of the children. They feel that we have worked hard all our lives, and we should be able to pursue our own happiness in our old age.
Why don't I want to?
The children think of me this way, and I naturally want to think of them all the time.
I don't want to divorce Jianmin. I have been here for so many years. I have seen what it means to be fearful. I have already seen it, and I don't want to cause problems for my children.
This is also very good now, as long as you are old, you will be safe in your heart, and don't care about those forms.
Wen Xiao is 82 this year. He is completely old, too old to come to Xi'an to see me.
but he insisted on coming. This troubled his three sons. Every time they had to choose one of them, he arranged his work in advance, took a wheelchair, and helped their father into the car. Sit down, then Wen Xiao can be sent over.
One time, Moon Hyo had to go to the bathroom as soon as he entered my house, but he peeed on his pants before he even reached the bathroom. His third son looked embarrassed and quickly explained that his father's health was getting worse this year and he couldn't control himself.
The third son said, picking up a rag and wiping the floor hurriedly. I smiled, it's okay, it's been like this before, the ground is all dragged by me, it's nothing.
After that, Wen Hyo's son called me and asked me to persuade their dad to stop thinking about going to Xi'an, mainly because he was worried that Wen Hyo was in poor health and could not bear the tossing back and forth.
I think about it, so I told Wen Xiao, tell him not to come to Xi'an, I will visit him often. Wen Xiao was a stubborn old man, and he couldn't listen to what his children said, but he listened to what I said, and he really came to see me less often.
But I know that our hearts are finally connected together.
Now we often drink together
last month,A few old classmates and I went to see him again. He was very happy and tremblingly wanted to get wine. When I was eating, I found that he couldn't hold the chopsticks a bit, so I fed him. He was very obedient. He opened his mouth when he was feeding, and he ate more than usual.
When we left, I told him not to send it. He insisted on sending us downstairs. Before leaving, I gave him a hug. He still didn’t change his mocking and mocking qualities, and even said that I was fatter than before. .
When I left, Moon Hyo’s son asked me: “Auntie, did you see that? My father cried when you left.”
I smiled and said, “He is always like this now, yes. Watching the wind and crying, don’t think too much.”
On May Day this year, this stubborn old man asked his son to send him to Xi’an again. We drank together and played mahjong for a while. He couldn’t hold his right hand. Things, just use your left hand.
But I found that his health is much better. I don't need to feed him this time, and he also has energy. I am a little happy, thinking that if the condition is good, I can spend more time with each other.
When Moon Hyo returned, I asked him if he would come?
is coming!
He staggered, but his answer was loud and loud.
The story of Grandma Xi was recorded by Moon Hyo's grandson.
At the age of 22, he promised his grandfather that he would write down his grandfather’s battlefield story, but like most young people, he thought that his grandfather was in good shape.Wait until there is time in the future to write again.
Unexpectedly, he went to study in the UK for three years and his grandfather had already suffered from Alzheimer's. In order to learn more about Grandpa's past, I turned to Grandma Xi for help.
True love cannot be hidden. The 77-year-old grandma Xi always carries the sweetness of a girl in her memories, and the past hurts and misunderstandings have been light and clear.
What moved me by the story is that Grandma Xi and Moon Hyo used practical actions to tell me another way of life that the elderly can have.
In the eyes of the world, the elderly, especially those suffering from Alzheimer’s, don’t talk about love. They don’t even deserve a normal life. They can only stare at a long time in a daze.
Who would have imagined that Moon Hyo, who has urinated his pants, can still drink, play cards, write poetry, and date, and understand romance better than young people.
Perhaps, the sad thing for the old man is not suffering from amnesia, but when suffering from amnesia, no one can help him remember.
May all the elderly in the world have love.
Editor: McCuning Liu and Robert Liu
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