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Chen Li was thirty-eight years old when she got divorced. My husband cheated on her, and after three years of entanglement, she still couldn't escape the divorce.
At that time, my son was just fourteen years old. He was in the rebellious stage of adolescence and was not studying well. Affected by his parents' divorce, he also had personality problems.
Chen Li was already in a bad mood. Seeing her son's changes, she became even more worried. She didn’t know how to guide her children, and there was no one around her to communicate with, so Chen Li posted a post on a forum asking for help, hoping that someone could give some guidance.
She really met enthusiastic people who gave her some good suggestions. While communicating with each other, she learned that the other person was a mathematics teacher from a middle school in the city.
The two became familiar with each other on the forum, added each other's QQ accounts, and communicated more and more. Slowly, the conversation shifts from the children to themselves. They informed each other of their respective situations, and the other party told Chen Li that he was also single, his wife had died many years ago, and his only son was studying abroad.
After a period of time, they all had the desire to continue to deepen their relationship. We have been dating each other for more than a year and feel that they have similar personalities. Although the man is older, he has a gentle personality and is very considerate. During their interactions, Chen Li felt that her son was not disgusted with him. On the contrary, with his help, the child's learning attitude and performance have improved a lot.
As a result, they accepted each other naturally and formed a new marriage. At that time, both of them were still working. The man came over on time to meet Chen Li every Friday night and returned to the city on Sunday night.
According to the neighbors, the teacher is really very nice. Chen Li is usually busy with work and taking care of her son. A lot of work at home has to be accumulated until the weekend. Ever since they started a family, every time the teacher came back on weekends, he would take over all the housework and help Chen Li clean, wash clothes and cook.
In those few years, it was obvious that Chen Li had come out of the shadow of the past. My son, who was not very hopeful at first, also got into three schools under the guidance of his stepfather. Chen Li once told a friend that she was very grateful to her remarried husband for the changes in her son. He made the child make huge changes.
However, their happy life only lasted four years. When the teacher's son was getting married and starting a family, their relationship was affected.
The teacher’s son graduated from a prestigious school and had a girlfriend while he was studying there. Both of them are from the city. The woman's family situation is very good. Her father holds an important position in a state-owned enterprise and her mother also has a certain position in a certain agency. When they first became friends, the woman proposed that since she was an only child and the family was a boy, they would have to live in their parents' family in the future, which would be equivalent to marrying into the family.
The boy considered his father's situation, his income was not high, and his mother was ill and spent a lot of money. His father no longer has the ability to buy him a house in the city. It doesn't matter whether he is a bride-in-law or not. Anyway, now, even if he does not live in the woman's family, it has become normal for her mother's family to help when she has children in the future. Now that he can successfully get married and start a family, he has fulfilled his father's wish.
He told his father about the situation, and his father also said he had no objection. He really couldn't afford to give his son much, and the only house he had was already very old. If you give it to your son, you won't have a place to live. If someone can provide your son with a better life, it will save you a lot of worry.
After the marriage was basically settled, the in-laws proposed that the two elders meet to discuss the specific matters of the marriage. The teacher thought that since he and Chen Li had become a legal couple, Chen Li should also participate in such a meeting, so Chen Li also went to the city at the agreed time.
What Chen Li didn’t expect was that this meeting would make her very embarrassed. The dinner was arranged by my stepson, and it was at a quite high-end restaurant.
When both families arrived, the stepson introduced them to each other, but the prospective daughter-in-law didn’t even look at her mother-in-law, nor did she say a word to her.The woman's parents were quite polite, talked to her enthusiastically, and behaved normally.
Although Chen Li was embarrassed at the time, she didn’t take it too seriously. She felt that it might be the first time for the young man to meet and he was embarrassed. When discussing with the teacher to prepare his stepson for marriage, the teacher said that his son likes pure cotton bedding. Chen Li also asked someone to buy a lot of cotton from the countryside, and selected good pure cotton quilts. She made several quilts according to the teacher's requirements.
At that time, the teacher said that everything else should be saved, but not the bride price. According to the market conditions at that time, he wanted to give the woman 160,000 yuan. He didn't have that much on hand, but Chen Li also gave him 60,000 yuan in advance.
The wedding date was set, and Chen Li happily informed her parents that it was a major event for her husband's family, and everyone who could attend should go and make it a lively event. Her parents gave their children gifts just like their own grandchildren.
Everything was prepared step by step. Unexpectedly, when the wedding day was approaching, the teacher told Chen Li something very embarrassing, saying that the bride made a request and did not want to see her, the stepmother-in-law, at the wedding.
Chen Li was stunned by the bride's request. She recalled what happened during this period. After that meeting with her in-laws, she also met the bride twice.
Although her attitude is still very cold, she seems to have done everything she should do, and there is nothing inappropriate? It has been more than four years since I reorganized my family with my teacher. I haven’t spent much time with my stepson, but I haven’t found anything dissatisfying with her stepmother. How could she suddenly make such a request?
Chen Li couldn't accept it, so she naturally raised her own questions with her husband. The honest and kind teacher was a bit dull to begin with, and at this time, he didn't know how to answer her. He saw that Chen Li was unhappy and felt that his daughter-in-law's request was a bit inappropriate. Unable to think of a solution, he called his in-laws and hesitated to explain his daughter-in-law's request and Chen Li's unhappiness.
My father-in-law is worthy of being a leader. He is very reasonable and said that this request of the child is inappropriate. When I do my work, you will do what you should do.
Chen Li and his wife were very happy after hearing what their in-laws said. On the big day, even Chen Li's parents attended the wedding. However, no one expected the willfulness of the young man. When it came to meeting her parents-in-law, the daughter-in-law only paid her respects to her father-in-law and not to Chen Li. In such an occasion, Chen Li felt very embarrassed. Reluctantly waiting for the wedding to end, she took her parents home early.
From that day on, she felt that this marriage could not survive. Although the son and daughter-in-law will live in their parents' home for a long time in the future, meeting each other is inevitable. He was so indifferent to her now, and it was difficult to describe her behavior at that time even with the word "cold".
What Chen Li couldn’t accept the most was the teacher’s attitude. He just did Chen Li's job with a very guilty look and told her not to take it to heart, but he did not dare to accuse his son and daughter-in-law at all.
Chen Li feels very disappointed. She is still young now, but when she gets older in the future, men will still have this attitude. It was clear that the young man had done something rude and he didn't dare to stand up for him, so how could he stay in this family? After retiring in the future, I must go to the city to reunite with him. Do you dare to go in such a situation?
Chen Li told the man that she was worried. At this time, she found that the man was really a coward and couldn't even say a word to think about her. She really felt heartbroken and filed for divorce. She said that she didn't want to embarrass the honest man, and she didn't want to be angry and looked down upon, so she just settled the matter.
The two of them have been together and married for almost seven years. The teacher said that it is rare for two people to get along well and they can't bear to part with this relationship. But seeing no intention of changing in the young man, Chen Li finally insisted on her own ideas and completely separated from her teacher.
After the breakup, the teacher still cared about her very much. When Chen Li's parents fell ill and when Chen Li's son got married, the teacher heard the news and came over to help.It was not until five years after they broke up that the teacher had retired and had some health problems. Under the persuasion of his own sister, the teacher found a rural woman and got married again, and then he broke off contact with Chen Li.
Today, Chen Li is almost sixty years old. When talking about that teacher, she will still say that he is a good person. It's a pity that he has no fate with his children and has to give up this emotion. Chen Li no longer thinks about starting a family. The birth of her grandson makes her life hard and busy every day, but she is also very fulfilled and happy.
Thinking of that short marriage, she said that there were happy memories but also unforgettable memories.
