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01.
On the day of Laba, my mother called and asked my second sister and me to go back, saying that my brother had brought his girlfriend back and asked us to go back and get together.
"Fang Lu, please come back soon. Your brother has really good taste. The more I look at the girl I brought back this time, the more I like her. As a sister, you have to behave well."
After hanging up the phone with my mother, I felt very sad.
When my mother was young, she was a primary school teacher in the village, and my father was a carpenter. They gave birth to the eldest sister and the second sister. My mother always felt that it would be impossible to have a boy in the family, so she tried her best to have a boy to fulfill her dream. The third time, I finally got my wish and gave birth to a pair of dragon and twins.
The twins are my brother and me.
There are already two girls at home, so naturally I am not welcomed. If it weren’t for my younger brother and my grandmother’s reluctance, I might have been sent away long ago.
As far back as I can remember, my mother has never given me a good look. She just wanted a son.
My mother often held my younger brother in her arms and fed him rice cereal, while scolding me for taking away nutrients in my mother's womb, which was why my younger brother was so thin and weak.
Because of giving birth to my brother and me, my mother’s vitality was severely damaged and she could not go to work normally, so she returned home and took care of the four of us wholeheartedly.
02.
When my father comes back from working outside, he sometimes buys some sweet potatoes and jelly beans. Every time, my mother picks them out for my younger brother first, and then distributes the rest to the eldest and second sisters, and finally me.
As long as I can remember, I gradually developed a grudge against my mother's favoritism. Fortunately, my eldest sister and second sister would protect me every time, so my childhood would not be so miserable and bad.
My eldest sister graduated from technical secondary school and went to the south to work. Not long after that, she married her brother-in-law and they married out of town. My mother was very angry because of this matter. She felt that she was in such a loss for raising such a big girl for nothing, and that the eldest sister got married without repaying her elders.
My second sister didn’t study well. After graduating from junior high school, she followed my mother at home and farmed. My mother was afraid that when she grew up, she would fly to other places like my eldest sister, so when my second sister just turned 20, she made arrangements to introduce her to her husband’s family. It wasn't until my second sister put on a bright red wedding dress to marry the son of a pig butcher from a neighboring village and received a gift of 120,000 yuan that my mother breathed a sigh of relief.
I don’t want to live like my second sister, and I don’t want to be disliked by my mother all the time, so I work hard to get out of my current boring family by going to college.
I remember very clearly that when I received the admission notice from a key undergraduate college, my mother showed me a gentle smile for the first time in her life. She also praised me for the first time in front of everyone when facing my younger brother who had passed the entrance examination of a not-so-leading vocational school.
At that time, my heart was as sweet as eating a big piece of honey. Tears of excitement kept rolling in my eyes.
My mother pulled me into her arms, wiped away my tears, and said earnestly, our Fang Lu is still the most powerful, Sanniu, go to school well, your eldest and second sisters are unreliable, and your brother will have to count on you in the future. Don't let me and your dad down. Although
is a heavy mission, it is full of motivation for me as a young person.
03.
On the twelfth day of the twelfth lunar month, I took my son back to my parents’ home. My second sister and brother-in-law had arrived early. My mother was smiling happily and greeted my uncles and uncles. My brother and his girlfriend were leisurely eating melon seeds and basking in the sun in the courtyard.
When she saw me coming back, my mother quickly took the things in my hand and muttered, Fang Lu, how much did you bring back today?
I pretended not to hear. When my mother saw that I was silent and there were guests at home, she went to the kitchen with a low face.
My aunt and my mother prepared a large table of food, and the whole family gathered around and had a lot of fun.
During the dinner, my brother-in-law asked my mother, "I am going to marry a daughter-in-law. Is the house ready?"
My mother answered with a smile: "The house is not a problem. Fang Jian and Tiantian (my brother's girlfriend) work in Tianjin, and they don't come back often. Tiantian's parents said that the down payment is 400,000, their family will contribute 250,000, our family will contribute 150,000, and the bride price is 300,000."
The uncle pondered for a while and said: "Sister, you are so After all, it will cost a lot to hold a wedding, buy furniture, and give out red envelopes. Do you have so much money? "
My mother paused and cleared her throat: "This is all trivial. Doesn't Fang Jian have three sisters? If you just pull it, won't all the money come out? "
I almost choked on the sip of water I just drank. My second sister and I looked at each other. Her face looked a little tired and sallow.
My mother was talking enthusiastically when a video call from my eldest sister came.
"Big girl, look, this whole family has missed you. Why did you marry so far away in the first place? Mom wants to see how difficult it is for you and your grandson. By the way, your brother is coming back this time and is planning to get married next spring. He wants to buy a house and a car. You are the eldest, so remember to prepare the money in advance."
My mother smiled happily at the eldest sister in the video.
04.
After dinner, everyone went to the yard to drink tea and play cards. My mother took my father and asked me and my second sister to go to the bedroom.
"Second Niu, Third Niu, look, your brother is getting married, and you two have to help. I can't make any money. Just rely on your dad. He is not in good health now and can't do anything anymore." My mother got straight to the point and went straight to the point.
"Mom, can't Fang Jian buy a house in our county? The houses here are cheap, and it will be convenient for you and my dad to live there in the future. The house prices in Tianjin are so expensive. After paying the down payment, the mortgage loan will be quite stressful in the future." The second sister said in a consultative tone.
My mother said reluctantly, "Tiantian is from a big city and she can't get used to living in our small county. Besides, her parents also contributed money to buy a house. We are men, so it can't be justified without spending a lot of money."
"Mom, we three sisters have helped the family a lot over the years. This small building, My second sister worked hard to help you pay for it. You and my father didn't care about Fang Jian's and my college tuition. The eldest sister paid for it. I graduated from college and started working, and Fang Jian was idle at home. I also contributed a lot of money to my family and Fang Jian in the past few years. You still asked us to pay for Fang Jian's marriage. I think you are too partial!" I said angrily.
"Is it easy for me to raise you three girls? Fang Jian is the youngest, you help him, isn't it right? I don't ask you if you want more. The eldest girl and the second girl have a harder time, each paying 100,000. Third girl, you are with me now. My son-in-law has a better life than them all, so getting 200,000 yuan is not a problem at all. I will get another 50,000 yuan from your brother-in-law to make up the 450,000 yuan, and the down payment and the gift money will be paid in one lump sum." My mother's tone was non-negotiable, and it was clearly planned long ago.
She clearly asked her three daughters to help her take care of her son.
My mother kept nagging on and on, from when we were little to raising the three of us girls, to when we got married, she kept emphasizing all the difficulties she had with my father.
My second sister and I were silent. Although we were heartbroken, we still had to listen to my mother's various complaints and complaints.
05.
After leaving my parents’ home, I asked my second sister what to do? The second sister sighed and said, what can we do? A few years ago, when our family was building a house, my mother made trouble for me because she asked me for money. You have forgotten that she made trouble for me.
The second sister is more virtuous and sensible. She has endured hardships and is capable in her husband's family. When they first got married, she and her brother-in-law worked from dawn to dusk to pull pork from the village to the city and sell it. Later, the pork business was not good, so they opened a food stall and worked hard all day. She was only in her early 30s and looked like she was in her 40s.
My eldest sister paid for my brother and I to go to college. In order to relieve my eldest sister’s pressure, I only did two things in college, studying and doing various part-time jobs. It wasn’t until I graduated from college that my eldest sister took a breather. Then my mother transferred her hope to me and instilled in me every day that when girls grow up, they should repay their parents and help their younger brothers.
It wasn’t until I got married last year that I gradually reduced the number of times I sent money to my mother. She took away all the 100,000 yuan gift from my wedding. Because of this, although my parents-in-law didn’t seem to care about it, every time my mother-in-law made a mistake, her mother-in-law would always tell her about it several times.
In the past few years since my brother graduated, he has been doing a lot of things, working a job for no more than a year at most, and he has had several girlfriends. I have at least four months of free time at home a year, and my two sisters and I are responsible for all household expenses. My mother believes that raising a daughter is to serve the family, so my brother has accomplished nothing and still enjoys it for granted.
The Spring Festival is here in the blink of an eye. On the second day of junior high school, I took my son and husband back to my parents' home. My brother bought a new car and was playing with his girlfriend on the street.
My mother asked me, did I get the red envelope? The husband took out a red envelope containing two thousand yuan from his pocket and handed it over. The second sister also took out a red envelope from the pocket of her cotton-padded jacket.
My mother happily took the two red envelopes and said: "Girls are sensible. I will add some more money and give Tiantian a 10,000-yuan red envelope. Your brother has reached a high level this time, and we cannot embarrass your brother."
My mother gave 200-yuan red envelopes to each of my son and second sister's two daughters, and two of them were 50-yuan together.
Seeing the children excitedly holding up red envelopes and clamoring to buy toys, my heart felt indescribably sour.
When others return to their parents’ home, they are filled with warmth and love. When I go back to my parents' home, my mother always only cares about what I bought and how much money I can bring to my family.
06.
My brother’s wedding was scheduled for May after the Chinese New Year. In April, my mother asked my two sisters and I for money. The eldest sister gave me 90,000 yuan. My second sister’s father-in-law was in hospital and could not come up with that much, so he only gave 60,000 yuan. My mother suddenly offered me 250,000 yuan, saying that it would make up for the shortfall of my two sisters.
I said there was nothing I could do, and the most I could give was 150,000. I still kept this money from my parents-in-law, and my husband also borrowed 30,000 for me.
My mother was shocked when she heard this. She had snot and tears and sang a sad drama again, saying that the eldest sister and the second sister both have two children at home, and it is harder to make money than me. My husband and I are both graduate students and it is easy to make money. Why can't we get more money? He also said that if my brother fails to get married because he doesn’t have enough money to buy a house and a bride price, he will blame me! At first I just wanted a son, but I don’t know why, but God had to stuff my extra daughter into her belly?
My mother’s words really chilled me. In the past thirty years, I have never experienced the warmth of maternal love in this family. The reason why I was raised when I was a child is because I have the best academic performance and can help the family in the future.
Others raise their daughters out of love. My mother raised her daughter solely because she wanted to support the family and support her younger brother.
I put the 150,000 yuan on the coffee table with a sullen face. My mother kept looking mournful, and my father looked at me tremblingly: "Sanniu, can you think of another way to borrow more? Your mother and I really can't afford it. "Money, don't make things difficult for your mother, okay?"
The second sister pulled my mother and asked her not to make things too difficult for me, saying that I still have to pay off the mortgage in the provincial capital, and it's very stressful. Can I think of other ways?
My mother stared and told the second sister again. Seeing that it was noon, my parents had no intention of leaving me to cook. I quickly grabbed the bag on the sofa, turned around and left.
07.
After I went back, I called my eldest sister. After we complained about my mother, my eldest sister told me not to be too sad and told me that if my mother asked me for money again, I would definitely not give it to me again.
There were still two weeks before my brother's wedding, and my mother called again. This time she didn't mention the money she had raised last time. But she brought up another thing about money.
"Sanniu, your father and I borrowed the money from your uncle, second aunt, and brother-in-law to make up for your brother's betrothal gift. Your father and I will only have to pay off the debt in the future, and your brother will also let him slowly become independent. But, speaking of Di Fangjian is still your brother. I'm afraid that he and Tiantian don't earn enough money. As a sister, you will still have to help him more in the future. He still has decades of mortgage payments. "
After hearing what my mother said, I felt cold in my heart. My mother is relying on me. She has completely forgotten that she and my father are the main caregivers of the son she gave birth to.
My two sisters and I also have our own families, and our money does not come from strong winds.
I can’t understand my mother. We, as daughters, cannot be kidnapped by family ties for the rest of our lives just because our parents gave birth to us.
