What exactly does marriage bring to women? After marrying Zhang Qiang, I asked myself this question more than once, and I couldn't find the answer until our marriage came to an end.
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"Xiao Liu, what's wrong with you? I see your face is not very good." The kitchen aunt walked over and said.
"It's okay, I just don't feel very comfortable." I endured the discomfort in my abdomen and tried hard to squeeze out a smile.
"Don't feel well?" Hearing this, the aunt quickly put down the work in her hand, helped me walk aside, and quickly took away the miscellaneous items on the kitchen chair, "Sit down quickly, your belly is a few months old, you should pay more attention."
"It's okay, no matter how much you pay attention, there will be no chance," I smiled bitterly, "I guess I'll have to give birth tonight."
Hearing me When the aunt said this, she was shocked and was stunned for a few seconds before asking me again, "You child, you still have to give birth to this, but you still work so hard. Otherwise, the boss will come and say to him later, I will help you take the shift."
"Thank you, Aunt Wang, let's talk about it in the afternoon."
was just talking, when a guest in the front hall got up and left after dinner. Aunt Wang said a few more words, asking me to pay attention to myself, so she got up to clean up the table.
Looking at Aunt Wang’s face full of worry and turning around and leaving step by step, a burst of bitterness surged in my heart. My colleagues who had no family ties and blood relationships were all so concerned about me, but the people who should care about did not have a single question.
The work in the hotel in the morning was quite easy. There were many people coming to eat in the office buildings near noon, including me. Everyone was so busy that they were not stuck in the ground. After the meals, they had been relaxing.
At about three o'clock in the afternoon, it was the meal time of the hotel staff. Everyone gathered to eat together, talking and laughing, and the chef sat on my side suddenly said, "Xiao Liu, are you about to give birth?"
"Well, it's almost time," I nodded, "It's probably only one or two days." After the
finished speaking, the boss happened to come in, "Just one or two days? This is a big deal. Why are you still coming to work? This afternoon or tomorrow, you can go home first."
"Okay, thank you boss."
Boss said he didn't come in the afternoon, so he told the chef a few words and left. At the dinner table, everyone was excited to guess whether my belly was a boy or a girl, and joked that I was about to give birth to a stomach and couldn't tell the bloated slightest.
I also joked with everyone, and the discomfort in my stomach seems not so obvious. After dinner, everyone packed their things and started to be busy, preparing the side dishes for the evening. Aunt Wang came over and advised me to go back early and packed things in advance to go to the hospital before they could feel at ease.
I nodded. After thanking Aunt Wang for his kindness, I walked aside and called Zhang Qiang. The phone rang a few times and was answered. "My stomach started to hurt. Maybe I will give birth to this evening."
The other end of the phone was a game fighting sound. Zhang Qiang did not speak or hung up the phone. A few minutes later, Zhang Qiang's voice came from the other end of the phone, "What did you say just now?"
felt bitter in my heart. I tried to control my emotions and repeated it, "My stomach started to hurt. Maybe I will give birth to this evening."
Zhang Qiang seemed to turn over on the other end of the phone, but he just said "Oh".
"Hang it." I didn't know what to say, so I hung up the phone in a hurry. His attitude made me feel humble in asking for help.
is said that men's mouths are lying, and they are completely different before and after marriage. I didn't believe these things in the past, but now I really have to believe them.
I have been in love with Zhang Qiang for three years and have been married for two years. Zhang Qiang's considerate and carefulness has long disappeared.
I really can't figure out why people change so much before and after marriage. Zhang Qiang used to be positive, but now he is just a game except for work and never touches his housework. Now he doesn't seem to care about such a big thing as having a child.
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As I got off work, my friend who was working in a nearby office building said that after the field office came over to see me, "What? Today's due date? Does your stomach hurt?"
"A little bit," At the same time, more obvious pain came from my lower body. I instinctively grabbed the corner of the table and endured the pain to prevent me from screaming, "Xiaowei, I seem to be getting more and more painful, as if I am going to give birth."
When I heard this, everyone rushed me into the car. Xiaowei took me to the hospital. On the way, she called Zhang Qiang several times, but it was not answered.
When I arrived at the hospital, the child was born within a few minutes after entering the delivery room. I thought to myself that the child felt sorry for me. Zhang Qiang arrived two hours later.
The first sentence after entering the door was not to care about my health, but to go straight to see the child. After seeing that it was a daughter, Zhang Qiang's eyes became dark, without the slightest tension and joy of becoming a father.
"What, are you not happy to have a daughter?" My friend was angry with Zhang Qiang's inaction and his tone was a little bad. "It's not me that I really have you. Everyone said that my stomach hurts, and you don't know how to send her to the hospital."
"I didn't know that I'm going to have a child so soon. At noon, I called and said I was giving birth to a child at night. I thought I would give birth to a child at night." Zhang Qiang said that he was confident and did not think he had any problems at all.
"Okay, even if we don't say it clearly that it's our own fault when we call at noon, why didn't you answer the phone before? Games are more important than wives and children?! Having a child is a fatal death if you are not careful. You are better, you can't be obsessed with playing games."
"Isn't this okay? As for such a fuss, let's talk about so many women in the world who have children, and there aren't many accidents. You women just love yourself and scare yourself."
What else do you want to say, and I grabbed her wrist and signaled not to say anything more.
: Having a child is a matter of life, but my husband is playing games at home and even feels distracted. It is fake to say that he is not disappointed. I keep asking myself why I wanted to get married and why I had to get married?
is like this now, but I can only smile bitterly.
But before getting married, he was obviously not like this. He worked hard, thoughtful and careful, but after getting married, he was lazy, arrogant and domineering, as if I had never seen through him.
In the next few days, Zhang Qiang would come to the hospital every day after get off work, but he only came to the hospital once. Until he was discharged from the hospital, he had never changed his diapers for the child, nor even held the child once, let alone considering my body and nutrition.
Zhang Qiang and I are both single parents, elders of both families, my father and his mother did not have too frequent contacts except when they met once on the day of their wedding. We said together that the good life was our own and tried not to worry about our parents. There was no bride price or house, so we bought a scooter with a loan.
During the entire confinement period, I was the only one at home. It is better to serve him more thoughtfully than being in confinement. Breakfast should be suitable for his appetite and dinner should be served before he entered the door. He felt that the noisy child affected his rest, so he asked me to take the child to sleep next door. When the child cried in the middle of the night, he rushed in from next door and asked me angrily how I was a mother. The child couldn't coax it well...
After the confinement period, the previous restaurant had a newcomer to take my place. I started working part-time and found a job in clothing sales in the mall near my home. The salary was not high, but the boss allowed me to take care of the child.
I have also thought of divorce. I swallowed it back many times. I was afraid that my future income would not be enough to support my children. Days passed day by day, and Zhang Qiang still went home to eat, play games and sleep every day. I was too lazy to argue with him. That's it, I thought to myself.
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When the child was two years old, I started to work two jobs. Because I have no education, I can only find a job in the clothing store during the day and a restaurant to provide accommodation at night.
The restaurant is quite large, but no one except me stays in the store. Every morning, someone will send the vegetables, wine and drinks for the day. I often help with the goods after cleaning the front hall.
During the day, the conflict between Zhang Qiang and me became more and more frequent. She felt that I was too strong and had no time to cook on time to take care of the family.
I said I didn’t want to rent a house for the rest of my life and live in an old and dilapidated child, so I asked him to go to Didi to subsidize his family if he had time at night. After all, the child needs money, and he said he was very tired from work and had no energy.
A few more months later, I filed for divorce, and Zhang Qiang refused, I knew he knew it. He was afraid that he would never find a wife like me who was hardworking and hardworking, and such a "nanny" who was easy to talk and endure. I thought he would change, but the fact is that he neither agreed to divorce nor was he willing to work hard for his family.
At the same time, I realized that the couple who came to deliver vegetables and drinks very early every day was the owner of the restaurant. Maybe they took my job in their eyes, maybe they thought I was still reliable, and soon after, the kitchen manager resigned. I was invited to work full-time and appointed as a new manager, with a salary of five times higher than my previous part-time job.
Everything got started and got on track. I filed for divorce again. This time, Zhang Qiang did not directly refuse, but asked me to return the 10,000 yuan he spent on me in the past few years. Most of the expenses during the birth of children and confinement period. He bluntly said that as long as I give money, I agree to the divorce.
I gave him money, but he refused to sign the divorce. He wanted more money. I suddenly saw this person clearly. It was ridiculous and sad. I was even more determined to divorce.
With the help of my friend, I filed a divorce lawsuit. The first instance judgment was not given. After a period of separation, I filed a divorce again and decided to divorce.
came out of the court, Zhang Qiang looked at me viciously, leaving a sentence "You are cruel" and left. I looked at his back and smiled.
Finally, I was relieved.
After the divorce, I was busy between work and children every day. Without Zhang Qiang, life seemed more like life.
I used to think that as long as two people fall in love and work hard together, they will always get better. But later I realized that maybe all men need is a wife, son's mother, but not lover.
Nowadays, I still work hard and still move forward. I still believe that there is a consistent lover in this world, but I no longer carelessly. I have a lot of considerations about people's hearts.
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