I am a native of Guangdong. I have learned Qimen and traveled around the country for decades. Every industry has its own negative impact. Those who work in the office are prone to lumbar muscle strain, periarthritis, , and cervical spondylitis. My industry has five disadvantages and three disadvantages, and the five disadvantages are "widower, widower, orphan, alone, and disabled". The three lacks are lack of "money, life, and power". I have taken up five of these disadvantages.
When I was young, I wanted to make a name for myself. When my career was over, my wife found out that my stomach cancer was . I put down most of my work and tried to take time to guard her. But a year later, she passed away.
Children often say that if I go home more and spend more time with their mothers, she would not have walked so fast. I always feel ashamed of them. I went back to the city and opened a clinic. I spent most of my time in the clinic. I rarely traveled around like before. Sometimes when I went out, I also walked around in Guangdong and Guangxi, one to take care of them, and the other to relieve our family affection.
Who knows that adult children are not grateful? My daughter married far away because of her mother's departure and never came back. Her son lost fertility in an accident, lost hope for life, and ran away from home and has not returned yet. I often wonder if I have disclosed too much secrets, so the family has become like this.
Why did I fall into deep self-blame during that time? I devoted my energy to the clinic again. Those who came to see the doctor would charge money if they could pay. If the family conditions were really bad, they could exchange rice, old hens and Chinese medicinal materials. This clinic has been open for 40 years. Before I knew it, I was 85 years old. The accumulation of 40 years has made me famous nearby.
One day, a woman came to see a doctor and saw that she was pale and thin. She had obvious problems with her body. After checking her, she prescribed medicine. She stood there and refused to leave for a long time. I couldn't help asking: Is there any difficulties at home? She nodded embarrassedly and asked her to give her money if she had difficulties.
started, she came to the clinic for hygiene arrangements for me and arranged the patient and cooked for me. I felt much more relaxed when I had her help. I wanted to hire her as a helper or a nanny, so I asked about her experience.
She is 45 years old. Her husband used to be a contractor. She died in an accident 10 years ago. She left a pair of children to rely on her for life. She has been working everywhere to support her children. Due to excessive fatigue, she often has problems with her body. I heard that I was good at regulating my body, so I specially looked for me from the town to the city.
Listening to her experience, I remembered my past, and my children who have been reluctant to go home for many years. Without saying a word, I hired her to help with the clinic and work as a nanny at my house. She worked in my house with great skill, and the home-cooked dishes made me once again have the Qinghuan of the world.
There is one more person in the family and more popularity. She used to go around her husband to do projects. I used to go around to see others. There are endless things we both together. I often feel lonely because my children don’t go home. Since she came, I feel that I am no longer lonely.
She is kind to me, and I am kind to her, giving her a salary of 7,000 yuan a month. In addition to the living expenses needed at home, I pay for her all the clothes, shoes, bags, jewelry, etc. she wants. She stayed in my house for 10 years. In the past few years, we were all in peace. In the ninth year, the clinic was demolished and transferred to 5 million.
She began to ask me for money with different excuses. Sometimes she didn't cook if I didn't want to give it to her. In recent years, I spent about 1 million on her. Her children often came to my house to eat and drink. They slept in 3 rooms and they slept in 3 rooms. I asked myself whether the salary was low and I was generous to her children.
Once she told me that her son didn't have enough money to do business, so she asked for 500,000 yuan. My money was not blown by the strong wind, so she politely refused. Later, she still took 200,000 yuan from me. I was kind to their family, but now she doesn't give me any money because I didn't give me any money.
The more I thought about it, the more uncomfortable I felt. One month of lunch I ate outside. One day after dinner, I came back from outside and saw the three of them watching TV leisurely and turning a blind eye to my return. I felt even more uncomfortable and asked her to pay 200,000 yuan. As a result, she said: We are not the relationship between the employer and the nanny, but the relationship between the teacher and the students and the cohabitation.
I not only take care of your daily life, but also take care of the clinic with you. You are responsible for treating patients and I am responsible for taking medicine. These incomes are the income from working together during the cohabitation period and should be divided equally. Now the money for the clinic's demolition and relocation must also be divided equally.
Not only that, she also asked me to keep all the deposits for her. I thought my son might come back. When he came back one day, the money could be given to his son, so naturally he refused to give it to her. She looked at me with resentment.
money is mine, I have the right to dominate, and I don’t understand that she dares not do anything bad to me until one day I went for a walk in the park as usual. When I passed through the woods, three young people rushed out and pushed me to the ground. Fortunately, someone took me to the hospital.
I thought this was an accident, but I never expected such things to happen one after another. Fortunately, I found out that I was sent to the hospital in time, otherwise my life would be difficult to save. I missed my children by my side more and more...
The more I thought about it, the sadder I felt, and I couldn't help crying in the hospital. My son, where are you? Come back quickly. If you don't come back, I will never see you again.
@Liuhuaying
This nanny is really good at doing business. First, he takes care of the old man's savings, then coaxes his house, and finally takes care of the old man's life. This operation is perfect.
What the old man encountered is a microcosm of the times. Data from the seventh census shows that my country has more than 264 million elderly people, the scale of is close to 500 million, and the number of widowed elderly people is nearly 50 million.
Divorce, widowed, separation of people and households... A reality that comes to mind is that more and more elderly people are trapped in the whirlpool of "lostness".
In fact, the loneliness of the elderly is as painful as arthritis
How much does it cost to show a smile? Half an hour.
Three homemade cakes. Flowers picked at home.
A photo of your boyfriend. An long distance call .
imitates Dev Anand.
asks some questions. Read a novel. Listen to a story.
An unexpected visit on Sunday morning.
walk the dog.
Change to a light bulb. Tell a yellow joke.
ask for his suggestions. Give him some advice.
tuning love, chat, laugh, listen.
You only need to spend a little time with the elderly.
Not even satisfied with this little desire. Endless loneliness swallows their lives. They are becoming more and more afraid of loneliness, so they seek to live together in order to avoid loneliness. This is actually a trend, and it will be an unstoppable social trend.
However, in his later years, he often faces more realistic problems, such as difficult life and weak emotional foundation. If two people want to live together, they often need to bear their own responsibilities. The most important thing is that the other party really wants to be a family with you, rather than trying to get your money and house.
