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I took a nap, held my bulging belly, and washed myself an apple. Before I could take a bite, the doorbell rang. I held my waist and opened the door. When I saw my mother-in-law standing outside the door with a bag of fruit, I quickly gave her in. I am about to go to confinement, so I have to rely on my mother-in-law to serve me, so I have to curry favor with her now.
I stuffed the apple in my hand to my mother-in-law. She rubbed the apple and said hesitantly: "Miaomiao, Mom has something to discuss with you!" "Mom, seeing you are in a dilemma, we mother and I will just say anything if you have anything to do!" I held her arm and said with a smile.
However, after hearing my mother-in-law's words, my smile immediately froze on my face. My mother-in-law said, "She can't serve me during confinement." "Mom, is this kidding? This child is about to be born. Could it be that I will ask me to find confinement nanny or confinement center now? Where do you ask me to find it in our 18th-tier small city?" I was a little angry.
Seeing that my face was unhappy, my mother-in-law quickly said, "Don't worry about this. I have discussed it with your mother before I came, and she agreed to come and take care of you. You see, I have no experience in taking care of the confinement period, just because I am afraid that I will be improperly serving you." My mother-in-law stuffed the apple back into my hand: "I guess she will have something to do now, and she hasn't had time to tell you."
2
My husband Zhang Hong and I met through a friend's introduction. Soon after marriage, we got pregnant. There happened to be a female colleague in the unit who was about the same pregnancy as me. She asked me if I wanted to take care of the men and women together. Curiosity was at work, and my husband encouraged me, so I went there. The doctor in the small clinic checked me and said I was pregnant with a girl.
I also specifically told my husband not to tell others, so as not to make jokes at that time. This guy was still patting his chest to promise. It seems that it is a man's mouth, a lie! He must have told his mother-in-law that I was pregnant with a girl, so she was unwilling to come and serve me in confinement.
The more I thought about it, the more I felt aggrieved. After my husband came back in the evening, I threw a pillow over and asked him to confess honestly. As a result, the other person stretched out three fingers and sweared that he had never disclosed it. Seeing that I was still angry, I came over to touch my stomach with a pleasing touch, and said with a smile, "It's better to have your biological mother come here."
I gave him a blank look and bite the pear hard: This is indeed true, but it's wrong to say it from my in-laws' mouth. If you don’t come, you won’t come, no one cares.
Not long after, I successfully gave birth to a child and it turned out to be a boy! It was a little surprised. Since we had that B-ultrasound, we have also agreed that it was a girl and we have thought of several girls' names. I couldn't help but curse the man in my heart: I also said that I had good skills and must be wrong. It's better to buy a can of milk powder than this money.
The next morning, I was still lying on the hospital bed to rest, and my mother-in-law came over with a bowl of millet porridge. Just as the child woke up, she picked up the child, mouthed a baby, and smiled into a chrysanthemum on her face. I shouted "It's time to feed", and she carefully put the child in my arms.
Looking at my mother-in-law's reluctant look, I suddenly felt my waist straightened a little, and even thought proudly: I didn't expect it to be a boy. Now you want to take care of your grandson, but I'm not happy!
3
After the child was born, I also joined various "mom communication groups" to share my experience in raising children with you. One day, a bowl of pork belly soup in the group caught my attention. A mother complained that because she didn't like to drink internal organ soup, her mother-in-law insisted on doing it, which led to a struggle between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
I remembered that my mother-in-law made this soup once two months ago. There were indescribable floating objects on it and the smell. It smoked me so much that I covered my nose, but she said she would eat it during the confinement period in the future. The scene at that time is still vivid in my mind, and I patted my own heart: Fortunately, my mother doesn’t know how to make this pork belly soup.
On the night, a female colleague called and asked if there was any brand of milk powder recommended. When I asked, I found out that it was her mother-in-law from a small family who cooked her fresh soup and water all day long. As a result, adults were not nutritious enough, so how could they breastfeed their children enough?
Colleagues even started crying as they spoke, and I felt sad when I heard it. It turns out that when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have no way to hide the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Suddenly, I thought it was open and felt that I was so happy: my biological mother came to take care of her, and sometimes she would quarrel with her, but she would act like a spoiled person and turn it over the next day; and my husband would also help me, and my mother-in-law would sometimes bring orders of food, clean it up and go back.
She has always been straightforward and likes to nag. The mother is more sensitive during the confinement period, and there will be more or less conflicts at that time. Thinking of this, I feel a little thankful, it’s better for my own mother to come!
However, given the fact that " prefers boys over girls ", I ignored my mother-in-law. She didn't ask, and I didn't take the initiative to speak. My mother poked my forehead and said, "Damn girl, why do you treat your mother-in-law like this?" I stuttered on my neck: "Who told her to favor boys over girls? If I gave birth to a girl, would she still come?"
My mother sighed, turned around and handed me a jewelry box and several sets of baby clothes. I opened the box and saw that it was a gold pendant worn by a baby: "Oh, this grandma is too generous, this pendant is not cheap!" After that, I picked up the invoice curiously to see the price, but my mother said that it was all taken by my mother-in-law just now.
"You have seen the invoice date, right? Jindiaozi, you just got pregnant. Your mother-in-law has prepared a long time ago and she specially chose neutral color clothes. Where did you prefer boys over girls?" My mother looked so angry that she continued to scold me: "In order to buy authentic local chickens to nourish you, your mother-in-law went to the countryside to choose. Yesterday I was almost bitten by a dog. Look at what your attitude is to her? It's really ungrateful."
I was a little stunned. My mother-in-law had been bitten by a dog before, so she was very afraid of dogs. She had to take a detour when she encountered it. But now for her, she knows that "there is a tiger in the mountain, but she tends to go to the tiger mountain." Could it be that I was really misunderstood her?
4
Time flies, I am out of confinement, and my mother is going back to her hometown. Before leaving, she handed me a bag of money, saying that it was the hard work my mother-in-law gave her. "Give it back to your mother-in-law for me. She is sincere to you and the child, so mom will feel relieved."
On the weekend, the mother-in-law came over and played happily with the child. At this moment, the sunset outside the window gently scattered on the old and the young, which was so warm. I joked, "I thought you knew the fetus was a girl in advance, so I temporarily regretted not coming to take care of me during confinement."
Mother-in-law said in surprise, "How is it possible? Whether it is a boy or a girl, it is all the treasures I hold in the palm of my hand. So you have taken care of men and women? Not sure, right?" I smiled embarrassedly, but I couldn't help asking, "Since it's not because of this, why can't you suddenly say you can't come?"
Mother-in-law said, "It's what I told you at the beginning, I'm afraid I can't take good care of you!" Seeing that I didn't believe it, she continued, "Do you still remember Aunt Qing, the old sister who danced square dance with me?" I remember Aunt Qing, and I still remember that her daughter-in-law Xiaomei's due date was earlier than her, and the two of them had seen each other several times.
It turns out that shortly after Aunt Qing’s grandson was born, her mother-in-law came to visit her and wanted to learn some parenting knowledge. But after entering the door, I always feel that the atmosphere is not right.
In the kitchen, Aunt Qing pulled her to wipe her tears and accused her daughter-in-law of all kinds; while Xiaomei rushed in with her child in her arms, took up the child's clothes, and asked my mother-in-law to comment: "You see, she covered the child until she had a rash. Is it wrong for me to blow the air conditioner for him?" The two of them were not willing to be outdone, and they were about to fight, so they scared that their mother-in-law quickly ran away.
Mother-in-law is still scared: Oh my God, this is so terrible. Both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have become enemies when they are confinement. Aunt Qing and her daughter-in-law both come from the same place and have such big differences.My daughter-in-law is from another place, and her customs are definitely different. I have no experience in serving the confinement period, so it will be bad if there are any conflicts at that time. So I immediately decided to ask my mother for help.
"Everyone says the hatred of confinement is irreconcilable. I want to get along well with you in the future! Besides, if you can't sit well during confinement, it will cause the disease. I heard that it is easy to get postpartum depression ." The mother-in-law picked up the child and coaxed her to sleep with a loving look on her face. I felt guilty in my heart. It turned out that my mother-in-law had always been thinking about herself, but fortunately she was still thinking about it, saying that her mother-in-law was "respecting boys over girls."
5
A few days later, I pushed the child for a walk nearby and met Aunt Qing's daughter-in-law Xiaomei. The two of them exchanged greetings and learned that my mother came to take care of me during the confinement period, she said, "You are so wise!"
In fact, my mother-in-law is the one who understands the truth the most. She said: Even though she knew there was a pit in front of her, she had seen someone fall down with her own eyes. Do you still have to pull you to continue jumping in? In the end, both of them were covered in bruises and wounds?
Although she didn't come to take care of me during confinement, I am grateful to her. Even if some people say she is lazy, don’t expect her daughter-in-law when she gets old, or she is a bad mother-in-law and is difficult to get along with, so she is not allowed to take care of her. But my mother-in-law didn't mind at all, because she always put my feelings first in her heart, and she would definitely treat her well for the rest of her life.
