This is the 984th real person we tell
My name is Xiaoyu
(I am very happy with the children)
1993, I was born in a rural area in Shangqiu, Henan, and my parents are both authentic farmers.
Other people prefer boys over girls, but our family is exactly the opposite. In order to have a daughter, my parents gave birth to four sons in succession, and I was the youngest one. Looking at me as a boy again, they went from expectation to disappointment.
But reality cannot defeat their idea of liking girls. In order to satisfy their desire to raise their daughter, they raised me as a girl since childhood, left me with hair and braids, and also wore skirts for me. . Others don’t know about it, and they really think I’m a girl.
Although I am loved by my parents, I spent almost all of my childhood at my relatives’ houses. I am the fourth child in the family. Once I encounter a checkup or something, I will be quickly sent to my grandma or aunt's house. I will be taken home only after the showdown.
There are many children in the family, and our family lives in poverty. But no matter how poor we are, we cannot be poor in education. My parents sold our brothers to go to school. The four of us are also very successful, and each of us is among the best in our academic performance.
(Shangqiu Huashang Cultural Square, inheriting and carrying forward the "three business" culture, commemorating the founder of Chinese business Wang Hai)
If my life continues, I might become a college student, but my youth rewrites all this.
When I arrived in junior high school, I started fighting with my classmates. As long as I am provoked or bullied, I will take a bunch of brothers back. The principal talked to me many times, hoping that I could study hard and not fight again.
In his opinion, I am a good seedling for learning, and it is a pity that I was delayed. But his persuasion has no effect at all, and I am still on the road of rebellion.
We now know that the best way to solve rebellion is to understand why he rebelled, listen to and respect him, give him the right to choose, and work together to formulate the rules of "what should we do?"
But my parents didn't understand. They chose the simplest and rough method and sent me into the army to let the militarized management of the army tame me.
That's it, I dropped out of junior high school and joined the army. I didn't object to this decision, and I felt a little arrogant. If I asked me to go, I would go, whoever was afraid of it. , but I was really afraid of it when I really arrived at the army.
(Not a hero if you are not in the Great Wall, take a photo to commemorate)
The place where I joined the army is Shanxi, which is far from my home. Sitting on the train and watching the scenery of my hometown slowly move backwards, I feel full of expectations for the troops. Of course, I was also prepared to endure hardships. Only when I got there did I realize that the suffering of the troops was not as simple as I thought.
Just arrived in the army, I was completely unfamiliar with various strict rules and regulations, and I began to miss the beauty of my family. But this is just the beginning.
recruits company for three months, and their main task is training. doesn’t sleep enough every day, so you have to get up and train together, stand in military posture, and physical training. Running starts for five kilometers. is like this every day, and I miss my parents every day, and I keep crying.
It can be said that I was crying and enduring the three-month recruit company. Apart from the pain of training, because I have a bad temper, I sometimes feel rebellious and often get physically punished. I was called to run and practice at any disagreement, and I changed my bad temper.
(Backpack that has been with me for twelve years)
Despite this, I am still very grateful for my two years of life in the army. It was the army that taught me to be principled when doing things and have a bottom line in life; it was the army that gave me the correct views, which gave me a more sense of justice.
However, two years later, I chose to leave the army. may be tempered by the army, and I matured very quickly myself. I also have a clear view of the future. A person like me who has no education cannot apply to the military academy.
In 2010, I walked out of the army and started working hard in society.Because I had no education, I didn’t have the opportunity to find some high-end careers, so I had to go to a restaurant at a relative’s house to become an apprentice.
The restaurant in my relatives is very formal. Here I not only learned technology, but also learned knowledge about how to manage a restaurant and marketing.
5 years later, I was unwilling to be just an employee and just looking forward to that fixed salary every month. I want to start a business and be my own boss. So, I founded my own catering brand "Turts Fall in Love with Shrimp".
(It is something I am particularly happy to distribute supplies to children)
Everything is difficult at the beginning, especially starting a business, which is even more difficult. Besides, I, a young boy, have no startup capital at all. But I understand that starting a business requires seizing the opportunity, and there will be no such store after passing through this village.
So, I borrowed money from through a bank loan and borrowed money from several relatives, and raised a total of about 800,000 yuan and invested in my restaurant. With the financial guarantee of , my restaurant has a good start.
Looking back on this, I am very grateful to the relatives who lent money to me, because their trust in me has made my life more possibilities.
After three years of development, my restaurant has expanded from one restaurant to 11, which is a successful entrepreneurial success. Especially in the past two years, I also made money.
It is well known that in the catering industry, once a brand becomes popular, there will be many replicas. In this case, the profit is not as good as before.
(I first went to Yingzi's house and she caught a duck to entertain me, but I refused)
About 2017, I began to slowly hand over the restaurant to professional manager , while I turned to e-commerce and focused on third-party services in online stores. I recruited a lot of people at that time, and my main business was to teach online stores how to operate and get better income.
By 2018, my e-commerce company brought me far more profits than restaurants, and I made 1 million in a year, which also made me earn the first pot of gold in my life. In order to better operate e-commerce, I decided to hand over the restaurant full rights to professional managers, and I only kept some shares.
Some people may think that three years of catering should have made a lot of money, but the opposite is true. It seems rich to do business, but the money is basically in the process of circulating. Because I had to pay back my loan, pay high rent, and employees' wages, after three years, I finally got more than 200,000 yuan.
(I feel particularly happy when I see the smiles of the children)
After replacing the restaurant, e-commerce is in a bonus period, but my personal relationship has problems. I was in a sense of hopelessness, and what I had done so much seemed to be in vain. I don’t want to live just for money, I should do something more meaningful.
Whether it is escapism or a self-salvation, in 2019, my friend and I started a self-driving tour that was just about to leave.
Speaking of relaxation, the first recommendation is Tibet or Hulunbuir Prairie , because nature has a natural healing function. My friend and I made a strategy and set out towards the prairie in our dreams, but a report disrupted our itinerary.
There is a cliff village deep in Daliang Mountain, Sichuan. This village is built on a cliff with an altitude of more than 1,000 meters and is 270 stories high above the ground. It is extremely inconvenient for people to travel, and their contact with the outside world only relies on a rattan ladder, which makes the transportation very inconvenient.
(Once the cliff village rattan ladder)
Whether it is adults going out or children going to school, rattan ladder is the only way to go. Because of this, many parents do not let their children go out to school, which will kill people if they accidentally. In front of life, education is ranked behind.
Watching the people there climbing quickly on the rattan ladder, my heart fell to the bottom.
They still face life with a smile in such a harsh environment, but what about me? If you have a little emotional setback, you will not be able to find the direction of your life.It was at this moment that I decided not to go to the grassland or to see the sea. I wanted to go to Daliangshan to take a look.
When I arrived in Daliangshan, I realized that the rattan ladder had become a ladder of steel structure three years ago. The completion of the ladder greatly shortened the villagers' journey out of the mountain village and increased the safety of their travel.
(The rattan ladder has become a convenient steel ladder)
Although the ladder is solid, I still find it difficult to calm down when I watch the villagers climb on the steel ladder. Think about it, when the children in my hometown are going to school, their parents will pick up and drop off their cars. When they encounter difficult roads, they will still walk around.
, but what about the children here? There is only this way, they still go to school by themselves, without parents picking up and dropping off. I really don’t know that I’m living in a lucky nest after comparing.
is deep in the mountains, far away from the hustle and bustle of the city. I seem to hear the voice in my heart. I want to do something for them. So I spent about 30,000 to 40,000 yuan to buy some supplies, which was my dedication.
I never thought I would devote myself to charity, but I just felt that anyone would reach out to help me when I saw such a scene. But when I was distributing down jackets, shoes, and schoolbags in the village, I met several strangers who were doing live broadcasts.
(send supplies to children)
As soon as they came up, they said to me, "Can you take a photo of the process of distributing supplies?" I didn't understand at the time, I only knew that they were broadcasting live, so I just wanted to take photos. Afterwards, I also asked casually: "Can you make money like this?"
They said they could make a lot of money, and many people would give them gifts. I joked, "You guys are just making money." Even so, I invited them to a meal.
It was this meal that gave me the first intimate contact with short videos and learned about the profit model of live broadcasts. Even so, my heart still has no turbulence. I just thought that after the last batch of supplies was distributed, I would go back.
A person who can’t swim, no matter how many swimming pools you can change, it will be useless. And I, a person who is sad inside, cannot complete self-reconciliation and will be sad everywhere I go.
After sending the last batch of supplies, I will leave Daliangshan, but I still don’t know where the future path is, and I don’t know what to do after I go back.
(children in the mountains)
Suddenly, I thought of what those friends who do live broadcasts said, short videos are a hot topic, you can try it. My mind has begun to move. Since someone has made money with my behavior, why don’t I do it myself?
Driven by this kind of thinking, I began to come into contact with short videos. What surprised me was that I only spent seven or eight thousand yuan on the last batch of supplies, but the total amount of rewards or gifts from netizens was about 10,000 or 20,000 yuan.
This time, my experience started to rethink the two things of short videos and charity. Perhaps due to my years of business habits, I like to use business logic to do things.
The public welfare matter is based on personal ability alone, and the power of goodness is a little small, so it is not necessary to support children. In my personal opinion, adopting a business model and pursuing goodness through business is the best choice.
Once I was sure to make short videos, I started to collect various resources and found many experienced people to learn about them. In the end, I adopted the short video model of selling agricultural products.
(The hardworking, simple and kind four sisters)
The focus of this model is not to me personally sell goods, but to me when my own technology is mature, I will drive more young people in Daliangshan to make short videos and open up the sales of local agricultural products.
In addition to the charity of the business model, I also sponsored 33 children with myself, which costs about 200,000 to 300,000 yuan a year. Some of these expenses in come from short video income, and more rely on my previous savings.
is deep in the mountains, far away from the hustle and bustle of the city. The life here makes me find the meaning of life what I like to do.
Here, I am often moved by the simple and lovely people. They pulled me up, who were deeply trapped in the mud, and gave me hope for life.
While I was walking, I met many kind and enthusiastic people. Whenever I said I would spend twenty yuan to have a meal, they would agree readily and repeatedly say I didn’t have any money.
(making rice dumplings with the fourth sister)
What touched me even more is that every time I pass by, the food they cook is particularly rich. Although they usually eat bacon and vegetables, for me, a stranger, they will think about killing the poultry raised at home and giving me better meals. Whenever this happens, I am deeply moved by their simplicity and kindness.
It has been more than three years since I came to Daliangshan. With my own strength, I have helped some people get out of poverty and embrace a new life. To be more certain, they helped me get out of the predicament of life and found the way I came.
For the future, I want to set up a farmer assistance group, and I hope that more young people from the mountains will join in. Then, I trained them to do live streaming and sell goods, and walked into the countryside and into the depths of the mountains together.
[Oral: Xiaoyu]
[Editor: Xiaoqi]
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