Introduction
There is a saying in China: Distant relatives cannot catch up with neighbors. This common saying comes from the fourth compromise of the drama " Dongtang Lao " written by Qin Jianfu. In the compromise, there is a lyrics: "Don't you hear that distant relatives are not like my neighbors? How dare I do it? Is it that I am a little bit untrustful?" Since then, there is a common saying " distant relatives cannot keep up with their neighbors ".
A few years ago, someone wrote a story that said that " distant relatives cannot catch up with their neighbors "-----
The story says that a long time ago, there were two families living on a street, and these two families were neighbors on the left and right.
First, the two families had a dispute over which one's house was taller and whose house was shorter, which formed a conflict between the two families. Later, the two families quarreled constantly over some trivial matters, which made the conflict between the two families increasingly bigger and bigger. The two families almost reached the point where they never had any contact with each other. For decades, there was no contact.
On a summer day, the weather was extremely gloomy. After a while, I saw dark clouds rolling in the sky, strong winds were blowing, and raindrops tilted down like beans.
Due to the violent wind and rain, a big tree in front of one of the houses was uprooted, and the fallen trees collapsed the door building of the house, blocking the family's way out. At this moment, another gust of wind blew, and the roof of the family was lifted off half. In this case, the family had to run away. However, since the gatehouse collapsed, no matter how hard their family tried, they could not escape their yard. In desperation, their family could only keep shouting "Help, help."
The continuous "life-help" sounds were heard by the neighbors, and the neighbors quickly ran out to check the situation. When the neighbors found that the gatehouse of the family collapsed and the whole family was blocked in the yard, they quickly ran home and took out their tools and dug up an escape passage. So the family escaped from the yard.
Afterwards, the family asked the neighbor: "Our two families have been resentful for a long time, why do you want to save us!" The neighbor replied: "Distant relatives cannot catch up with the neighbors. We quarrel, make noise, and fight, but when we need help, we still need to help each other. After all, we are neighbors for life, and everyone has times when we need help!"
Of course, the above is just a story, and we don't know the authenticity of the story. However, in real life, there are many things that neighbors help each other.
For example, this happened here----
Zhang and Liu are neighbors. A few years ago, the two families fought over the homestead, so they usually don’t interact with each other.
One day in the middle of the night in winter last year, Liu suddenly heard a faint "life-saving" sound from Zhang's house. Liu felt that something must have happened in Zhang's house, so he quickly turned over and got out of bed, and rushed to the roof of his house regardless of the biting cold wind. Since his roof and Zhang's roof were connected, he easily went down to Zhang's yard. When he went down to Zhang's yard, he found that Zhang was lying in the middle of the yard and shouting faintly. Suddenly, Liu understood that Zhang and his family must have been gas poisoned. So he quickly rushed into Zhang's house and carried Zhang's wife and two sons to the yard respectively. Later, under the help of the doctor, Zhang and his family were all out of danger. Afterwards, Zhang said with emotion: If it weren't for Liu's timely assistance, our whole family would be finished.
In fact, through countless facts, the statement that "distant relatives cannot catch up with their close neighbors" is very correct. However, on October 20, something like this happened in a certain place in Henan-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------So, the villagers carried Wang Mousheng's coffin to take it to the cemetery. But who knew that when the villagers carried Wang Mousheng's coffin by the door of his neighbor Zhang Moulian, Zhang Moulian actually moved a stool to block everyone's way. No matter how the villagers persuaded him, Zhang Moulian just refused to let Wang Mousheng's coffin pass by his own door.
Zhang Moulian's actions puzzled the villagers. Although the villagers knew that she had a holiday with Wang Mousheng's family and had not had any contact for many years, the villagers did not know how the holidays between their two families occurred. When everyone was confused, Zhang Moulian spoke.
Zhang Moulian said: "Forty years ago, when I gave birth to my eldest son at home, I suddenly had a heavy bleeding and needed to be rushed to the hospital for emergency treatment. At that time, our family had to pass by his (referring to Wang Mousheng)'s doorstep, but when they (referring to Wang Mousheng and Wang Mou and father and son) heard that I had a heavy bleeding after giving birth, , they took the excuse that their family had just given birth and I was going to pass by unlucky, but they refused to let my stretcher pass by their house. Even if my husband knelt down and pleaded with them, it would not work. In desperation, my husband and I were bothered. My relatives had to put me on the ground through the roof of our house through the back wall, and then sent me to the hospital. You can judge. When my life was at stake, their father and son used to treat me so ruthlessly. How could I let the dead people in their house pass by our house? If the dead people in their house pass by our house, I would feel unlucky and unlucky. Now, they should open the road on the other end of their house and pass by the other end! "
After hearing what Zhang Moulian said, the villagers knew how the festival between the two families was caused.
According to a fellow villager at the scene, when Zhang Moulian refused to let Wang Mousheng's coffin pass, Wang Moulun and his family had to kneel down in front of Zhang Moulian. After being persuaded by everyone, Zhang Moulian took away his chair and Wang Mousheng's coffin passed smoothly. What is mentioned above in
is a general process of this event.
After the villagers truly understood the facts of this incident, the villagers also had a heated discussion.
Voice of fellow villagers
Voice of fellow villagers Tong: As the saying goes------Enemy should be resolved rather than formed. Of course, Wang Mousheng and Wang Mou did too much about what the father and son did before, but decades have passed since this matter, and Zhang Moulian's resentment should have disappeared. If Zhang Moulian always remembers this "revenge", I am afraid that the relationship between the two families will become more and more intense! After all, distant relatives cannot catch up with their close neighbors! It is better to be more harmonious between neighbors.
Villager Sun: Logically speaking, Wang Mousheng and Wang Mou took the blame for their own faults, and today's result is their past "retribution". However, Zhang Moulian should be more generous and don’t bother with their father and son. After all, he is a neighbor, and it is more important to establish a good relationship than anything else.
In short, there are a lot of discussions among the villagers.
Lao Hu’s viewpoint
Rural people have this saying: Only by not taking past grudges can you be clear and clear.
In rural areas, since villagers get along day and night, there will inevitably be one or another conflicts between people or households. Some conflicts should be related to a person's quality. If everyone in rural areas does not know to take a step back when encountering conflicts, then the conflicts between people or households will accumulate more and more, and eventually they will become "enemy" between each other.
As the saying goes: Take a step back and the sky is wide open. No matter who it is, you must learn to take a step back in the face of contradictions. Only in this way can the contradictions between each other be resolved. Otherwise, the conflict between people or households will never be resolved.
As Wang Mousheng and Wang Mou in this incident, they did a bit too much about their father and son. However, since many years have passed, Zhang Moulian has no need to care about their father and son. Besides, Wang Mousheng has passed away, why should the living beg for the dead?
Everyone said, right?
