I mustered up a lot of courage to speak out my family affairs. Such a thing is quite embarrassing. I dare not tell my friends, for fear of laughing at them.
I am 52 years old this year, and my husband is 54 years old. Our hometowns are both from the countryside. I have a low education, and I graduated from elementary school, and my husband is just a junior high school student.
When we were young, we opened a breakfast shop in our county town. At that time, the business was easy and we made some money. In order to support our two children to go to school, we worked every day when we got up early and went to bed late.
My husband is cooking in the kitchen. I asked the guests to collect money for cleaning at the front desk, and hired two clerks to help.
Although it is hard, the income is pretty good. I earned some money and bought a slightly larger house, which also supports my two children to go to college.
The boss is a son, he has been working, getting married and getting married. I gave birth to a grandson, and I am already 5 years old.
The second child is a daughter. After graduation, we went to Guangzhou. It was more than 700 kilometers away from home. We found a company to work, and our salary was good. We also found a partner and got married.
I just gave birth to a granddaughter for me last year and I am less than one year old.
The son-in-law is a child from a single-parent family. His mother died very early, so the burden of taking care of her granddaughter fell on me.
Since last year, I have been going to Guangzhou with my daughter, living here for a long time, helping them take care of their children.
The housing prices in Guangzhou are high and the consumption is also high. My daughter’s house is only a small two-bedroom house of more than 70 square meters. My husband doesn’t want to live there or stay with me at my daughter’s house. He wants to stay in the county town of our hometown.
Business has become increasingly difficult in recent years. In addition, due to the epidemic, fewer and fewer people come to eat. My husband and I closed the store three years ago. At least we won’t lose money, and there is no pressure on rent or employee wages.
I also have time to go to Guangzhou to help my daughter take care of her children.
My husband refused to go to the ground. He said that he would not go to the breakfast shop and then do other small businesses. At the beginning, he sold skewers, roasted cold noodles . Not many people came to eat, so he sold it for dozens of dollars a day.
Later, it switched to selling egg cakes, which was much better than selling skewers. There were more white-collar workers here, and my husband had been a breakfast chef for so many years, and his skills were also good.
Since we closed the store, my husband has made a small car and fumbled for a few months, and then he only sold egg cakes.
This way, you can make a living without any pressure.
I will go back once every six months, and at other times, we are separated from each other.
My daughter and son-in-law are quite filial. During the Spring Festival, I saw that the phone my husband used was older. The next day I ran out and bought him a new phone worth more than 6,000 yuan.
has many functions, large memory, and many software installed. He also teaches him to make videos, watch live broadcasts, and watch news.
Since he used that new phone, he has been playing with that phone all day long without letting go.
Who would have thought that he would actually play online dating?
How could I know that he was in an online relationship? Because I found that he always bought things online.
or not, buy everything.
laundry detergent, paper pumping, shampoo, and even fruits, he bought them when watching live broadcasts.
Nowadays, many young people buy online, which is normal.
But I don’t know how to do housework, not only to take care of the children, I also have to be busy with housework and wash clothes and cook for them. The children are very tired from working for a day, so I will do more work myself.
My husband likes to watch live broadcasts, and he really reaches that obsession.
In addition to going out to sell egg cakes, they just watch live broadcasts.
When he went out to set up a stall, he was busy in the morning and evening. There were no people at other times, so he was sitting there watching.
When you can't sleep at home at night, you can't watch the live broadcast.
Anyway, he was so fascinated when I was at home. If I was not at home, I would watch it regardless of day or night.
That day I came back from outside and my phone was out of power. I remembered to call my son, so I picked up my husband's phone. I thought I hadn't seen my son and grandson for a long time, so I wanted to have a video chat with them.
Unexpectedly, a text message came at this time. A message popped up at
saying that it was a pink sweet set you bought that has been signed for and received.
I felt very strange at that time. Over the years, I have bought all the clothes in our house, and I have bought them all, so it is even more impossible for him to buy them for me.
Besides, I am in my fifties, so it is impossible to wear a sweet pink suit.
After reading this message, I felt very uncomfortable.
I asked him who bought this sweet suit for, and he stared at him and said he didn't know, and the message was sent wrong.
just doesn't admit it.
I think this can't be wrong, and he often buys this and that online.
I said okay, then let’s send this mobile phone message to my son or daughter to check it out.
Let them check who bought it for and what's going on.
He saw that I was reluctant to give in and finally admitted it.
One night he couldn't sleep and entered a live broadcast room where a woman about 50 years old was looking for a partner in the live broadcast room, so he added someone else's WeChat.
He said he had never met that woman before, but just chatted online.
He told others that he was divorced, single, had a car and a house, and wanted to find a partner.
Isn’t this a lie to others?
This woman is not our local one. She is more than 200 kilometers in a nearby city.
I saw the photos sent by the woman to him, they were all show off their charm, and they were not serious at first glance.
She often watches shopping live broadcasts online, licking her face and asking my husband to buy this and that. The address of
was also sent to my husband, and I would buy something almost two or three days later.
I asked him how much he bought it in total, and he said he bought it for more than 8,000.
They only spent half a year to know each other, and they spent less than 10,000 yuan.
I have been married to my husband for thirty years, and he has not tried to buy anything for me, so much for a woman I have never met.
I don’t believe they have never seen it before. Besides, these two places are not too far away, and they arrive in two or three hours after driving.
I think since all the money has been spent, he voluntarily gave it to others, and he can't come back. Forget it from the past, this situation will never happen again in the future.
I asked him to delete that woman and stop contacting her.
He deleted all the contact information of the woman in front of me, WeChat ID, Douyin html No. 2, Kuaishou, Xiaohongshu. The mobile phone number has also been deleted.
I was worried about him. I returned to my daughter's house less than a month ago and came back to take a look.
found that he was secretly in contact with the woman again.
It used to be single card, but now it is dual card.
He bought another mobile phone number and applied for a new WeChat account to contact her, carrying me on his back and not letting me know.
I found out when he was sleeping at night.
And there are only a few contacts on his new WeChat account. They are all women.
, I must have seen one of them several times, and I have had dinner together, looking at the chat history, what to eat, where to eat, etc.
Since we have met, we can basically conclude that we have cheated.
I was so angry that I shivered all over after seeing it. This old guy didn't tell me the truth.
I suspected that he was still in contact with the woman he had said no, and applied for two WeChat accounts to facilitate watching videos. The reason I found in
is not convincing at all.
He said that the woman he is in contact now is someone else. He is bored to stay at home at night and is lonely alone, so he will talk about it. Meet occasionally for a meal.
Even if I am at home now and when I come back, he will hold the phone all day long to watch.
It takes only a few hours to sell egg cakes.
Sometimes when the control here is strict, the stall is not allowed.
Over the past year, he has never given me money, saying that he can earn more than 2,000 yuan a month by selling egg cakes. He heard from other snacks that the traffic here is usually not small, and he can earn at least 3,000 yuan a month. People have good business and can earn seven or 8,000 yuan a month.
asked him to follow me to his daughter's place, but he still didn't. Stick to stay here.
Want to tell your son and daughter, but they are afraid that they will worry.
I can't swallow this without telling the children.
I really can't make up my mind to divorce him. My thoughts are relatively traditional. I have never thought about looking for divorce again. At this age, I don’t want to make trouble.
What should I do if you say this situation?
My daughter’s financial conditions are limited and I can’t afford to hire a nanny. I still have to help her take care of the children.
My husband is here alone, and it is inevitable that he will make some troubles, which is really embarrassing.
